Exactly sometimes a painful event teaches us about a person and where we stand its both good and bad... just know that the man that is meant to be by urside will surprise you in the good way. and it will feel completely different.

@chibiytino, thank you, I'm definitely trying! @kandice_stedman86 , you're absolutely right. I feel like his actions said everything I needed to know and as hard as it will be, I know I have to let go completely and just focus on my lil one and myself...

I think its natural to have these feelings especially if yall are doing the back and forth thing. Take this as a learning experience...he wasnt there for u, u see that now use this to make decisions in your relationship as u move fwd.

stay strong for the little one :)

I believe that and cannot wait!!! Thanks so much girl!

im so happy to hear this..it takes baby steps sometimes

...when you finally get to see your little baby. ..now that will be the moment you come face to face with the true love of your life..but since that has not happened yet..you cling on to him...its understandable i promise..just know that when you see baby your mind and heart will change ..at some point if not soon.you will tell yourself,look at baby and say. "dont wory baby i can be mommy amd more than dad..i will always be here every second you need me..im gonna. do this for us just you amd me..we can do this!❤😙" dont worry baby mommys here..

Thank you so much @jazmin805, I agree with everything you said & would probably be giving the same advice. I honestly appreciate it. It takes hearing things from the outside sometimes but I know I need to let that go for myself and my baby...

this on and off thing ....im gonna be with you and baby ciz your my family..but then again(were not toghether) no its not a functional thing..either hes their to stay or hes not either hes gonna co parent or hes not..yea its easier saod than done but a man will only go as far and get away with what ever the woman is allowing him to..dont let your hormones get too crazy ..yea you feel like you need him right now ..need someone..but your the one who needs to be real with yourself..if hes gonna play games..put your foot down fimally and say "this is how its gonna be "

Our situation, unfortunately is sooo complicated bc we've still acted like a couple ... @davis41815 , I understand but he talks abt still loving me & wanting to be here for me & the baby no matter what bc "his family comes first". But this is like his actions definitely speaking louder than anything rn. Even though I said baby was fine...anything can change, you know!@jazmin805 , I've talked to him & told him, I know we aren't together so if he's talking or with someone just be real w/me abt it & we'll strictly co-parent. But uughhh....continuing to mess around w/him after the break up clearly made this situation alot worse bc putting my feelings aside is easier said then done for sure!

Sounds like if its not about the baby he dosent care...if he was to show up for YOU..well with all the emotions your feeling..you wow ld want him to be their. .like all the time not just for baby..and if hes with someone else...its understandable 100%

I am meaning after the child is born btw

If you aren't together then you can't really get upset with him. If y'all aren't going to be together then you have to learn to put your emotions aside and work together for the child (but I know pregnant ladies can be emotional lol so it's hard!)

**NOT BF, I meant BD (damn auto correct)