ok ladies please give me your honest opinions. so i broke up with my childs father because he was so controlling and obsessive to the point where he git abusive with me so i tild him i had an abortion so he wouldn't stress me out or try and put his hsnds on me while i was pregnant. i wasnt going to tell him about her untill she was about 5 or he gets counseling but i talked with someone and i decided to tell him about her when shes 2 months so he gets to know her while shes young. hes coming down on the 18th next month and im trying to figure out should i just tell him now or wait till he comes over next month and he just finds out when he sees the baby
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oh my mom demanded she be there and my sis will be as well but thats never stopped him b4 i just don't know ehst to expect with him @nikjay2015
Tell him now over the phone before he comes and MAKE SURE someone is there with you when he's sees you and the baby. Do not allow him near you guys alone. Call a friend or close relative to be in the house with you.
Tell him now before he comes and have back up if you plan on meeting him in private ....in case of anything....but honestly do involve the police if you believe he will do something to you then or to your daughter ....he needs to understand why you kept it from him
i feel the same way but at the same time im paranoid because i dont want to tell him now and him try to think of some way to take her to hurt me because he really wanted this baby and hes the kind of person to try an hurt me so i can feel pain the way he did when i told him i had an abortion because he was crushed even though i didn't but i kept the pregnancy from him but he has done that b4 @emilyd @sktraum
Ya tell him now. Abusive men are unpredictable and a ticking time bomb. That'll give him time to blow off steam before he comes. I'm sure he's gunna be pissed so play ur cards safe and smart girl. Good luck.
This is a hell of a subject! If he is that violent, I understand you keeping the pregnancy from him. Its sad he had to miss out on the pregnancy because of his violent ways. Another thing you might be able to do if you have someone who is willing to, you can tell him now, and not be at the place where he is going to meet you, but me close by. And have someone else be there, they can see if he is mad and looks like he is gonna start something, and then you can have police accompany you in case of anything, and make sure to let him know you will be accompanied by police.