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I’m very bothered by the hospital I’m suppose to give birth at. Me and hubby went on a tour...which they were rude because I brought the kids..like yeah? I have two others I can’t just leave them at home 🙄🙄 anyways they seem pushy with a ton of them telling you what you need to be doing instead of asking the mother what she wants...they are 100% pushing breastfeeding and a poor lady said she doesn’t want to and was handed a crap ton of  pamphlets to educate her on benefits of breastfeeding 🙄 (I was annoyed for her), seems like a ton of touching will be going on which will drive my anxiety through the roof, the  lactation  consultant said she will show me personally what’s best on how to breast feed baby and example by grabbing breasts (again touching I don’t like) and they only allow 2 visitors at a time...like not expecting visitors since my family is so far away but really?? And seems like many unwanted people will be coming into my room after baby is born and I’m not a people person, I don’t like touching, it’s already a personal and vulnerable experience for me, and it seemed like they could careless and I’m stressed....I’m 30 weeks...less than 10 weeks and she will be here and I’m not comfortable with this hospital but very comfortable with my doctor so I don’t know what to do...
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I can understand why they don’t want kids on the tour during flu season. And most hospitals are required to give that information to mothers who choose to use formula or bottle feed it’s standard procedure.
You can refuse any of those things but they are required to offer those services.
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Did you verify that your kids could be in the room when you delivered? Idk what base you're at but I'm an ex navy wife and I remember one spouse ran into some trouble when she tried to bring in her toddler when she was delivering. She ended up having to call the ombudsman.
Like the other women said the hospital could've been a little more tactful about bringing the kids on the tour but ultimately the policies exist usually because one person ruined it for everyone else. They don't know that your children are 100% healthy. At the end of the day you have ten weeks to figure things out and at the end of it all you'll be able to have your baby home in no time.
I never planned on having my kids in the delivery room I’m talking about the mom and baby room...the after Kerr
@paigerue2013 sorry I was confused because you said you didn't want to leave the kids with strangers so I didn't assume you were solely talking about the after care*
I understand where your coming from though sometimes it’s not what you do but how you do it and try definitely could’ve handled themselves better hopefully it works out for you mama
As a mom of four, who does not know what to do if I go before my mom gets here. I can see you’re irritation. Because we don’t live on base or anything, but we don’t really have people either. So I am gonna have to talk to the doctor and hospital myself. Is it Tricare your with? If so may address you concern so you can go to a different hospital.
Yes I’m with tricare and I did they only cover incase of an emergency birth like if I was traveling but only in a certain amount of time cuz I was tempted to go to my home state and say we were visiting so I had my mom 😂
@paigerue2013, man I’m sorry!! Tricare sucks.
@armyvet-mom-of-5, I know 😭 but on post care is crap so o picked the off post and well what ever still better 😂
Here where I’ve delivered in ca they do have a limit on who can be in the room during birth after that they do limit to two people while they are getting you and baby situated and the normal process they do right after baby is done right after they move you to your post Partum room where you will stay until you go home you can have as many visitors as you want as long as they are quiet they do limit the children though during cold season so 14 and under can not access the maternity ward because it’s too risky
If I was a patient who just gave birth I wouldn’t be thrilled with children touring through the birthing center either, especially during cold and flu season. So I understand the hospital’s stance and attitude on that. Promoting and educating on breastfeeding is standard procedure these days.
They don’t need an attitude can be professional about it though 😐 like I get that....but I don’t have a sitter and they Ar near a military base they should understand and even the military spouse page said they have seen many tours where they bring kids and I got the kinds bitch lady everyone complains about so that was good to now
I mean they do have to educate on breastfeeding. But they shouldn’t have been rude. Ultimately when the time comes they can’t force breastfeeding. As far as touching I think you’re letting your anxiety get too much. If you don’t want a lactation consultant touching you tell them. They can’t force it. You said you won’t really be expecting visitors so I’m not sure why the 2 person limit is bothering you so much. It’s a very common rule especially with a lot
Of families waiting to have visitors until they get home. Overall I don’t think it’s much to stress about. When the time comes I’m sure it’ll be a lot better than you’re expecting.
