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any advice for a new mom? i have a boyfriend who is the father of my son who works everyday and hasn't had a day off for…

any advice for a new mom? i have a boyfriend who is the father of my son who works everyday and hasn't had a day off for months and doesnt help me at night with our son who is 5 weeks tomorrow. during the pregnancy everything was going fine i thought he would be supportive and helpful after our son was born as he was during the pregnancy but i was wrong i have tried to talk to him but he has this tenancy to shut people out if he gets bugged too much and hes already shut his father out about my situation with him on it and im just lost.

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amaperalta03

Amanda

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Do you work too or a stay at home mom?

williamspoudmommy

kayla

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im on my maternity leave right now im 5 weeks into my 12 week fmla leave then i go back and i work second shift.

del_1546360853_niki664

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Awwww, I'm sorry to hear that! I wish I had some advice but I don't. I hope things get better for you! Prayers! 😇 And Congratulations! @kayla767

williamspoudmommy

kayla

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@niki664 thank you.

del_1546360853_niki664

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Your welcome! And sorry I can't help! @kayla767

williamspoudmommy

kayla

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its ok @niki664

preemiemommy

Emily

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That's kind of exactly where I am now :/. During the pregnancy my husband was so supportive but the moment I went into labor everything changed. He doesn't help at all with Noah. He only holds him if I flat out say "here hold Noah so I can (do whatever I need to in that moment)." Even then the second I finish whatever it was he hands him back because he needs to do something :/ like seriously help me get some fucking sleep before I slit your throat. I go back to work today and I haven't slept longer than 2-3 hours at a time today. Yesterday Noah kept waking up every 45 minutes. I was so tired I was crying for help but nope :/. As crappy as it is, he may never help you like mine won't.. But that just means more bond for you & baby. My little guy knows it now if someone other than me holds him. Kind of makes me smile but then it's like please little guy let them hold you so I can have a nap. During the day we've worked out a routine so I do get a nap now. It just took time. I'm going to try to get him started on sleep training this week. I hope it works.

williamspoudmommy

kayla

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@preemiemommy, i feel so bad for you. it sucks that we dont get help from our SO. im so exhausted. yesterday i was awake with William and as mu boyfriend was getting ready for work i had asked him to ask his boss if there was a way that he could get a day off a week so that i can get some sleep. but im just waiting for him to talk to his boss about it. i get no help. my mom works third shift and she only helps me for a few minutes then leaves and william is still crying. im doing this all by myself and it sucks. I love my little boy so much but its just so hard to try to keep a clear head with him when ive only gotten a few hours of sleep

preemiemommy

Emily

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Girl I feel you. Don't worry I promise it will get better. It's hard when you're so tired it hurts but that baby is worth all of it. When he falls asleep on me it makes my heart melt and I just position myself on the couch so that he can sleep on me while I nap. I hope you get a chance to nap or your SO can help :(

williamspoudmommy

kayla

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@preemiemommy, should i be scared to have my son sleep on me while i accidentally fall alseep? Cuz my SO yells at me when i do it on accident. so i try no to. which makes is harder for him to stay asleep when i try to put him in his bassinet

preemiemommy

Emily

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I think if you're positioned good it should be ok.

williamspoudmommy

kayla

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ok thank you @preemiemommy

Mommas who are separated from their childrens dad. If my sons father is to get our son every other Friday-Sunday, but…

Mommas who are separated from their childrens dad. If my sons father is to get our son every other Friday-Sunday, but then tells me halfway through the week he can't take him Friday until Saturday due to taking up an optional shift at work, can I legally tell him he either takes him Friday at his ordered time or doesn't get him? He's constantly cancelling whole weekends or taking our son a quarter of his ordered time. He also isn't following the meets on the order. Almost every Sunday he has him I get a message that he doesn't have a car so I have to get my son, or he tells me i have to run him out there. I'm already having cut hours at work and getting no child support from him since he's been continuously in and out of work.

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?