lizsouthwick
Liz Southwick ·Мама двоих (7 лет, 18 лет)
My older son hasn’t seen his dad in years. Often, I check in with him about if he would like to contact his dad.. My son has never said/shown interest in seeing him. His Dad has never tried contacting him either, zero efforts. He does see his dads side of his family though. Well recently his uncle told him his father is having a baby & that he’ll have another little brother... well, when my son told me this, he looked very sad. I asked him how he felt about it & he said he’s “mad because dad was never here for me & doesn’t try to see me, so I won’t even know the baby”. He continued saying,”he has never called or seen me even on my birthday, he’s replacing me.” 😰my heart broke!!! I’m really upset his uncle told him this without my knowledge & I’m really sad for my son. I didn’t know what to say.. of course I said no way honey you’re not replaceable!!.. but, I can see why he feels this way & idk what to do..how can I comfort him!?!
06.10.2018
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Colleen Stratton ·Мама четверых детей
@lizsouthwick, I can’t imagine how hard it is to hear your son going through the same pain you went through as a child. Know this, you are such a wonderful mama in that you have already planted the seeds of faith in his heart at such a young age. You can trust that God will make them grow in His perfect timing. He loves your boy even more than you do, so He will be faithful to protect his little heart and work this hard and sad experience together for his ultimate good!❤️
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@kerryy23, I know:/ poor dude.. his dad has really missed out on such an amazing boy..
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@kmsespy, so true! That’s a good way to put it, ty:)
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@joyfulmom, thank you! He said he’s not sad about the baby but that his dad didn’t do anything with or for him. And because that is true, I only said but you’ve never been without & you’re loved so much.. he said because you’re the best mom ❤️ so that made me feel good & he felt a little better too I think at least it comforted him a little
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💔all I’d know how to do is hold my son and tell him that you having a new baby didn’t replace him right? It just makes a family bigger when we add a new member and as we get older those siblings become our friends that become our family and without them it would only be us alone after everyone else is gone.
I’d just have to re-enforce how wonderful it is to gain another member of the family, even if at the beginning we don’t see them much.
He will always be his fathers first son, his fathers first child and nothing will change that bond and that connection.
Dad has to build a life and family, just like mom did and we can’t hold that against people we love.
Forgiveness is vital in that lesson I think.
And as your son gets older he will understand what it means to have a little brother, what kind of father he has, and what kind of mother was there to support him.
♥️
I’d just have to re-enforce how wonderful it is to gain another member of the family, even if at the beginning we don’t see them much.
He will always be his fathers first son, his fathers first child and nothing will change that bond and that connection.
Dad has to build a life and family, just like mom did and we can’t hold that against people we love.
Forgiveness is vital in that lesson I think.
And as your son gets older he will understand what it means to have a little brother, what kind of father he has, and what kind of mother was there to support him.
♥️
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@butterflystylist, I did this years ago. I have always been fatherless myself until I began a relationship with Jesus. My son has a good relationship with our Lord as well! It’s just so hard for me to comfort him in this situation because I had the same issue as a young girl & had the same thoughts.. My son is such a wonderful boy, it’s so difficult to see him upset. He’s been though a lot of pain because of his biological father. I will remind him to seek our Heavenly Father & pray over him. Thank you ❤️
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So sorry for this pain. As a mama this would break my heart too. I would just keep reassuring your boy that his father’s actions are not a reflection of your sons worth, but rather a reflection on the kind of person he is. This could be a wonderful opportunity to point him to Jesus and to God who is a good father that will never leave us or hurt us. This is a crappy situation but maybe trying to look at it as an opportunity to point him in the direction of having a relationship with God can help to take some of the hurt out. ❤️
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Is dad with the woman he’s having the baby with? Maybe u could involve new baby when it comes and tell him he only gained a new sibling? Not sure abt that situation but that’s definitely heart breaking to hear but also good he’s explains how he feels to you.. he sounds like such a sweet little boy.. I have no doubt u did this, but let him know u love him sooo much and will always always be there so will his brother.. I really wish ur family the best!!
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Aw bless him 💔
Maybe try explaining to him that he will never be replaced and that you have had another baby and that baby won't ever replace him just like his dads new child won't..
It must be hard for his to understand why his dad wants to have another child when he doesn't make the effort with him xx
Maybe try explaining to him that he will never be replaced and that you have had another baby and that baby won't ever replace him just like his dads new child won't..
It must be hard for his to understand why his dad wants to have another child when he doesn't make the effort with him xx
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