So, I have this friend. She has a boyfriend and they have been together for over 5 years. they are both very good…

All she said is that she has men come over at night when hes at work to get freaky because she wants more sexual attention

I'd tell him. If that was happening to me, I'd want someone to tell me. Even if he thinks you're lying, he will more than likely confront her about it. I'm pretty sure he knows you wouldn't lie to him. Did she give you specifics on who she's been cheating with and where and stuff?

Yeah. I could talk to her about it too.

I was in a similar situation recently and I know it's probably childish but I downloaded a text app so I could text him and tell him without him knowing it was me and I told him I saw her car sitting at his friends house. she was cheating on him with his best friend and i couldn't not say something. I felt way too guilty.

I would talk to her about it. ask her why she is doing it. I don't think I've ever been cheated on but I have friends that have been and friends that have cheated and from that I learned that sometimes people start cheating right before they end the relationship. not saying that this is okay but to me it's not as bad as someone who is sleeping around with anybody and everybody while being in a relationship for no reason other than getting what they want out of them. I would tell her that if she doesn't want to be with him then she should end the relationship. and if she does she should really try and pay him more attention and lay off the side people.

Yea I've been cheated on too more than once and its such a bad feeling and he loves her, it's gonna devastate him.

I wouldn't get involved you might lose them both

Sorry your going through this. It's a tough decision to make. I guess I am for telling him if you had proof, because I have been cheated on.

@queendavis, eh. I know he won't believe a random person on Facebook. If I tell him I'll probably record her saying it and show him. I just hope that's the best thing to do here. I wouldn't feel like a good friend if I let him go about his day not knowing that he comes home In the morning and takes a nap in the same bed that she was getting freaky in with another guy, or two, or three. :/

I think the right thing to do is to tell him but in my experience I wouldn't because I've been in this situation before and I told the guy, and he didn't believe me whatsoever so then everyone started saying I was lying and it turned into a HUGE thing. It was alllll bad. Do you have any proof? Maybe make a fake Facebook and just anonymously message him?? That way your name doesn't get dragged into it.

Your husband? Another friend? Anyone who's willing to help just record is fine. I know some phones you can record while on the phone but idk what ones.. 😕 or you can buy a little recorder thing and do it yourself

@mommytomaximus, that's a good idea if I can get someone else to record it while I have her on speaker on my phone or something.

@danad269, I'd definitely want to know. But I have no proof that she said that. From his point of view I could be lieing and just trying to break them up. I don't wanna loose the friendship:/

I say try to record the conversation and then show her man..

nope no proof. It was said through a phone call.

Before you tell her. Ask her why she would. Get proof if you wanna tell him. Then he can't not believe you.

Or does she tell you this all in person?

Do you have any proof of her doing this? Like text messages or whatever?

It's just the two of them. I'm just worried about him not believing me because he really loves her and he thinks she loves him. I don't want him to think I'm just trying to ruin their relationship.

I think it if you were being cheated on. Would u want to know or let them just let you hang?

They have no kids.

@ariellarochelle, GOOD POINT. Never mind with my comment, I deleted, yeah would tell him. 💯

Wait, there's a child involved?

Tell him. If he's the father of her child then he deserves to know. If your friend knew your boyfriend was doing that, wouldn't you want her to tell you? Cheating is wrong no matter how you look at it. She would want you to tell her if it was him doing it. Do the right thing. Who cares if she gets mad?

I'm pretty close to them. I just don't wanna feel guilty when he comes crying telling me that he caught her and I could have warned him. Ya know

Honestly I'd keep it to yourself not really your place to tell him on less you are really close to him or something

Hmm how close are you to them?