I broke down at my moms house today ... because of the debt we owe and Passover is coming and it’s a very expensive holiday ... it was just way too much .... my mom i guess told my brother that I’m suffering and he called me over and asked me why i didn’t just ask for help, and offered to help when i need it . And gave me basically 4K to help for the month and if i need more to ask ... now one thing about me , is that i will suffer silently and won’t ask for help.... I’ve always been that way. Deff thankful for my family atm.
I will start to do eBay too . I have stuff i can sell... anything to help out alittle help my husband ... whatever i can do.
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@mrsmord, everyone needs a budget. And if you cannot afford to pay rent or buy food... is it worth going into debt over things that are completely out of your budget??
I don’t enjoy waxing lol , but he wouldn’t let me stop . And i can’t have him turned off by me either .
I actually found a cheaper waxing place and closer so i can save money on gas and tolls . Since he wouldn’t want me to stop because of obvious reasons so I’m at least saving some
@mrsmord, that’s good at least LOL
I can’t imagine.
Have you considered pulling the boys from school until they’re kinder age to save money from that? My 4.5yr old has never attended a daycare/preschool bc I just felt like it was such a waste. I use our local libraries free play groups/music groups/science classes as his replacement & it doesn’t cost a thing. I also work with him about 2hrs a day at home with little workbooks from Amazon.
@ek_, that’s what we do. My oldest & youngest are in play group that is 3hrs long once a week that include a preschool schedule of play/craft/story/music/snack that’s free through our local library. We go the museum once a week. Go to music twice a week (free @ library). And science once a week (free @ library). My oldest does tball twice a week as well. And just from working with him on those workbooks & some homeschooling tips from experienced moms, he’s passed his age group in most things & has started working on 2nd grade curriculum books. At this point I think he’d be bored with pre-k. Lol And it was very little effort on my end, other than driving them places. Children absorb so much, so easily.
@ek_, yeah i just don’t have the energy and thank gd it’s once thing that we have covered
@love_linds, Right! It really doesn’t take much effort at all 😊
Your husband should help you prepare the home too it s never just one person s job holiday or not
How does your husband feel about you taking that money from your brother??
@phoebesmommy, we budget ourselves in the sense of extra things we don’t need . We discuss what we need and what we spend . And if we need something extra we see if we can cover it . But some things aren’t a choice and it’s isn’t cheap either . We will figure it out . We always do . The only thing we actually spend is waxing , otherwise it’s al things to live . If we happen to have extra then we either put it in the bank or pay whatever needs paying off .
@mrsmord, regardless, you can budget the things you “need” to live. You have time, start budgeting and planning out your groceries and meals.
I’m just saying, if this is something you continually talk and post about and you recently complained ab the lack of communication in your marriage... it’s time to buckle down and get to work.
The extra burden you can relieve from your husband by simple planning and thinking ahead can save you SO MUCH MONEY. I kid you not. It’s just being willing to live with less. If you’re not, then you’re most likely going to have to file bankruptcy one day OR you’re going to need thousands of dollars of help from family which is going to hurt your marriage even more obviously.
I know what you mean I’m invited every year to my kids father place for Passover and they want us to pay a lot of money because they gotta buy so much food
What an amazing brother you have ! Can I ask you were you hosting Passover at your home coming up? I know your planning to move as well soon and having a new baby soon too. The most important thing is your children are healthy and happy that’s priceless! You should focus on your little family and living by what your family needs .”needs and wants are different “ budgeting helps a lot . In many families for holidays everybody brings food and comes together as one . So your not overwhelmed doing it all alone. Maybe go over a plan with your husband to budget better . Daycares I know are costly too.
I’m not hosting it , it’s just Ganna be me my husband and kids . But i still need to buy a whole bunch of food and meat . And flip the kitchen.
@mrsmord, I rem for many yrs in Brooklyn they offer high holidays buffet at many centers for families at dif temples “it is a mitzvah to feed other’s so that is helpful to many families .
You have to flip ur entire kitchen , clean deep clean and rid ur house of things considered chometz which is bread and the like . Flour, wheat etc . There’s a lot to it and u have to buy new food for the kitchen ( things that are kosher for Passover ) it’s a lot .
Also your brother is the best!!!! Is he single and in his 40’s? I have a sister. Whose not Jewish 😆
@mrsmord, wellll that’s not happening 😆😆😆😆😆
@sweetsap, i landed me one without conversion 💁🏼♀️💁🏼♀️😆😆
Also as a Shiksa Passover is the worst holiday for me because I love kugel 😆😆
@mrsmord, I need to make some kugel. It’s been awhile.
Is it the food costs for Passover that’s worrying? I know cooking without grain is challenging for me on Passover. We only observe on high holidays, because I don’t know how I could (or afford) to keep kosher on the reg.
@mrsmord, so much medical debt before the ACA allowed us to get insurance for me
@mrsmord I have always been that way too.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
My dad doesn't think I can do this #need help.
what can I do to help my baby come faster she is getting too big for me to have I need her to come now
Overall whats everyones thoughts on this. Me personally I dont mind lgbt .but to teach it I feel like is a waste . I can teach my own children that if they ask or even wanna know
I get bothered at the fact that I ask for help/advice & no one reaches out. Yeah, I'm a new mom but when I see someone needs advice or help I often share my experiences and try to help in the best way possible. But hey, it's okay!
I can’t imagine.
Have you considered pulling the boys from school until they’re kinder age to save money from that? My 4.5yr old has never attended a daycare/preschool bc I just felt like it was such a waste. I use our local libraries free play groups/music groups/science classes as his replacement & it doesn’t cost a thing. I also work with him about 2hrs a day at home with little workbooks from Amazon.