I feel like I'm constantly ranting but this is the only place I can without someone running back to the ex. Today he…
I feel like I'm constantly ranting but this is the only place I can without someone running back to the ex.
Today he said he would come see her after work, we've argued all day but just dropped it as I was getting no where, 7pm comes along and I message him asking where is he as I need to get Noah bathed and all that and don't fancy him being up all night for him to reply he's not coming to see her unless he brings someone with him... what does he think I'm going to do I'm the one that's agreed for these stupid times and I had plans to sort upstairs out so he could sit with the kids on his own (he demanded this) but no apparently I'm some sort of psycho now 🙄 any excuse not to see her but all day he's been arguing over wanting to take Noah to the new girlfriends house.
How can you want one kid but not the other? Mind boggles.
Courtnie·
I wouldn’t let him have one child unless he has both when he’s the father to both kids 🤷🏼♀️xx
Abbi··
Мама двоих (младенец)
I've said this but now I'm a dick and a shit mum. I've said to keep violet with me till she's a bit older but he literally works 2 minutes from me so it's super easy just to pop in.
Courtnie··
that’s a piss take! I wouldn’t let him near the kids unless he’s willing to take both or see both at your house xx
Abby Rose⚘·
You know what hun, i wouldnt let him see the kids. I know his there dad and he has a right but the way his disrespecting you is awful! The kids dont deserve that! His so immature, he shouldnt even be taking them to his new girlfriends house. I would make him do it through court if he wants to see them! Xx
Abbi··
Мама двоих (младенец)
Ive told him to take me to court, and his response was well your lose so I hope your ready to pay the court fees. All because his new woman is loaded he using her money to scare me 🙄 a month they have known each other.
He really is immature, no matter how much I hate the man I'd never stop him coming to see the kids.
Hope he doesn't want to come see her is beyond me! She's so scrummy and cute xx
Abby Rose⚘··
let him do it! He wont get custody, all youve got to do is show proof of him not turning up and the way he talks to you! I know i dont know what goes on in his head but his loss hun xx
Abbi··
Мама двоих (младенец)
I've kept everything and if I've not screenshot it I can go back on messages l, he's only started bothering since he met this woman before that I had to force him to see Noah and he would only take him for like 4 hours or he would just not come so I've plenty of evidence to prove he's just a dick lol. It's really is!
Jessica-Louise ·
Мама троих детей
Go through court if he wants to be a dick it’s his own fault xx
Abbi··
Мама двоих (младенец)
Ive told him to lol. I've not stopped him coming he's just trying to have some sort of control over me but that stopped when I kicked him out lol x
Kelsey·
Мама сына-младенца
My advice would be stop arguing and entertaining him, when he asks to see them give him a time and if he doesnt turn up lock your door and that's that. Dont even bother texting him asking if hes coming, just get proper strict with it. I think all this arguing you two are doing is not solving anything. So yeah just literally dont talk about anything else with him than a time or day, if he sends you abusive texts just ignore. He will soon get the idea that his abuse isnt affecting you anymore.
As for taking him to his new girlfriends house dont feel pressured into it, shes nothing to do with the kids and should only be introduced when you're ready. xx
Abbi··
Мама двоих (младенец)
@kelseysym I agree he's took all the delight out of having a newborn all the happiness and made me feel terrible but thank you I'm going to give this a try and do it this way as I think it will be best for me 😊 xx
Kelsey··
Мама сына-младенца
Exactly concentrate on her for a bit and put him to the back of your mind! As I'm sure you know it goes way too fast she wont be newborn for long 😩 feel free to give me a message if he starts bothering you or you feel like you want to argue with him! Sometimes it helps when someone can calm you down and then you can think of the right response to stupid men! Xx
Abbi··
Мама двоих (младенец)
@kelseysym it really does! I will thank you! I think it's exactly what I needed to hear today so I can just get on with my day and have a good weekend. Xx