Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Trigger. Lost baby Went in for my 20 week check up and found out our son had passed away. Nothing was wrong, my pregnancy has been going great. I'm so numb right now. I'll he delivering him later this week. I don't want to do this. I don't want to do this. Not before Christmas. How am I'm going to tell my kids?? My dear sweet baby boy. Why did this happen?
So over this feeling! Ever since I've had ds, OH and I have fought my mother on not wanting to give ds a dummy just cause we don't like them and find he self soothes. For the past three times my mother has had him, she has gone against our rule and given him a dummy and of course I spoke to her about it (that's all my knowledge on how many times she's done it). On Sunday we celebrated my stepfathers birthday and due to OH working I had to do it alone which isn't the thing that bothered me. The thing that bothered me was no matter what I said regarding ds I wasn't listened to. I told my mother to sit behind ds if she was going to sit him up on the floor as he hasn't got the whole balance thing down pact but she didn't and then ds falls and starts crying cause he hurt himself, I picked him up and my mother just came and took him off me! I told her he can't forward face yet as he is below the shoulder line in order to forward face but they did anyway. I get it's her first grandchild and she's excited but I never got to share the news about ds's first tooth or his first attempt at crawling to the family because she already done it. Yes I know, I probably sound petty asf! I had to repeatedly ask my mother to take me and ds home as he was tired and close to the over tired stage. On the way home ds fell asleep, luckily I was sitting beside him and looked at him cause he had fallen asleep and had his head facing down so I quickly grabbed his head and held it up till we got home.
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.
Who else has financial issues within their relationship?? Or am I just lucky 🙄🙄 Not sure if I'm being just mean or what. But my SO used $160 from me this morning. I gave him my bank card because he needed $60 to get material for work. His boss was going to give it back to him at the end of the day. So instead of $60 he took out $160. Which I was a little pissed. (One of the reasons I just can't let him use my card. I have to go get the money from the atm myself if I'm giving it to him) then, tonight he asked for $20 incase his boss didn't give it to him. So I gave him my card not even thinking because I had kids running around me. I asked if he could pick up a few things that were out of and told him he could use my card if he has too. And I even told him not to get the expensive brands or anything m generic is fine. So he does. But when he does he decides to go Easter shopping for the kids. (Not sure if he used to my card or not) but if he did, I'd be even more pissed. He knows I have bills to pay on top of giving my son's school money that I owe them. He goes to a private school and I haven't paid in 5 months. It's towards the end of school now so I need to pay it. He knows this month I am extremely tight because of the school, im already in debt and my credit score sucks. I have been trying not to get in more debt and actually fix my credit. I'm so frustrated. It's like we have different priorities and different ideas on this. I feel like I'm completely drowning!!
Oshanna·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
Awe it's nice to have some support for you ladies ☺️ @aggiee @lizabeth it seems like I have no family or friends to talk to these days :(
Aggie E·
what she said ^ :)
lizabeth·
Мама двоих (4 года, 10 лет), ждёт третьего
@beautifuldisaster thank you and so are you .. i know that we don't really know each other but if your feeling down or anything and want to talk I'm here 😊 i was suffering with anxiety and depression because of stress and didn't have anyone to talk to and i don't want to see you stress out so much that you develop these horrible things .
thankfully im getting better but please its better to talk about anything that bothers you or stresses you out 😘
Oshanna·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
Awe you ladies are super sweet and awesome ❤️ @lizabeth & @aggiee
lizabeth·
Мама двоих (4 года, 10 лет), ждёт третьего
Hey i just wanted to say that your not alone.. men can be very insensitive but the reality is that if we could trade places with them and they go through what we go through as a pregnant woman they would not be able to handle anything that we go through smh.
Just try your best not to let him get the best of you and your emotions its hard but you can do it 😉 ..
like @aggiee suggested write him a letter or send him a long text message while he is at work .
Either way, be strong, keep your head up and smile your blessed with a beautiful family that loves you and depends on you 💜💙💚💛❤ @beautifuldisaster
Aggie E·
of course sweetie... I know what its like being in that situation and its not healthy in anyway ... jus want tha best for ya
Oshanna·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
Thanks ☺️ @aggiee I really appreciate your positive comments they make me feel better 😊
Aggie E·
your a very strong woman and will be lots of help in your situation... you need to be happy and healthy for you and your lil babies... you deserve happiness Evan if it means walking away .. <3
Oshanna·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@aggiee, @brynsmommie Thank you Ladies so much ☺️ I'm honestly considering leaving him, I've just had enough. He makes me feel physically ill my body is hurting from all the stress and I know this is not good for my baby girl. I fear if I stay I'm going to end up miscarrying. He's just a really selfish man and so set in his ways he will never change. Everything is always about him. He's always #1 above everyone. It's very sad. Even if he knows he's done wrong he will never apologize. So I think it's best just to remove myself and my children from this situation.
Amber·
Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (6 нед.)
@aggiee, the letter thing is a really great idea! I've done it before with my husband and he actually responded really well....I think when they know you took the time to do something like that, it's meaningful to them!! Good luck @beautifuldisaster it's not fair and you don't deserve it!
Aggie E·
awe sweetie ... you should never ever go through that... I'm so sorry that your going through the mental emotional spiritual abuse from your SO .... its not fair at all... if he won't her you out.. maybe write him a letter letting him know how he is making you feel and give it to him or put in his pocket so he finds it... wish the best for you girl xo