anybody else like this? My husband family has always been very close and clingy and having like three houses on the same…

anybody else like this? My husband family has always been very close and clingy and having like three houses on the same land or three families in the same house n always got somebody doing something with them or for them. my family wasnt like that it was me my brothers and my parents and we looked forward to weekend visits with grandma or our cousins not with them every single day day in and day out. well when we got together and had our first we moved in with his family for a few months then moved back close to my family then eventually got us a trailer and moved onto his family property and was there for about 5 years or so And if we was living anywhere but by then they would freak out and cry And act like it was the end of the world. .well this past october we bought a house it's about 45 min away from his people and about an hour away from mine so it's perfect for me I love it because I can't stand to be around people for too long. they've come to accept that we are not going to stay up under them all the time but now (baby number 3) there's a few ppl in his family that getting upset cuz I dont want anybody coming and staying at my house when baby is born. they want to come stay a week or so to "help" me. . but I don't need help, yes my husband works and I'll have three kids one who's in school and I'll be doing alot but that's my responsibility nobody else's and I have my own way of tending to my kids and cleaning my house and where stuff goes and how stuff gets done and I just don't want somebody else trying to do that. .I know I'd be running behind them cleaning something they didn't or telling them They doing it wrong. .. idk im weird like that when I come home I want my kids and my husband only. maybe after a week or so they can visit for a day but that's it I can't take more than that. .. is that wrong? am I hateful? I just don't know. ... sorry for the long post. .