Mommies, thoughts on picking up or coddling a newborn every time they cry?
My baby’s been fussy the last couple of days and me or my husband will pick her up every time she cries and she’s getting used to that I’m assuming. I just don’t want her to be fussy and she cries like someone’s murdering her.
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And it's totally normal to feel this way. You aren't alone! Don't compare your baby with others because it's just gonna drive you crazy..
You are her mother and only you knows what's best for her.
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You cant over cuddle a newborn. They need constan contact. You start over cuddling when theyre able to sleep through the night and are already showing signs of independence like sitting up, crawling, etc. A newborn is in need of constant warmth, touch and affection. If your baby is fussing, she needs you.
@phoebesmommy, well I’m ready for this fourth trimester stuff to be over with, but idk about 18 months from now 😭😭😭
@selena_lalu, thanks lol that was almost 18 months ago!
@phoebesmommy, omg, she’s a cutie!!! Thank you 😊
@selena_lalu, omg I just looked at your profile and saw her. She’s so beautiful!! We had the same blanket and headband wrap 😍😍😍
@phoebesmommy, those links were EXTREMELY helpful!!! I never knew fourth trimester was a thing. Thank you sooooo much!
And it's totally normal to feel this way. You aren't alone! Don't compare your baby with others because it's just gonna drive you crazy..
You are her mother and only you knows what's best for her.
@selena_lalu, you’re doing great! Feed her before she’s crying and make sure you’re burping her. And hold her close. It’ll be a blink of an eye and she will be so big 😭 I’m giving myself baby fever
@girlmom., @phoebesmommy, thank y’all so much. I feel so helpless. I thought with having so many cousins and sisters in my family as babies that it would come natural and fairly easily. But there’s shit you never even hear about or experience that’s so real. I just want her to be my happy baby and I want to take care of her the way she deserves.
@selena_lalu hang in there!! It does get easier.
Baby wearing helps a lot! That's how I get house work, laundry, cooking etc done
@selena_lalu, there are a lot of knowledgeable mommies here for you 💗
@phoebesmommy, my mom was here
The first week she was born and then she had to go back to Texas. Man I wish my mom was here. I felt really emotional and down when she left after that first week. 😣
4th trimester is very real! I didn't even know about it till I had my 3rd baby.
Always pick baby up. Your all she's known for 9 months. The world is scary for baby.
Girl I remember when I had my first. It was like day 8 or 9 and I had no idea what I was doing. I just sat and cried. I felt so lost and my mom and I weren’t in a good place so I didn’t have anyone to turn to. But you get it as you go. 💗 don’t let anyone tell you you’re spoiling her.
And remember... this world is a big, new, and very unfamiliar place for her. Her eyesight is very underdeveloped but she knows you’re there when you hold her and she can smell you.
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YOU CAN'T SPOIL A NEWBORN!!! Hold your baby and nurse on demand. The 4th trimester is a real thing.
Oh also OP remember you have emotional needs too. She may be tiny but hers are very real. She may just need you a lot physically
@selena_lalu most babies that breastfeed won't take a pacifier it also can cause her confusion nipple confusion And you cannot spoil a newborn baby this right now her cries are telling you she's hungry she scared or she's hurting.
You got this mama. Worry about spoiling when she’s able to look at you and defy you lol
You cannot spoil her! Pick her up, soothe her, feed her on demand! You’re not spoiling her — you’re doing what your baby needs to feel happy, loved, and comforted. 💜
@selena_lalu, you have the natural inclination to pick her up. Go w instinct and never worry ab spoiling her.
@lillynellasmom, I give her the pacifier. Sometimes she wants it and sometimes she doesn’t. I’m just new to this and don’t want to spoil her, but want her to be comfortable and happy 🙁
@selena_lalu if your breastfeeding then she wants a pacifier on you that helps calm her down and soothe her.
Sometimes nursing is around the clock. Hang in there mama
@selena_lalu, until she’s like 6-7 months you really should nurse on demand. Don’t wait til she’s crying to nurse her.
Look for nursing cues like rooting, where they move their mouth to suckle. She should be nursing every 1.5-2hrs but right now you want to focus on surpassing her birthweight
@badkitty4, @phoebesmommy, I do burp her for a while. What about thoughts on breastfeeding her every time she wants to be breastfed? Most of the time when she’s crying she starts reaching and mouthing for my boobs.
Absolutely pick baby up. Could be gassy. It’s very painful for them and they can’t move to do anything about it. Make sure you’re burping her well before and after feedings
@badkitty4, I’ve heard that and that’s what I try to tell myself 😭
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