any advice for a new mom? i have a boyfriend who is the father of my son who works everyday and hasn't had a day off for months and doesnt help me at night with our son who is 5 weeks tomorrow. during the pregnancy everything was going fine i thought he would be supportive and helpful after our son was born as he was during the pregnancy but i was wrong i have tried to talk to him but he has this tenancy to shut people out if he gets bugged too much and hes already shut his father out about my situation with him on it and im just lost.
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I think if you're positioned good it should be ok.
@preemiemommy, should i be scared to have my son sleep on me while i accidentally fall alseep? Cuz my SO yells at me when i do it on accident. so i try no to. which makes is harder for him to stay asleep when i try to put him in his bassinet
Girl I feel you. Don't worry I promise it will get better. It's hard when you're so tired it hurts but that baby is worth all of it. When he falls asleep on me it makes my heart melt and I just position myself on the couch so that he can sleep on me while I nap. I hope you get a chance to nap or your SO can help :(
@preemiemommy, i feel so bad for you. it sucks that we dont get help from our SO. im so exhausted. yesterday i was awake with William and as mu boyfriend was getting ready for work i had asked him to ask his boss if there was a way that he could get a day off a week so that i can get some sleep. but im just waiting for him to talk to his boss about it. i get no help. my mom works third shift and she only helps me for a few minutes then leaves and william is still crying. im doing this all by myself and it sucks. I love my little boy so much but its just so hard to try to keep a clear head with him when ive only gotten a few hours of sleep
That's kind of exactly where I am now :/. During the pregnancy my husband was so supportive but the moment I went into labor everything changed. He doesn't help at all with Noah. He only holds him if I flat out say "here hold Noah so I can (do whatever I need to in that moment)." Even then the second I finish whatever it was he hands him back because he needs to do something :/ like seriously help me get some fucking sleep before I slit your throat. I go back to work today and I haven't slept longer than 2-3 hours at a time today. Yesterday Noah kept waking up every 45 minutes. I was so tired I was crying for help but nope :/. As crappy as it is, he may never help you like mine won't.. But that just means more bond for you & baby. My little guy knows it now if someone other than me holds him. Kind of makes me smile but then it's like please little guy let them hold you so I can have a nap. During the day we've worked out a routine so I do get a nap now. It just took time. I'm going to try to get him started on sleep training this week. I hope it works.
im on my maternity leave right now im 5 weeks into my 12 week fmla leave then i go back and i work second shift.
ok thank you @preemiemommy