So we finally have another court hearing for my step son next Tuesday. My SO's lawyer requests that I be there. So I'm a little nervous because little man will only be 3 weeks old and he's EBF, he sometimes takes a bottle with BM. But I'll be somewhere I can't pump and my LO will have to go to a sitter.
Anyways, I need help. By Tuesday we have to have a list of reasons for the judge why my step son should live with us. I'm trying to think of everything that wont have me coming off rude. His mom tried to trick my SO into letting him go to this one private school for "free" after I did research, we found out it would not be free and my SO would be paying a lot of money for this school. He sits in a garage all day when he is with his mom and has no routine. Here, he attends a daycare that has preschool lessons, we have a set routine everyday, he has his new baby brother plus my other son, he's very well loved here, we're not trying to make him grow up too fast, we make sure he gets socialized (he seriously goes to the garage and sits in an office all day while his mom and grandparents work on vehicles. He's 4.), she refuses to take him to the daycare he attends when he's with us because "they'll give me dirty looks and be rude to me because I didnt send him there and you probably said so many bad things about me" (she says this when she isnt getting her way, she makes everything about her not my stepson). She's trying to take off to Mississppi with him all because her parents are selling their home and business and she only wants him here in the summer months (she lives with her parents and works for them).
@householdceo my SO actually has messages where she constantly sends my step son to us early because she can't handle him. We also have proof she doesn't contact my SO about any of his appts, does not inform us when he's sick before he comes here so we can make sure we have everything he needs, and we have proof he got ringworm at her home over 6 times and she wasn't properly treating it.
I think as long as you show that you want what is in the best interest for your stepson then the judge will see that. I think their main concern is the health and well-being of children. They don’t want to hear feelings and arguments. That might be why the judge gets frustrated with her side. Good luck ❤️
They more then likely won’t let her move but it’s not common for them to the father full custody without a good reason drugs violence abuse etc
@ejwsmomma120215, well I’m not sure good luck I’m just saying you guys may not like her and she may lie and mouth off but she’s his mother and still deserves rights
@boymom123 we're not trying to take rights. But we're trying to at least get 50/50 or primary to give my step son a more stable environment.
@ejwsmomma120215, you said in your post that you wanted for him to live with you guys that’s not 50/50 but I do agree 50/50 seems fair
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We went through this work my step daughter but her mom was hitting on her. We got custody but mainly because they found her mom guilty. You really have to show your looking in to the best interest for the child and think of anything and everything to make her look bad. If you have any proof that's better. We used text massages.Considering she's not abusing him or anything it maybe hard to actually get custody but maybe you can get more rights and things if that makes sense. Good luck.