@lilfree16, that's an awesome idea, it's not cheesy. I've seen napkins engraved and they are a very good idea you should go for it and save a couple as a souvenir. 😉

@selene_drt yeah when he stops working these doubles lol.. maybe i can get him to order the favors..its these champange flutes engraved..but idk if thats cheesy or not

@lilfree16, girl I was totally there, the whole RSVP thing is always stressing I get it the whole point of it is to have enough food, tables, chairs.... etc for your guest. it's so stressing when things get out of hands. I did most of it myself too and I had the stress of not being able to conceive I was about to go crazy. have a talk with your hubby so you can have everything you both want on your special day, 😊

@selene_drt thank you.. maybe i wrote the stat wrong.. but what happened was she rsvp'd he never told me.. now what has me worried is the other ppl that rsvp'd and he hasnt said anything.. he made invitations ..half assed them me and my mom had to send separate invites for my family.. all of his people that he personally invited HAVE NO IDEA WHERE THE RECEPTION IS.. and im trying to stress out.. it just keeps getting worse as the day progresses. all he cares about is paying for the venue and the church.. lol im doing most of it by myself..

@lakilucid, i think @lilfree16 knows what she's doing and I'm sure she wouldn't do anything to upset her husband. she's asking for advice about her RSVP not about marriage. Every person has a different way of dealing with things some stress some dont. she just wanted advice not people talking to her like she was a bad wife, we all have our issues in our marriages , SO we aren't the ones to judge her.

@babyjay414 calling me a bridezille because im nothing like that.. peole are telling me i need to be becauee im letting him make all the decisions... never said it was only me.. hes treating this wedding like its one of his events.. im treating like a wedding..

i didnt ask for for life advixe or you to tell me that my marriage isnt going to last over a fustration that he never handled his rsvp correctly.. nor do you know me.. the stress i do through personally..

Where did we call you names? cuz I'm pretty sure we didn't call names? and we just simply are saying stop thinking that a wedding ONLY involves you, getting married requires two people not one! you 2 are now a team and have to work as a team!

trust me when this wedding blows up in my face, which it will.. its going to be on me.. its going to be why didnt you take over why didnt you do more.. people are already saying it becaue hus family doesnt evem have all the address to the venues. @lakilucid i compromised by agreeing to the wedding.. again you dont know our relationship nor how we got t this point right now.. soo again take my status at face value..

@lakilucid you know nothing about me.. lol we didnt rush into this..

@babyjay414, thank you! its seriously ridiculous that the bride thinks its all about her all the time. its not just the brides wedding. it's the groom's as well. and you always plan ahead and order more than actually expected. that's planning 101. @selene_drt the thing is both parties must agree not just the bride. its is both of their wedding not just hers and not just his. if she is unwilling to compromise the marriage will not last period. people rush into marriage thinking its all rainbows and sunshine and the bride gets her way on everything. that's not the reality. marriage is hard. it requires sacrifice and compromise.

i made it work.. she apparently told him last month he never spoke to me about it.. now i have to only wonder who else has he told it told but has not told me to add in the count thats going to show up.. you can only take my status at face value.. if you dont know how difficult its been planning thia wedding or our relarionship dealing with our pregnancy and wedding.. you cant really call me names.. ask anyone and they say im the most unenthusiastic bride they ever met..

I'm a blunt bitch I know! @lilfree16

It's yours and your husbands! not just yours!!

@babyjay414 okay. your opinion...you dont need a wedding to get married.... so the whole why get married if you dont care about the wedding is irrelevant... my count is fine.. i can overreact if i want.. its my wedding..

@lilfree16,

Ok so @lakilucid has a good point you are seriously acting like a bridzilla, or a bride that's gone crazy! yes I understand that weddings are very expensive. but if you don't care about the wedding then why get married? I for example have been in multiple weddings and understand about the whole rsvp thing, but that's why you should do more plates then you have planned! or I for example I'm a country girl with a bf that is catholic, so there for if we get married we would have a curch wedding and then our dinner and reception would be at the farm in the summer more then likely, just to save on the money! so yes freaking out like you are is a little ridiculous.

yes talk to him so you can have your rsvps and your whole dinner come the way you want. I did the same, I didn't want to stress over people who didn't even bother to send their RSVP. everybody has the right to do whatever they want for their wedding NOT ALL marriages are the same. you do your thing girl ONLY YOU know what's best for your wedding. @lilfree16

if worse comes to worse make her stand if she and hubby insist on her coming.

