You can NOT/should NOT be a stay at home mom if your spouse does not have a STABLE JOB/CAREER that can afford to cover ALLLL BILLS & RENT/MORTGAGE 🗣🗣 esp if you constantly complain about being behind on payments 🙄 UM get yo ass up and get a PT JOB to help with the bills and stop making excuses. Work opposite schedules so daycare is not a problem. Idc I said what I said. And never rely 100% on a man anyways... I can’t believe how many ppl on here that has never had a job, no bank account, no license or car, no savings, nothing to fall back on if things go south with their partner. I can not. RANT OVER.
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@kx2girlmommy, this post is one of the best I have seen in my 3yrs on here ,many know I was a teen mom at 16,I made no excuses not to graduate early hs ,have my own place & be independent from a young age “WIth or Without a man “All women should have their own bank& emergency funds &NOT depend on a man or their parent’s ! And women should want to work &learn to be in control of their own finances not every spouse in these 1 income families knows how to budget and this isn’t 1920 “1 income doesn’t cut it in 2020
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Agree! But at the same time I can see some special needs moms really needing to. One of mine is autistic and my husband and I work opposite schedules, I reduced my hours to part time, because it truly is hard- especially with all the therapies and now schools being closed! Also some kids or their parents have terminal illnesses and that’s another reason I can understand. If you don’t have family around it can be extremely difficult to find appropriate care for our special needs kids and working opposite schedules isn’t always possible (thankful it works for us)!
BUT I think a lot of moms could do side jobs like drive for Uber or Postmates when their partner is home or be paid to take other kids to school or look after another child.
This hit the nail on the head you live and you learn. Four years ago I was in a abusive relationship with no back up plan. Eventually he beat me bad and we had to move. I went from couch surfing with my kids, and having to put our belongings in the only available space a kitchen cabinet. It’s embarrassing to say . To a steady job. There was days were I just wanted to cry from all the pressure. I kept pushing on though. I went from a unarmed security guard,to a armed security guard, to the security dispatcher. We no longer sleep on floors and couches, we have dressers for our clothes, we have a car now, we have a apartment we call home. I now I’m late to the post but I just had to get that out.
That is wonderful!! You live and you learn and I’m glad you overcame all the struggles. It’s always greater later if you keep pushing!!
Yes ! I’ve helped him a lot during this crisis.
But that’s just what we do. I fall back on him while he falls back on me, our kids and bills are always taken care of.
Aaaaaammmeeennnnnn 🙏🏽 so many complains about their husband not making enough or that they are short on money but he wants to get himself a little something well guess what he fuckin works hard so yes hes allowed to freakin buy himself a little something he worked hard for it ,,soo if you are short on money than make some too it goes both ways!!!!! We are raising 4 kids im a nurse hes a sailor and we found a way to make everything work plus we get to spend time with our kids (yes now because of the covid its harder for me but normally no) to many complains but dont do nothing to help...!!
My man helps support but I've never relied on him. We both make our own money. Women in my family always relied on the men but I can at least say they always paid their bills. I have a aunt though who constantly complains about being broke. Her bf did make good money but he lost his job back in December. She complained about being broke before that though. Ive said a hundred times get a job. They have no kids or anything so theirs no excuse.
Thank you
& thank you :) we do that over here. I work at night. He work in the morning.. bam. Bill's paid 😁😁😁👍
And the craziest part is females like that always think they won't survive without a man
@kx2girlmommy, I’d leave my husband in a heartbeat if he cheated or abused me or my kids.
@forever_outnumbered, same here. I’d be homeless before I suffer in a relationship like that esp kids seeing that 🤷🏾♀️
@kx2girlmommy preach mama :) shit idgaf.i totally agree.. it's like helllllloooooo get up and show ur kids independence .especially that I have 2 lil grls. I would hate for them to think depending on a man is what u do.. cuz hell no! U got it girl xoxox this came from a right place. Thanks grl
Good post
i have lots of coworkers that i work with always saying i don’t need this job i don’t need to work. umm 🤔 i see the car your driving and we’re your living and you don’t have a savings or a retirement account so yeah boo boo you need to work.
Where the share button at when you need it 😩😩
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I’ve always worked! Love working. Never mad excuses. ALWAYS your own as well as joint when in a relationship.
I agree with this 1000%! I’m a SAHM, but I have zero problem going to work to do what I need to do to make sure my family stays intact. My background is in nursing and medical office management so that’s not an issue. There’s always side hustles you can do at home to supplement your income. My Dad taught me to always make sure I had my own money regardless of what my man has going on, which means I hustle too regardless if I’m a SAHM or a nurse. I’m just a no excuses get your money right type of chick. You get a lot more done with actual action vs bitching, just saying.
I mean I have an education and all but I’ve nvr worked a real job but I have always had my own money to rely on but I do not mind working I plan to after my kids are all of skool age but with all that’s going on now idk
@kx2girlmommy, girl at the movies but tht was just cuz everyone else was lol just mabey to give u a lil more insight were kinda well off but I had the type of parents tht just gave me everything so they didn’t have to b bothered so yea...
