Ok girls! Sorry but a rant here and as usual please keep confidential

We have had issues similar to this but not the same... I found just sitting down and saying 'this upsets me, I wish you would listen, pay attention and not make it about you. Just nod or don't say anything if you don't know what to say.' actually worked.. X

Thanks, I did say it outright once when id ha enough but it didn't change :( I feel bad tho too cos he hasn't any family or friends here to talk to

My advice on point one: I've had this issue with my dh and my dh has had with me. We've gotten to the point where we've both said "I just want you to listen". We as humans tend to be "problem solvers" so it's hard to just listen. So now before I vent, I tell him "I'm just venting" and he'll just listen.... so maybe just communicate that to him before hand? When I do it to my husband it tends to be because he takes REALLY long to get to the point (I'll admit I'm not the most patient though lol). So if he spends 20 rambling I tend to cut him off and offer my solution to essentially end the convo that's not going anywhere. Which isn't fair to him at all, and I'm working on being more patient. I think we does this to me too when I'm just blabbing in nothing in particular lol. My advice would be to maybe be quick and to the point with what the problem is.

Advice on point two: i think this is a man thing. My brother would go through seasons where he would become "obsessed" with certain things and would ONLY talk about those things and nothing elSe. It drove me nuts growing up. My dh tends to do the same thing, he goes through his season and immerses himself into whatever is fancying him at that time....it drives me crazy too. I've learned over the years how to steer him in certain directions and topics that are more tolerable to me. But honestly sometimes we just have to "mhmm mhmm" along then move onto the next thing. If he starts getting really intense and debatable then I essentially get out of there quickly (go do laundry,take a shower, etc) . I know I can't change him, he is passionate about what he likes, as we all are in some way. 🤷‍♀️ I'm not into movies or gaming, but my dh is. But we do have common interests, camping, being outside etc, so I really try and put major focus on that when I can. I don't really have much advice and I am now kinda rambling, sorry lol. I don't know if anything is said helped, but I tried. Time for me to sleep lol 😂

Thanks. I don't know how it didn't work last time I said it outright

No it's ok thanks. It's just every other non movie topic or activity he always makes about movies. And there's no quiet time. It's almost constant movie talk in-between wherever little we manage to do non movie related. And I told him loads times too to keep his voice down cos he's really loud

It's not a regular thing focused on just one season, movie or franchise, but constant about all movies

Perhaps a reality check I agree with the others for number 1 and just say I need to talk and I need you to listen you need to hold your tongue. Second point I'd say to him imagine if all talk of anything movie related was banned what would you tall to me about?

I did this once when I realised me and my OH talk about work all the time and I found it so difficult sometimes to find another topic, I'd even start discussing the weather. But for him that might be his safety net, he knows it was a mutual thing in the beginning and therefore it's his go to

I think it's Asperger's as there are some matching signs