Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
** My unborn sons grandfather is trying to sleep with me** My babys dads father has been messaging me telling me how beautiful i am ect. I thought it was cause he knows ive been feeling down about myself lately during my pregnancy nd was trying to make me feel better. He told me he wanted to tell me something but couldnt because it would get him into trouble. I thought it was something his son said ( my babys dad ) so i told him to tell me. He told me he cant stop thinking about my lips, how he wants to kiss me and then he got very sexual with what he would like to do. I dont want to completley cut him out because he is my babys grandfather and I also dont want him to get mad at me and spread false information. I have all of the messages saved in case that does happen but I dont know what to do. Today he told me hes definetly going to sleep with me. Right now hes the only person I had for support during this pregnancy on my childs dads side of the family so im trying to tread lightly. If it was anyone else id tell them where to go. Someone please tell me how to handle this!!
Who else has financial issues within their relationship?? Or am I just lucky 🙄🙄 Not sure if I'm being just mean or what. But my SO used $160 from me this morning. I gave him my bank card because he needed $60 to get material for work. His boss was going to give it back to him at the end of the day. So instead of $60 he took out $160. Which I was a little pissed. (One of the reasons I just can't let him use my card. I have to go get the money from the atm myself if I'm giving it to him) then, tonight he asked for $20 incase his boss didn't give it to him. So I gave him my card not even thinking because I had kids running around me. I asked if he could pick up a few things that were out of and told him he could use my card if he has too. And I even told him not to get the expensive brands or anything m generic is fine. So he does. But when he does he decides to go Easter shopping for the kids. (Not sure if he used to my card or not) but if he did, I'd be even more pissed. He knows I have bills to pay on top of giving my son's school money that I owe them. He goes to a private school and I haven't paid in 5 months. It's towards the end of school now so I need to pay it. He knows this month I am extremely tight because of the school, im already in debt and my credit score sucks. I have been trying not to get in more debt and actually fix my credit. I'm so frustrated. It's like we have different priorities and different ideas on this. I feel like I'm completely drowning!!
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.
So last night my husband pretty much told me that if I don't have sex with him that he would cheat on me....I was like wtf. I was like you would seriously cheat on your pregnant wife?! I also told him that if he cheats on me I will NOT hesitate to file for divorce. I don't need my girls growing up thinking that cheating is ok. This was after we tried to have sex but it hurt too much so I told him to stop. When it comes to sex my husband only thinks about himself lately!!!! 😒😒😒😒
Yo mama·
Run. Run as fast as you can. Mfers unstable.
Queen Meeks·
Stop sleeping with him. Separate yourself from him unless it involves your child, there needs to be no other involvement. When your child arrives and you get settled, get yourself to the courthouse and get your custody and visitation paperwork filed to protect all parties involved. He’s toxic.
Robyn·
I'd separate myself from him ASAP! He's not stable with you and he won't be stable with the baby either.
Cmjohnson3047·
Yeah i agree stop having sex with him. It just confuses things. Set boundaries and be stern with him that if he's in love with someone else then he needs to have sex with that person instead of you. People are only gonna treat you how you allow them to treat you. Call and yall only about the baby and nothing more. And insist that he gets help for his mental health....Best of luck to you mama.
Sha·
Run. Run and don't look back.
cantdeletebutimgone·
Girl, hes gotta go. He sounds like a sociopath. He is not safe for you or your children regardless of if he is the father of one or not. All he is ever going to do is make you feel guilty about everything threaten to hurt himself when he doesn't get his way and he will never change you and your children will never be happy or safe
deleted-user·
stop sleeping with him, only be involved with him if it has to do with your child, also if he says he’s going to kill himself i would report that so he gets the help he needs. You need as much peace as you can get during your pregnancy and after of course.
Cams ·
If he will punch himself what would stop him from punching you, your son or the new baby? That’s a horrifying thought. RUN FAR, FAR AWAY!
Marilu·
I can say this, I seen red flags with my husband while we were dating but I justified every red flag. Now we’re married and I deal with things I shouldn’t be. He’s not physically abusive but he’s abusive in other ways (verbally, financially, etc)
IT IS NOT FUN!
This guy sounds very unstable and you definitely don’t want to be stuck with him later on. You don’t even have to give your child his last name.
Don’t be his booty call. You deserve more than that even if he is attending every appointment. Anyone suicidal needs help and when that baby gets here you don’t need that kind of negativity for you or the baby.
He’s manipulating you into doing whatever he wants by seeming attentive but he quickly turns on you the instant you don’t give in. My husband does this. it’s exhausting. Don’t commit to him.
Lizology27·
Girl... please stop sleeping with him. Please! I wouldn’t even communicate with his ass. If need be, I would get the courts involved. I mean his inflicting pain on to himself. He definitely would do the same to you and your babies. Pray the Lord gives you strength and wisdom to leave, not now... but RIGHT NOW