@lou-lou27, lmao my first job was at the movie theater too lol. Well then...I mean if you are well off and got a saving account then you are good 🤣
@kx2girlmommy, lol I guess but that money I’ll tell ya don’t make up tht
You can depend on man....use his money not yours 😂😜. Put some of his money aside for you. Especially if you are cooking, cleaning and taking care of kids....PERIOD!
Recently had to go back because we couldn’t afford it. I also worked when my son was a newborn. I have no issues working just wish I didn’t hear stuff like “ you don’t actually take care of your kids though” literally my SIL told someone I worked with that she knew that I didn’t take care of my kid that my bf raised him!!! Excuse you how can he work and raise them but I can’t? My SIL’s are also the type to say “ my hubby won’t watch the kids” tho so they don’t like the fact that mine does lol their family has the whole men get catered to women do all the work thing going on smh
@kx2girlmommy, this post is one of the best I have seen in my 3yrs on here ,many know I was a teen mom at 16,I made no excuses not to graduate early hs ,have my own place & be independent from a young age “WIth or Without a man “All women should have their own bank& emergency funds &NOT depend on a man or their parent’s ! And women should want to work &learn to be in control of their own finances not every spouse in these 1 income families knows how to budget and this isn’t 1920 “1 income doesn’t cut it in 2020
I think a part of the problem is that people don't live below their means. No one is bank rolling and living the real housewives but a lot of people like to pretend they do. My husband makes six figures and we still go without because 1. We prioritize 2. We live in an area that is expensive as fuck and 3. I want enjoy my retirement...I'm not going to stay at home while my husband struggle and we live in poverty but pretend we can afford everything on social media. Women need to get their heads out of their asses
Gladly this was said. It trips me out how many people here don’t have a bank account or anything under their name or any credit score. Gladly, I’m a full time student with a part time job and my husband works more than full time. I hope to graduate by 2021 with my associates to be a pre school teacher.
If only it was that easy. There’s no way for me to get a part time job on opposite schedules because during harvest my husband works 7 days a week from 7am until 11pm or so. There’s no jobs out here that start that late and even if there was, how the hell would I function in the morning to take care of my kids? Some people don’t have a choice.
@forever_outnumbered i can understand that. She's got her own and watches some. 9 altogether.
@householdceo, holy heck 😵 I used to babysit when I was a single mom, but only had 2 of my own then and it was HARD. Can’t imagine doing it now that I have a whole damn sports team LMFAO
@forever_outnumbered Yea lol more power to her though. They do need the extra income though. 5 of them are hers.
And here I am trying to find a way around doctors orders so I can go back to work 🥴
I would like to add I’ve had these same exact comments said to me and I’m just looking at them like if you only knew and then once they find out they all just like stupid in the face like omg I didn’t know. Well of course you didn’t you don’t know me like that for me to tell you.
I 💯 percent agree! So many people are like how can you work with the virus going around. Let me just say this....I'm not paying my bills or putting food on my table for our 3 children by sitting at home. I have to make sure there well being is taken care of and there needs! I wish I could stay home but that's not reality!
and then ladies will be like “my husband won’t watch our kids while i work” girl W H A T.
My biggest pet peeve. Lol. I’ve had a couple of people tell me that and I just looked at them like they were crazy lol. You mean your husband won’t father his own kids??? Uhhh what
My uncle's like this. He's never worked but his lady had a good job and worked all the time. Yet he wouldn't keep his kids and my grandma did.
Than dump is ass i would say if u
He cant watch his own kids than boy bye lol
Agree! Whenever there is an “unpopular opinion” post, this is mine. Many of the households that are 1 income, should not be. They are living below the poverty line to be a sahm.
@ekko, ugh I see this so much and then it just becomes an expectation. 😩
@massgirl, You got it Girl! Everyone can do it, they just don’t want to. If I did it, I know anyone can! We got pregnant at 18, got married, moved out. I worked to put myself through school because I would have never depended on my husband to pay my way. I got pregnant every 2yrs like we wanted and got three Degree’s and had 6 kids all while I was getting those 3 Degrees! He got his degree as well. I am only 29 and have been working as a nurse for going on 7yrs. It was extremely hard and tedious but the reward of having a good career, working for it myself and being able to show my children that even though we started a family early, we had a plan and stuck to it!
Omg YESSS...grow up and on top of it stop having kids. Yes a child is a blessing but it's also another mouth to feed when you can barely feed the ones you have.
Is this who I think it's about 🤔🧐
I agree. Though, I don’t have my license because I can’t legally drive due to medical issues so I would have to work somewhere in walking distance. Luckily, we are stable enough for me to stay home.
BUT I also have a backup plan JUST IN CASE. I don’t understand the women who don’t, who just assume everything will be fine, forever.
You live and you learn 🙂
“You look too young to be a mom!”
Or how about …
“You have a BABY? No! You look like a baby yourself!”👶
Oh wait, here’s a good one …
“Are you the nanny, ooor … ?”
“No, yeah I’m his mom,” I’d reply. “Yes, I am young,” I’d agree.
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Agree! Whenever there is an “unpopular opinion” post, this is mine. Many of the households that are 1 income, should not be. They are living below the poverty line to be a sahm.