my boyfriend has this friend he’s known since they were little kids. she likes to go out to eat and go to the movies, stuff like that and he’s usually the one she goes with. I’ve expressed that i’m uncomfortable with it plenty of times and even after talking to the girl about why I feel like this and even being told and me knowing that nothing is going on between them, i still find myself very uncomfortable with it. 😩
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@kelley.blue, i get what you’re saying. he is a very outgoing person and i’m really not a outgoing person. i just don’t want it to turn into a situation where somebody thinks i’m jealous or being malicious or anything to that effect. i feel how i feel because of specific things that have happened in the past and i just wish he’d understand it. i can try and be cordial and nice towards her but i know it’s going to make me come off as fake
I get it. And please don't take any offense but I'm a realist.... From my past experiences, If you have a sociable better half and you aren't don't you think that's going to cause a conflict? My best friend's wife initially told him she was kind of iffy about our relationship and he told her that I was blood and here to stay (he is an only child) and we are really cool now. He spoils her like crazy and I'm always cheering them on to do more lol! I just helped talk him into getting her that Jaguar she's been eyeing lol! If I meet a guy and he's uncomfortable with my lifelong friends that could be a deal breaker for me BC if you love and trust me then you'd accept my friends too! I'm not going to allow anyone to disrespect my better half, my guy friends don't call all times of night, we don't talk all day everyday and when we do talk and he's around the speaker phone is on bc there's nothing to hide. I don't like that movie night crap but do you think that maybe he doesn't tell you bc you'd get mad since you aren't too fund of the friendship? I think there needs to be boundaries but girl I'd be all on the speakerphone while their asses are trying to hangout lol! If you want her out lol, be nice and if she's a bad seed she'll disappear lol!
@kelley.blue, i like staying to myself, i’m a lot more comfortable that way 😕
@erikaarenas123196, it’s like nobody wants to take my feelings into consideration, you know? i’m just supposed to automatically be okay with it because they’re both telling me nothing is going on between them and they’re just friends. I don’t know if i’m overthinking things and my insecurities are coming out or if my gut is really trying to tell me something.
@kelley.blue, lmao 😂 i’m just being honest. i’m not a friendly person nor am i a social person
@noahmama if he can't respect you...you might be better off without him.
@sevrinanicole, yeah, same thing i’ve said time and time again cause as of right now, i have yet to receive a response from almost an hour ago.
@noahmama... You have me over here crying laughing "Mean Girl!" 😂😂😂
@noahmama excuse my language but...FUCK THAT SHIT!!! IF HE ISNT TAKING YOU TO THE MOVIES OR DINNER HE SURE AS SHIT SHOULDNT BE TAKING SOMEONE ELSE!!!
@sevrinanicole, rarely. we haven’t been to the movies in years and we haven’t been out to dinner by ourselves in months.
@noahmama when he's with you does he take you to the movies and dinner? I'm not trying to be nosey. Just curious.
@sevrinanicole, i honestly don’t know🤷🏽♀️ she’s posted a man before but that was only a couple times so i’m not sure who he is to her
@kelley.blue, i can be friendly when need be, but on a daily basis? i just can’t do it.
@sevrinanicole, i just chalked it up to me being insecure. from the arguments we’ve had about this whole situation, that’s how it usually ends up 🤷🏽♀️
Well coming from someone that has been there... You draw more bees with honey. You should be a little friendly lol... You both need to have some type of relationship with each others best friends BC that'll be a never ending (unnecessary) battle.
It matters in the end. Trust me.
He shouldn't be going to the movies with other women PERIOD!!! let my husband go to the movies with someone he's not related to. That shit doesn't fly. He needs to have more respect for you. You have every right to feel the way you feel.
@ljsmommy22, i’ve told him to stop, i’ve told him why, i’ve told him the reason why i’m hesitant about it, does he listen? nope.
@sevrinanicole, i live in a different state, so i’m never around to go.
@kelley.blue, 😂 i’m not a friendly person. i’ve met her before, had a conversation with her, been around her multiple times and i wont initiate a friendship.
Ohhhhh no ma'am!! You can't be friends with him if you aren't my friend 😃😃😃.. I don't play that!
@ljsmommy22, i’m guessing he doesn’t cause he tried to use that against me as if i was doing something with my gay bestfriend. the whole male species just makes no sense to me
@ljsmommy22, his response is i’ve done the same thing with my bestfriend but, my bestfriend is also gay 🙄 so his argument was irrelevant
@kelley.blue, we don’t speak. she’s his friend not mine and honestly, i don’t want to be cordial with her.
Have you asked how would he feel if the tables were turned?
If she's not very cordial with you then it is way too much!
@kelley.blue, i don’t wanna make something out of nothing but i know that i am a very insecure person and i don’t know if it’s just me being insecure or me having a feeling something is going on.
@ljsmommy22, and then when i say something then i have no right to be upset or he tells me nothing is going on.
If they jus friends y not tell u when they goin out
Yea something might be off if he is trying to hide it or be sneaky. If it was innocent why hide it
@ljsmommy22, and he knows i’m uncomfortable with it but like why not just tell me the truth and when i ask if he’s with her, he takes forever to answer me back. I’m trying not to think anything is going on but shit just seems funny.
@kelley.blue, at the moment i live in a different state but, he has friends. And it’s not like it’s a once a month type of thing, it’s almost every week they’re doing something together. And to be very honest, when we’re around each other, i don’t even get to go out unless i’m going somewhere with him and our son. It’s annoying, you know?
@ljsmommy22, doesn’t it? like they’re out right now and the only way i found out about them being out to eat is because she put up something that also connects with something he told me but he didn’t come out and say he’s with her. i feel like it’s childish but i am really trying to be okay with it but i’m not
One of my best friends/brother is a male and I was in his wedding and all. We don't go to the movies together. We typically do couple things/family things and every once in a while we may grab a bite that's like once a year maybe. He introduced me to my better half back in the day but we have been bffs since we were 12. I totally understand how you feel though! I talk to his wife and call her sis too! You should be included.
I understand. But I am a woman that wants families to stay together bc I didn't have that growing up... Not with my biological father anyway... So when I see something that may fix a problem, I'm all for that! I can guarantee you that right now you seem more jealous than you would if you were more sociable with her. I am a very outgoing person and my better half is more quiet... Until he starts drinking lol! But his friends loved to hang around me BC I'm fun to be around so that made him want to be around me more BC he didn't have to fight with me to hang around his friends. And even if you seem fake to her but he feels like you are trying and she's being nasty with you.... That will knock her out the box lol!! But lifelong friends are sometimes hard to get rid of so if you can't beat them, join them... She'll find a man one day lol!