Конференция с учителем: как всё плохо прошло?

definitely gettin another option on her sleep. it's not that it scares me well i guess it does cause i'm scared Jerri going to be completely upset about it and just feel like i failed as a mom.

and at home we go over her papers she does in her class she goes to get help with what she's behind and homework i kinda play dumb and act like i don't know it so she can show me how it's done and explain it best she can. which makes me confused because it seems like she's doing great compared to when she first started she has learned so much so was shocked when she talked about holding her back.

@beautiful_disaster, so your not failing as a mom as long as your trying. Every kid is different.

Just keep seeing her progression not what’s wrong.

See Jerri her brain goes 9,000 mph she can't slow down which i think has a lot to do with her not sleeping. When i brought it up to her doctor she just told me that was normal for her age and dismissed because i had noticed when i did try homeschooling her and even with just everyday things she just can't focus good and we've been dealing with the no sleep issue for about 3 years now but i thought it was maybe just because mama was trying to teacher her she would do better in school but seeing that's not the case so now i know we need to get a second opinion

@beautiful_disaster

Maybe get her into therapy for the behavioral issues and definitely get a second opinion on the sleep issues.

If shes not getting enough sleep it definitely makes things worse

I also noticed with Aubrey melatonin made her worse. She started having nightmares

i hear you on the husband thing but i don't think there is a way for him to cut down his hours like next month they have him on night shift for a year (10pm-7am) and i'm not trying to sound ungrateful cause i know he works to keep a roof over our heads get the things we need etc. but i'm hoping his hours the rest of the month will be better now that inventory over. we talked last night after he got home.

She usually goes to bed around 7-7:30 we've tried adjusting it to see if it would help and she still only sleeps few hours she usually gets up between 12am-2am.

I can't remember the cut off but her birthday is in December so i know she has a late birthday her teacher did mention that kids with late birthdays usually get held back but said Jerri was right on the line for having her birthday late.

I also spoke to my MIL last night about it she assured me we would figure out what's going on get her a IEP if needed or do whatever we have to do to find her extra help and find the cause for her not sleeping or focusing in school. she suppose to come over today talk more to me when Jerri is in school cause i told her i didn't want Jerri know about them talking about holding her back cause i feel like it'll make it worse.

I’d also maybe email the principal and tell them how you feel and say you’ve asked for solutions and other things to be told it’s all on you. See what they say.

@whereswaldo, i'm really thinking about taking her to a different doctor and explain what's going on that's she having problems focusing in school they're talking about holding her back because she's behind and we need to find a solution. because i don't know if it's her not sleeping that causing issues or that she has a hard time focusing. and i never went to prek either and i mean i'm not the smartest person but it wouldn't make any difference if i did or didn't. and Jerri has this app she plays that does lessons i try my best to go over the stuff she sends home etc. but i'm only one person who trying to do it all.

@beautiful_disaster, you’re doing what you can and that’s ok. Sleep is crucial. I would definitely seek another opinion. Very few of us function at top peak performance after a few days of crummy sleep let alone years. Don’t beat yourself up. She’ll be ok. I promise.

@beautiful_disaster, I think by putting the sad faces in the folder is the teacher letting you know she had a bad day and maybe is expecting a call from you? I do think she should’ve reached out sooner if she’s worried about advancing to the next grade. Try to work with the school and ask how you can help her better at home. It definitely sucks being a single parent and I only have one to parent but you have to advocate for her with this. Even if that means putting the two little ones in a program for a few hours a week to give her the extra help.

@momgroupreject, they have a certain face for "call parents" which she has never got and of course i get we all have bad days she's not going to have green 24/7 but it would've been nice to know this when the teacher noticed the change and called to let me know so a game plan could be made not you have to work with her or she's going to be held back.

@beautiful_disaster, maybe they’re suggesting working with her in terms of her sleep issues? You obviously know there is an issue at home so maybe that’s what she means. I agree with another commenter who said to reach out higher up. But you have to also make changes on your end. None of us are perfect parents by any means! We all need help sometimes. So I really suggest to book her the soonest doctors appt and a meeting with the principal or counselor ASAP. Maybe everyone needs to change some things. Don’t shut down any of their suggestions or make an excuse for why things can’t happen, try to be open and make arrangements for her to get extra help. I think talking to her dr about the sleep in a more serious manner will be beneficial, there could be an underlying issue and if she has an IEP in school due to an underlying issue, it may be easier for her to succeed. The communication on both sides def needs improvement but it’s not super fair to consider yourself a single parent when you have a husband and I say this with the utmost respect for what you have going on. Your husband needs to help too. Even if that means changing jobs, working less hours, or hiring someone to babysit while you sort Jerri’s things out.

she's always had problems sleeping and melatonin works but it doesn't keep her asleep so she gets so worn out that she gets cranky she acts out like we all do when we are tired and that's what i told the teacher that we've been having problems

with her sleeping and that's usually when she acts up like we've learned to tell when she hasn't slept good cause she's cranky. so she's had a few bad faces when for months she never had any all green and the teacher noticed she's starting to get in trouble a little more and of course i told her that since they are able to move back up to green on their behavior chart if they start acting right or whatever i don't know she's acting up except for when the teacher actually puts a bad colored face in her folder. she's having problems with math and reading which she goes to a class every day for 45 mins to get extra help and it is helping cause i can see a big change in her knowledge and they do test every month on them to see where her progress is going well it was going up then started falling back down which is fine we all have our high and low moments. but for the teacher to tell me she should've went to pre-k cause she's acting up and behind and i need to work with her or she will be held back just made me loose it it made the weight on my shoulders even heavier i'm doing the best i can pretty much as a single mom (no nothing going on with my marriage we're great he's just been work 12+ hour shifts) trying to take care of kids doing everything around the house trying to be there for my MIL and trying to get my own school work done. also fist bump to all the single moms i don't know how y'all do it i don't know how y'all keep it together cause i'm over drowning and ain't even single mom 😣 sorry so long hope all makes sense 🤦🏻‍♀️

it's oh she should've went to pre k that's why she's behind and now it's if you don't work with her she's going to be held back feel like it's my fault and im failing

@beautiful_disaster lynnie was supposed to do pre-k this year and kindergarten next but our church academy don't have pre-k so we just started her with her doing it again next year always as an option. If she needs to be held back, that will be ok with us. She is very smart but struggling on her reading. Try not to worry so much, just as long as you know you're doing your best, that's all that matters❤️