@tobyisthescrantonstrangler, my old hospital didn’t have a limit on people and it’s not a birth photographer....and my kids are three and one why would I leave them with a steranger? I never heard of a hospital having a rule of how many people can be in a mom and baby room like ever and I even asked another mom group and my military spouse group and they said it’s a brand new rule at this hospital so 🤷🏼♀️
@paigerue2013, birth photographer or photographer you knew what I meant lol. I never said leave them with a stranger. I mean your husband stay with one in the waiting room and have the other child with you and the photographer in the room. I’m just saying calling and asking the hospital rules long before your tour would’ve helped.
@tobyisthescrantonstrangler, I did and asked for information like when I found out I was pregnant I had to wait till I was 28 weeks along to even do the tour and the tour has all the information I needed when I was on the phone when I scheduled it...it’s a new place and I’m a major planner so I started planning the day I found out I was pregnant they didn’t exactly give out information
Well I can’t think of a single hospital (and I’ve delivered at 4) that doesn’t want you to try breastfeeding. A lactation consultant will always stop buy. Again breastfeeded 4 kids and they still came by. They ask if you need help and if not they leave. I’m sure she isn’t going to go around touching your breast without consent. And as far as people coming in. Yea. It’s what happens. Between all the nurses, doctors, pediatrician, testing people, picture people. There’s always people. And delivering 3 babies in winter. They limit the number of visitors because of germs. They want to keep your baby and other patients safe. It all seems like normal things that you’d find at any hospital. You can either change doctors and hospitals or keep it the same. Not much of a choice you have
I mean this is my third kid I breastfed both but she told me I basically am stupid and don’t know what I am doing and will show me the right way like uh what? The hospital I delivered my boys at were AMAZING and made sure the moms concerns were addressed this hospital could care less
@paigerue2013, I’m not sure why she would say that not even seeing you nurse. That’s weird. But you can also tell them you don’t need help and they will let you alone.
@bigmama18, lord I hope 🙄 if not there might be some problems...
Tell them I don’t need help but thanks after I had my last one nobody asked me anything or tried to help they brought in the baby and. I left on day two it’s none of there business say I don’t need ppl telling me anything but thanks I literally put him on the boob and he just latched I know it’s not like that for everyone but if you don’t even want to don’t let them push shit on you go to a different hospital
My insurance is only covered at this hospital :( so I can’t switch :( I can’t even go back to my home state like I planned on because they refuse to cover me since my husband is here (military)...but Im hoping they will see me as an experienced mom and not push things on me it’ll freak me out! I have horrid anxiety...I’m off my
Meds because Of the pregnancy I love kt
Doctor though she reminds me of the one. I had with my boys so that gives me a positive
@paigerue2013, well you might have to get rude they sounds like idiots
as far as the coming inside the room non stop every hour or so.. it’s just bc they have to check up on baby and you. it’s only annoying when you’re trying to sleep and baby is asleep and they come in drawing blood(if they have to) or just to check up on baby/you.😭
also if you’re not comfortable with someone trying to help you with breastfeeding, if that’s the route you’re choosing to go.. you don’t have to have anyone touch you/help you.. express those concerns/feelings to nurses, lactation consultant and etc
I can understand why they don’t want kids on the tour during flu season. And most hospitals are required to give that information to mothers who choose to use formula or bottle feed it’s standard procedure.
You can refuse any of those things but they are required to offer those services.
We are a military family so sitters aren’t an option and I explained that and the lady rolled her eyes...my kids are 100% healthy I wouldn’t bring them somewhere if they weren’t nor did I want too jsut because it is flu season and a hospital is like a breeding ground for that lol
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Well I can’t think of a single hospital (and I’ve delivered at 4) that doesn’t want you to try breastfeeding. A lactation consultant will always stop buy. Again breastfeeded 4 kids and they still came by. They ask if you need help and if not they leave. I’m sure she isn’t going to go around touching your breast without consent. And as far as people coming in. Yea. It’s what happens. Between all the nurses, doctors, pediatrician, testing people, picture people. There’s always people. And delivering 3 babies in winter. They limit the number of visitors because of germs. They want to keep your baby and other patients safe. It all seems like normal things that you’d find at any hospital. You can either change doctors and hospitals or keep it the same. Not much of a choice you have