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Okay guys. My biggest issue seems to be letting go. I hold onto a very bad past that happened between my current…

Okay guys.

My biggest issue seems to be letting go. I hold onto a very bad past that happened between my current significant and I. I don't know why but every time we fight or argue, I resort back to the past and everything he's done. It's not healthy. And I know I'm wrong in doing it. But I still do. Any ideas on how to just let it all go?

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krystlpaws

Marilynn Rogers

If the situation is as bad as for you to bring it up all the time.. keep doing it, kuz somethings arent forgiven until it has been and then you wont have to bring it up anymorr

missing324user

missing324user

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Well, same thing with me. But my husband brings up my past mistakes when he gets angry. It was a complicated situation, but I cheated three years ago. Before living together, being married or having babies. I was young and it was a mistake. I've apologized a million times. But I honestly never think about it until he brings it up. So I think you should drop it and leave the past alone. It can only open old wounds.

id9564547

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Who would you be without your sad story about the past?

oliviasmommy0927

Samantha Carrico

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@gabriellamomof3 I've been through a similar situation with my SO, I bring up the past A LOT! But I've learned that bringing up the past just causes even bigger problems and that you can't live in the past you can only live for now and what the future holds... My best advice would be to try to let it go, what helped me was knowing that I can't change anything and I confronted him one night on all the bs from the past and asked for answers on why he did what he did it really helped with me moving on... I hope it helps!!

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?

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