Advice? I'm not really sure what to say and I'm trying not to be irritated. But I'm not sure how someone doesn't grasp…
Advice? I'm not really sure what to say and I'm trying not to be irritated. But I'm not sure how someone doesn't grasp that having a baby changes things and they require a lot of attention. I'm alone with her 95% of the time so when he is here for 2 days, i NEED to clean, do bills, get groceries, try to sleep so I stop hearing voices, etc. But he's a lot more emotional of a person than I am so I also get that he needs the touchiness
Don't forget about him. It's hard in the beginning. I get it. Maybe have somebody come over and watch her for a little while. So you guys can have some time. Babies are hard on a relationship no matter how strong.
This happened with me and my SO, I screwed up and let it keep going when I should of given them even amount of time instead of my 24/7 attention to my daughter because we’ve drifted apart now it feels like
😩 aw man! My little one is like that too buttt sometimes she loves to just be laying down in bed with mommy so it’s a bit of a break. I’m sorry , she just loves cuddles and being held. I take many laps around the house daily because that’s what she wants haha
I understand but he’s got a lot of feelings and emotions going on as well and he may need just that little bit of attention. Maybe snuggle and watch a movie together
I honestly wish my boyfriend would be like that and want time for just us and appreciate it but he's not like that.... I wouldn't avoid a good thing. Try to make a little time for him. When she takes her naps use that time.
You're lucky he's coming to you about this. Some men let it eat them up inside and dont say anything out of trying to show respect for you and the little one. And that's when bad things happen 😫 Does he want specifically cuddling? Because if he just wants time together, you can take a family walk with the baby strapped to your chest in those harness things and it will satisfy them both. Together time for him and the baby gets to be close to you too.
Who else has financial issues within their relationship?? Or am I just lucky 🙄🙄 Not sure if I'm being just mean or what. But my SO used $160 from me this morning. I gave him my bank card because he needed $60 to get material for work. His boss was going to give it back to him at the end of the day. So instead of $60 he took out $160. Which I was a little pissed. (One of the reasons I just can't let him use my card. I have to go get the money from the atm myself if I'm giving it to him) then, tonight he asked for $20 incase his boss didn't give it to him. So I gave him my card not even thinking because I had kids running around me. I asked if he could pick up a few things that were out of and told him he could use my card if he has too. And I even told him not to get the expensive brands or anything m generic is fine. So he does. But when he does he decides to go Easter shopping for the kids. (Not sure if he used to my card or not) but if he did, I'd be even more pissed. He knows I have bills to pay on top of giving my son's school money that I owe them. He goes to a private school and I haven't paid in 5 months. It's towards the end of school now so I need to pay it. He knows this month I am extremely tight because of the school, im already in debt and my credit score sucks. I have been trying not to get in more debt and actually fix my credit. I'm so frustrated. It's like we have different priorities and different ideas on this. I feel like I'm completely drowning!!
In need of a huge rant 🙄 I'm so fed up of people especially my ex's mom..she's basically said I got myself into this situation..I'm pretty sure I didn't get myself pregnant 😂😂😂😂
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Ashton·
Don't forget about him. It's hard in the beginning. I get it. Maybe have somebody come over and watch her for a little while. So you guys can have some time. Babies are hard on a relationship no matter how strong.
lexi··
I literally don't know anyone where I just moved 😅
Kasandra Featherston ·
This happened with me and my SO, I screwed up and let it keep going when I should of given them even amount of time instead of my 24/7 attention to my daughter because we’ve drifted apart now it feels like
Emily ·
So you can stop hearing voices?
Emily ··
@lexi.and.auri have you talked to anyone about that? Genuinely concerned.
lexi··
yeah I have a therapist and psych. It's not like schizophrenia voices. Just like I'll think she's crying when she isn't or something
Emily ··
thank you for clarifying! I was seriously concerned for a minute!
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Maybe when she needs to be held y’all can all lay in bed together and get that cuddling time in all at once.
lexi··
When she wants held she will notttt lay down. She needs to be walked or bounced
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😩 aw man! My little one is like that too buttt sometimes she loves to just be laying down in bed with mommy so it’s a bit of a break. I’m sorry , she just loves cuddles and being held. I take many laps around the house daily because that’s what she wants haha
Heather·
You gotta find time for him
lexi··
I tend to be turned off by it cuz he only ever wants to lay around the 2 days he is around and I just can't do nothing for 2 days
Heather··
I understand but he’s got a lot of feelings and emotions going on as well and he may need just that little bit of attention. Maybe snuggle and watch a movie together
lexi··
but then that brings me back to the problem of my daughter definitely not being willing to lay down alone that long
Allyson Almeda·
I honestly wish my boyfriend would be like that and want time for just us and appreciate it but he's not like that.... I wouldn't avoid a good thing. Try to make a little time for him. When she takes her naps use that time.
lexi··
She really doesn't nap unless she's being held 😅 that's a whole other issue in itself
Allyson Almeda··
well will she stay asleep if you gently put her down in a crib or bassinet, somewhere comfy for her?
lexi··
no :/ as soon as we lay her down she wakes up
fuckthesemororons·
Have you tried the rock n play?! It could really be helpful towards her napping on her own, fr, you can get it at Walmart
fuckthesemororons··
lexi··
@maidmomma, we have one but we'll be lucky to get 20 minutes tops out of it
fuckthesemororons··
oh darn..
Shannon·
You're lucky he's coming to you about this. Some men let it eat them up inside and dont say anything out of trying to show respect for you and the little one. And that's when bad things happen 😫 Does he want specifically cuddling? Because if he just wants time together, you can take a family walk with the baby strapped to your chest in those harness things and it will satisfy them both. Together time for him and the baby gets to be close to you too.