found out I was pregnant in January , he walked away in March, haven't seen him or gotten any support whole pregnancy. I decide to do the right thing and let him know when I was in labor. which was the night of September 2. he didn't show up and sends a message saying I have to work I'll see the baby on Monday. i delivered alone. no one in room except me and hospital staff ...smh . ok Monday came and went...nothing . no call no show. here it is damn near Thursday he just text "how is she doing " ..huh!!!?? wtf !!! I don't know how to respond or if I even should text back. and I feel he didn't show up to hospital so he wouldn't have to sign the papers. would I be wrong to just change my number and move on. I've been doing everything alone anyway
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lol girl my situation is the same. ..I never intended to be with him, much less get pregnant. I was tryin to get rid of his ass when I found out I was pregnant. but then I tried to make it.work and it didn't so I moved on before she could form a relationship. I have friends separating kids from fathers at 7 &8 years old and it causes so much unnecessary drama...
yea my gut is to walk away. we never had a relationship it's sad to say and please don't judge... but it almost like it was an extended one night stand. met in December got pregnant by that next month. I've never met any of his friends or family is doubt they even know my baby exist. I of course chose to keep my baby...I did struggle with that but she's so beautiful I'm glad I didn't get the abortion. that's good that your daughter has a connection with her extended family @newlywedmama21
and no he doesn't have a relationship with his.parents. ..they haven't seen him in years just like me..
I kept my number for a while...he called a few times when she was a baby but never when she was old enough to talk. he blamed everyone else for not seeing his kid but never did anything. told the court he wanted visitation but only "once a month for a few hours"...needless to say he never did that. meanwhile Im closer to his parents than my own! they've been there and supported my child and my entire new family. ...In happy without him and my daughter is blessed and Well taken care of. I wouldn't want him In her life now....she's good. it sounds like ur bd is not gonna wanna care where u live...so he probably won't go thru the courts. ..in that case he won't know your address. just do what u feel is best for you and baby. if u feel u are better off one way, go with ur gut @riahlala3
during this time I have changed jobs and moved into a new apartment. I don't want him knowing where I live now@newlywedmama21
@newlywedmama21, so he never tried to call or u just changed numbers
I would move on. If he can miss birth and almost a whole week, he doesn't care. he's gotta move mountains at this.point. my first child's father left when she was born so I left too...i left.the state. he has made zero attempts.to be In her life since and she is 7 now. I am married now and my daughter calls him daddy and probably wouldn't recognize her birth dad if he walked right up to her. . she lives a much better life without his childish ignorance
Girl I'm not sorry, that nxgga was sorry. My baby is more than happy here. She's loved && loves all. Nobody even knows outside of immediate family about her bio father @riahlala3
aww wow sorry to hear about that. yes, these children are wonderful. I'll just have to tell her the truth when it's time @ariliyahzihmommy3
Yes do him how he does you. He don't care, you shouldn't either. My oldest daughter is biologically my exs but bc he has never paid his CS or really given her much thought even when I kept trying to keep a relationship for them open..taking her down there, at one point stayed there 2 mos, sent pix, she had a birthday there but now I just don't have no ties with them.My bf && father to all my girls took her as his own bc he was there entire pregnancy, he doesn't mention her dad he doesn't even look at her as somebody else's and she knows about that family but doesn't speak or ask about them. She on her father's side is the only grandchild right now until his sister has her baby due March. She will not see them no more until she's old enough to chose for herself with good judgment if she wants to have them in her life. They sure are missing out on a wonderful girl, too bad. @riahlala3
I think of that too. But, I don't think she will hate you. You are only protecting her from being more hurt. Also it's not at all your fault! It's her moron dad that's been inactive in her life. Keep your head up :) everything in time will work out the way it's supposed to.
@ashipoo1, thank you. this is very tuff because I don't want to deal with the back and forth either. and everyone keeps saying get child support but again I'd rather not be bothered. I hope my daughter doesn't hate me later on when she ask about where is her dad and by that time I wouldn't know
Oh and I say this because I'm going through a similar situation. My son was 2 when his dad left us. He fled to Germany and has been trying to get in contact with him. He is now nearly 7 and he's autistic. So my son has no idea who he is. No point in having him in his life, especially so far away.
Wow. What a fuck face. This is a tuffy. I think that you shouldn't give him the time of the day. Set him straight. Say it's obvious that you have no time or desire to see your daughter. But if you come to me saying you want to see her and don't, then I don't want you around. It's no fair to our daughter for you to come in and out of her precious life. Our daughter will only be disappointed every time you cancel on her. Not good on her development... That's all I can think of right now, I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I hope whatever happens, that it's best for you and your baby girl! Good luck and I send my hugs
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