what I say still stands, you're not horrible. if your SO wants to keep going to her let him, unfortunately you can't control his feelings on the matter. I think men have a harder time handling the baby crying, I know mine does he too will give me shit if I "let her" cry longer than a min even when I'm dressing her he says I'm not being sensitive. I don't think men understand that all of our time is with the baby and sometimes it drives us nuts and we need that little bit of personal space.

she doesn't sleep with us at all never did. but fact she wakes up everytime I set her in bed n I get bitched at like how could I let her cry it gets exhasting especially since haven't had this problem before maybe when she was a newborn. but she's almost a year old @loveless

I co-sleep, it's not something we planned just naturally fell into, I love sleeping with my baby in my arms however there are nights I want to sleep how I want so bad (on my tummy) and ache for it. but then I remember that my daughter won't always want to sleep with me anymore nor call/seek out for me and she will tell me she wants to sleep in her own bed have her own space.. so I keep in mind that this is temporary and I will miss it when she wakes in the night to look for me. in my opinion there's nothing wrong with going to her every call but I also understand the need for your own space and it does not make you a bad mother.

@babylylasmommy, Oh my goodness no you're not. He can be a terrible parent when she cries horrible for toys when she gets older .. kids cry, you're letting her self soothe it's needed.

well what am I gonna do he goes in and grabs her if I don't driving me crazy @marinarose @kathale95

No you're not. I went through the same thing! Everytime my son would cry I would go pick him up and put him in the bed with me (that lasted until he was maybe 9 months old) then he learned that if he woke up and cried i would put him in the bed with me and it became a habit. I finally said enough is enough and let him cry himself to sleep, I followed the "cry it out method"routine and within a week he would just go to sleep. He is now one and goes to sleep on his own (with tv). It's nothing to feel bad about, I know hearing your baby crying for you hurts and makes you feel bad but it's best for them. If they don't learn now they will be 5 and sleeping in the bed with you.

Do not feel bad! Sometimes you have to. You are in no way a bad person or mother. I had to let my son cry it out a couple times. Don't let him make you feel bad.