So I found out my friend has herpes. She's known awhile and she's been around my baby since birth. Herpes is fatal to…

I know. I don't want nobody kissing him even on the hands @ginag918

@mdomke22,

I'm going too. She only got checked because she was really sick for a long time n she was still coming by. n she told me they said it was just a cold but she lied to me @kelseys

And the babies I read about that died from it from priest performing some circumcision ritual where they suck something from the penis and transmitted herpes to the infants and they died their body can't fight it off.

There is a shedding period in herpes where even if you are not having an out break you can still transmit it which is how a lot of people get and have it thru shedding as you would see and feel a herpes bump or lesion on you. I don't know how the herpes of the mouth works depends on the type but outbreaks can occur on other places besides your mouth like hands, legs, eyes, inside mouth etc. I think as a friend she should have told you and outbreak or not she shouldn't kiss your baby to be honest nobody but mom and dad should be kissing baby when it's new anyway in my opinion. But like 3 out of 5 ppl have herpes so you probably have a lot of ppl close to u who have it and don't know just be careful with your baby

I get cold sores but every time I have a fever.... but like a bad one cx that's not herpes tho? the doc would of told me?

@mdomke22, 👏 exactly!!! I had a vaginal birth an I shower with my child ever day! He's 2 and a half

hopefully she wasn't stupid enough to kiss your baby with cold sores in her mouth.

but still just to be safe, have the baby checked

oh I thought she just found out. but I still see why your mad but for some people it's uncomfortable to talk about or tell someone because it is personal and alot of people freak out when they know someone has it but as long as she was being careful with the baby is what really matters.

that could be it. and every baby is different. I rather be safe then sorry. @mdomke22

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well my sister must have had a strong ass immune system.

so a cold sore is herpes ?

She's had outbreaks . We shrugged them off as her just using people's stuff and getting a bump on her mouth. I didn't know. I don't stalk her when she has my baby. She could've. I don't know. I have the right to be mad if I chose too. it is fatal to babies. there immune system can't fight. you should educate yourself on how it relates to infants @mdomke22

as a person who has herpes....you should really educate yourself better on the topic. your baby cannot get it in any way unless she has an outbreak. and an outbreak is a cold sore on her mouth since you said she has type 1. do you know how many people get cold sores?? I have genital herpes and I gave birth to my daughter vaginally and she still doesn't have it. you do not need to be mad in any type of way. unless you saw a sore on her lip while she was kissing ur baby. I really wish people were educated on this topic better. people freak tf out when they hear herpes for no reason. and I really want to know how is it fatal to babies? my sister had an outbreak in her mouth (they run in my family. the mouth cold sores) when she was a baby and she's still alive.

&& that's all I'm saying. safe then sorry @renaldoswife

@kelseys,

I'm mad at the fact she's known for two month's now and only told me because I flat out ask her. I'm not over reacting. I don't even have much of reaction. except I need her to be more careful @hooper14

I would have been pissed at the fact that she was already around my baby for so long and didn't tell me sooner! Better safe then sorry.

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There are so many people who have it. You are over reacting completely!!!!!! There is no reason to be mad at this person for this. The person should bush up on some information. If she had a outbreak, knew it was a outbreak, then her doctor would have gave meds. An within a few days it clears up!!!

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my mil has cold sores which is a form of it and she kissed my babies I told her right away not to. like how stupid could you be baby's have died form it. I freaked out

I feel like If I was in your situation I would be mad but then not, just because she didn't know till she was tested, but that's just you trying to protect your baby, so I get it.

Lol. my husband. suspected it since awhile ago and limited contact. Thank God. I'm going to talk to her soon and I think my other friend got it from her. It's so much. I'm still in shock @danamarie

I always like to start the convos with a glass of wine and statement of "this is kind of awkward but..."

It's such a personal issue and I get that but I've seen her kiss my baby. It's her God child. Idk how to even bring it up again . now she's not touching the baby as much @danamarie

She doesn't have genital herpes. She has type one. She didn't get tested until after a month of my baby being born n she was always around. @kelseys

Oh damn girl. Yeah that's not cool. I think my blood would have been boiling for sure!

She has type 1 which can be spread through her saliva and my son cuts himself a lot with his nails. @danamarie

I got for some reason herpes on my lip the day my son was born. I put herpes creme and it didnt get to him, even though I kissed him many times before finding out it was herpes.

I think it all depends if your knowledgeable about herpes or not. if she has genital herpes then the baby can't get it unless she has sex with the baby, which obviously didn't happen, or she touched herself there while going to the bathroom, ect and didn't wash her hands and touched the baby. but if she has herpes on her mouth then I believe the baby could get it. but as long as she's constantly washing her hands before holding the baby, he should be fine. in my opinion, I wouldn't make a big deal because, more people than you think has herpes, and it isn't that harmful. many parents don't know they have it and pass it to their children, causing their children to pass it to others while in daycare, school, ect. Honestly, I got GH from my husband, he's had it since he was a teenager, and our kids are fine, we just have to clean the toilet everytime were done using it, wash our hands, use hand sanatizer after, don't mix our clothes, have separate towels. but I understand where your coming from if your upset because nobody wants their children to have something like that, but just to be on the safe side, have the baby checked.

@blackjbutterfly14, exactly! Like can't wash your mouth from that. I know the people who's gonna be around my little girl is mostly family and friends I've known for years and been close to so I'd know if they'd have anything. And almost anyone that's gonna be around my baby a lot HAS to get the tdap shot

Unless she has outbreak and your baby has an open wound (and she's not treating it) and somehow her herpes comes into contact - it's almost impossible to for the kids to get it. I'm sure that's what she was thinking but she should have been upfront. That said as a mother to be I wouldn't be happy but would definitely have a conversation, very long one at that with her. Good luck hopefully you can get it resolved and keep the friend despite the issue 😕

I was pissed. I was angry that she got it from her bf. She justifies it by I guess washing her hands but I'm pretty sure you've kissed my baby. I'm just over here like. Ima start enforcing harsher policies with my baby. @manders13

I'd be pissed honestly. No "friend" should ever keep that from you when you have a baby