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go talk to hubby. trust me. you don't want a ticked of wife and husband at the altar over a wedding detail gone wrong.

you are acting like a bridezilla. its his wedding too. not just yours. and if you don't care why get married to the man? just because he proposed doesn't give you the right to tell him who he can and cannot invite to his wedding. I understand your frustrations but you should always plan for extras. and this whole I paid for it thing won't fly in a marriage. you do things equally. I'm telling you from experience. you need to have this talk with your husband. and by talk I mean talk not forbid the guest. see his point of view as well. it isn't just about you. I'm sorry if this is harsh but its the cold hard truth. you have to compromise with him. if he wants this person there he has that right but he should take responsibility. even if he just goes and gets food city chicken or something.

@countrymama2015 imma have to see how it works out.. but i am gonna tell her i stopped counting Sunday and if theres room i can seat her

@lakilucid yeah i did that..and thats where the extra plates i already ordered came in.. if he sent it out to one... i know he is still sending it out to others.. i already have to redo my count.. it just pisses me off..dont know how many tables ill need..

Maybe they can still go to the reception just after dinner

u dont get it.. hes not paying for the food.. i am.. the whole expense is mine....

its still also his special day and if he wants this person there he can have her there unless there is a personal reason like an ex gf. he just has to cover her part or she does. not everyone will eat at a wedding trust me. also another rule is you ALWAYS tell the caterer more than you plan to have just in case this happens.

@lakilucid lol im no where near a bridezilla.. i can care less about this wedding.. but since im the one thats footing the bill.. yeah i have rhe right to be cheesed off

He shouldn't be sending more rsvps if it's past the due date. Just talk to him and let him know that there was a certain day because of cater and see if you can get a day or two more to make sure who else would be going after that don't allow anymore. Just talk to him c:

@lakilucid you can think I'm wrong, but its annoying when he has no consideration to my bank account and my list..

@countrymama2015 exactly my point lol im paying for the catering.. every 3 tables i have to pay for an additonal server.. and rhe hall only holds but soo many its small.. bad enough he didnt send out rsvps according to list ..he got suckered into inviting ppl .. then handed out plus ones like it was nothing.. mind the place only hold 180.. never counted his family until his mom told me the rsvp ahe had.. and most of them werenr even on the invite list.. but i made an exceprion because it was on time..

once again marriage is a partnership! there is no I paid for this or he paid for that. you do it TOGETHER. that's the entire point of marriage.

considering its also his wedding if he wants extra guests let him have them. just make him aware he will have to pay the difference to the caterer or buy their food.

nope not wrong!:)

its his as well. stop being a bridezilla.

no it is not just your wedding. how bloody selfish are you?

soo im wrong for sticking to my budget and the rules of my caterer but he can send invites out until the day of and im just supposed to pay for it... yeah ok

don't ask for advice then try to rationalize it. sorry I'm blunt. its his wedding too and you need to respect that fact.

No your aren't wrong especially because you have to give the cater a final number by a certain date. It'd always a Hassel trying to add people who didn't have the Courtesy to rsvp by the certain date you gave them

@lakilucid yes it is MY wedding.. we had a date.. to stop raking rsvps.. she isnt going to eat then

you asked if it was wrong of you and yes it is.

its his right.

no it isn't just your wedding. its his as well. his guests have every right to be there. stop being selfish. if you are already doing this stuff then you need to think longer about getting married. its a partnership.

@lakilucid and he made sure his friend had rsvp before his family... they all did what they needed but he is still sending out rsvp

there is no I pay for this or he pays for that. you are a team now.

its my wedding.. she isn't his family....

that's a bit harsh. his family deserves to be there too. it isn't only your baby.