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pamelawife134
pamelawife134
Многодетная мама (7 детей)

Omg omg I swear i really need to slap some sense into my daughter!!

Omg omg I swear i really need to slap some sense into my daughter!!

She wants to get a car. The problem with that is she has no credit (and no DL). So she thinks that she and her boyfriend should get a car together.🤔🤔🤔

So we told her that the car is going to be in his name because she has no credit.

But let's just say "they" get the car

The insurance is going to be sky high in her name because she's only 20. (She says the insurance can be in his name)

She's going to need a down payment( she thinks she won't)

The car "they" want is $500 a month . ( she said they can split it)

Again, she doesn't have a DL

And what if he takes the car or decides not to pay.

So when we brought all these concerns up she says well its going to be my car. And if he gets mad he's leaving the car with me.

Basically he's using her to help pay for the car 🤦🤦🤦

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teresha_h

Teresha Hollis Мама дочки (1 год)

That’s never how it goes. I’m 22 and I use to think the same way

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mommyofanamarie

Alexa GuzmanМама дочки (1 год)

Sadly Here in texas u can buy a car without a license thats how sadly my immigrant husband did it and the insurance to they let us get insurance without a license

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no062014

NatashaМама дочки (1 год)

So I was 19 with no credit and no down payment when I got my first brand new off the lot car. I had what they called "virgin" credit. My insurance was only 68 a month but I had also taken a driver saftey course and had my license for 3 years prior.

So the down payment is here nor there. But actually getting a car and car insurance is the issue as here in NY you cant buy a new car or get car insurance without a dl

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sherrynygirl

sherry S

You definitely can’t buy a car without a valid driver license and car insurance either. I k ow this because I am 40 yrs old and my nephew works in a car dealership so I hear stories all the time of people w even a suspended license trying to buy a car ,yeah not happening

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del_1566752710_mommytoonico

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I don’t think you can buy a car without a driver license maybe it varies state by state buy my fiancé and I bought a car last year and they asked for both of our drivers license.

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singermom10

Allison Whitmire Многодетная мама (5 детей)

I believe the car dealership wanted my drivers license number when I bought my van. The insurance company definitely wanted it before they would insure me.

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pamelawife134

pamelawife134Многодетная мама (7 детей)

Right. We told her that. But she's going to to keep thinking that it's "their" car

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blueismycolor

Blue IsMyColorМама троих детей

She probably can’t even get insurance with no license. Most likely she won’t be able to get any financing with no credit or down payment so hopefully the problem will take care of itself when she sees all of this actually happen.

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pamelawife134

pamelawife134Многодетная мама (7 детей)

That would be great if it worked out like that

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sherrynygirl

sherry S

Tell her by law if you caught driving without a license you can get arrested “does she have a driving permit? She should not sign her name on anything if she has no job,no license ! To help her man pay this car ,should be a notary or something saying they’ll split it because,exactly what u mentioned if he stops paying they will still OWE on the car if he trying to use her as a co-signer she’ll be 💯 percent responsible

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pamelawife134

pamelawife134Многодетная мама (7 детей)

At this point it's all falling on closed ears. She knows everything because shes " grown" and we just don't want her to grow up and her bf has already done everything so she only listens to him

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westsidemomma

west side~mommaМама двоих (1 год, 2 года)

I drove till I was 28 without a drivers license 🤣😪 not saying it’s a good idea , but maybe start by raising money to actually buy a car instead of making payments and help her go get a license. And make sure it’s in her name lol

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pamelawife134

pamelawife134Многодетная мама (7 детей)

🤣🤣🤣 well didn't you get lucky.

But the issue with us helping her is she hasn't done anything she was supposed to. So she managed to save whatever she has now to get a car with him.

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westsidemomma

west side~mommaМама двоих (1 год, 2 года)

@pamelawife134, yeah I drive like a grandma lmao 😆 so I guess that’s why they have never bothered me haha

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rese

ReseМама дочки (6 лет), беременна (35 нед.)

Please please please intervine. Offer to help her get a car of her own after she gets her license (used, cheap even 😉) That does not sound like a good idea and the making of a huge lesson to learn. (Not being offensive) but if she's thinking like that at 20, the car is just the start 😩. I'm saying this as a 26 year old who had my daughter and all responsibilities at 20.

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rese

ReseМама дочки (6 лет), беременна (35 нед.)

@pamelawife134, dang. Well I mean... Like someone else said, you may have to let her take the fall. She'll learn then. I took some hits lol I was engaged to my child's father. Then another hit with getting married and divorced to someone else 🤷🏽‍♀️. 😂. I'm good now. Just took some years and trials lmao

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pamelawife134

pamelawife134Многодетная мама (7 детей)

@rese I know. I told her mama that. We need to just let her hit it because we have tried and tried

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rese

ReseМама дочки (6 лет), беременна (35 нед.)

@pamelawife134, yes. If you're spiritual, just pray on it and hope that the cards will fall in her favor (Not the way she intends lol)

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caffeinated.chaos

🤐Мама четверых детей

Does she plan to drive it without a license? Why not just get her license? All you can do, is give her your best advice, if she doesn’t listen... well then it’ll be a learning experience lol. 🤷🏻‍♀️😩🤦🏻‍♀️

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pamelawife134

pamelawife134Многодетная мама (7 детей)

She probably does, idk. She said she went yesterday but failed the test. And now today she is going to look at/ get a car. I know it's him pushing her to get the car

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bodybycheetos

BakingDaddy Мама двоих (2 года, 5 лет)

She has no business even trying to get a car without a DL to begin with.

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junesmommy_15

ChinaМама троих детей

And she would have that burden on herself. Sometimes we need to learn lessons, right?

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pamelawife134

pamelawife134Многодетная мама (7 детей)

You know its not easy to let them fall.

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junesmommy_15

ChinaМама троих детей

@pamelawife134 Yeah but you can't make them listen all the time. I am pretty sure it's not easy at all. What else can you do if you keep telling them what's best and they go against your will? Sounds like you've tried other options but she may just do what she wants

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