Being a stay at home mother is not bad first of all back in the days females could stay home cause the father would work…

@zealous and I've never said being a sahm is a bad thing! Your whole last paragraph makes it seem like you're throwing shade at working mom's telling us "don't be mad" that you have a real man that can take care of you and that you're home "nurturing and watching your child grow instead of missing 8+ hours a day you can't get back"

It works both ways. SAHM's often bash working mother's because we don't spend as much time with our children. It is equally as hard to be a working mother as it is to be a SAHM. Both lifestyles have their own struggles. I don't enjoy being a SAHM, that is my personal opinion. I love my job and I love to work. I'll be damned if another mother brings me down because of that just like I'll be damned if someone tried to bring my husband down for being a SAHD. We all work hard and we're all doing the best we can.

@carpetmushrooms i get it love but if I put this is not for the ones that not bashing u cant feel no shade love it's no towards u ppl read what they wanna read honestly but if I'm telling u it's not about all then u good love that's what I'm trying to tell u

@zealous I'm just trying to let you know the reason people got upset by that last paragraph in your post.. cause it felt like you were throwing shade

@carpetmushrooms lady I'm talking about the ones who are bashing me I never said all that what yall fail to realize if I put it u dont nash dont feel no type of way why comment

@zealous I think people are reading this correctly.. people feel like you're throwing shade at working mom's when you make this statement:

Working mom's shouldn't be mad that you get to "nature n watch child grow instead of missing 8 plus hours a day that u cant get back"

@roguemommyofjx3 yes love u understand u worded this perfectly

I guess no one is understanding what you are trying to say. Smh

1. You are not bashing

2. You are simply saying to women who bash YOU, that being a stay at home mom is not a bad thing, it has been a thing for decades now. The ones bashing YOU are usually the ones who have broke baby daddies or moms that are single who wish they were in your position.

Am I understanding correctly?

@fuhgeddaboudit i gave examples on why alot of working moms do it if u got a broke baby father or are a single mother but u not bashing it shouldn't bother u because u dont do it that's what I'm saying like I said at the end of the post if u dont bash this is not for u its not messy it's just ppl feel because they work they have to comment like no if u dont bash do your thing sis cause I'm not talking about u I'm not talking about a whole I'm talking about a part of moms that do so u get it now

@braindeadmama if I say I dont like females who live in projects that always hate on everyone am I applying to every female or only the ones who hate on everyone?

It would of been like this I hate females in the projects they always hating

It's a total difference

@braindeadmama if u dont bash stay at home moms why are u commenting like I said I gave examples of why alot Of women I know do it it says it right there if u dont bash this isn't for u this is for working moms that bash stay at home moms because of they situation like I said dont be mad at us be glad not everyone going thru that my mom is a single mother I grew up with out a father so I know how it is but that's not what I'm saying this dont apply to all n that's what u not getting

@fuhgeddaboudit if u are not like this it doesnt apply to u are u not reading what I'm saying

Like I said in the post if u are not bashing n your situation is like this u shouldn't feel no type of way I was giving examples on why alot Of women I know do it n I live in NYC too my reality is different from yours because we are not around the same ppl

N I never said it was 100 percent true for all of course it's not my mom doesnt bash me for being a stay at home mom but all my so called friends they said I was lazy for letting my man take care of me so like I said I put me in the status n I even put it u dont bash this is not for u why are ppl not reading what I wrote

I’m just going to throw this out there. A week ago you were complaining that being a stay at home mom is too hard. Which, you’re right it is very hard. Try being a single working parent that works 45 hours a week and still has to do all of the shit that a stay at home mom does. Try being a married mom with a husband that works 60 hours a week, you work 45 and still do all of the shit a stay at home mom does lol. I’m not bashing. But your posts about working moms are offensive. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes for a minute

@roguemommyofjx3, when I made that comment I said it specifically for my family and in my situation. That is not the case for everyone but for me I need to be able to be financially stable on my own. I don’t want to ever be in that situation where the only person supporting my family was to die and then I have to scramble things together ( happened to my cousin’s wife). He died of a heart attack at 37 and was the only provider for his wife and children. She was a stay at home mom and I personally witnessed her struggle and decided I would make sure my family never went through that. But again it’s only what I feel is best for me not everyone and I also do not breast feed my children so I can leave them to go to work since I’m not their food source lol. But again only for me and my family I didn’t mean to offend anyone.

I’m all for both I’m a stay at home mom and I love it so much ! I do also miss working and making my own money but my hunny gave me the option when I got pregnant with my daughter he said I could either stay home or go back to work and it wasn’t a very hard decision . Now with baby number 2 just about ready to enter the world I really really want a job not because my man can’t provide but because it would be nice to have my own money on the side so I didn’t have to ask him for money when I want something for me or my children . Being a stay at home mother is a full time job but I respect the mothers that leave there children for 8+ hrs a day so that they can provide for there children whether that’s along side of their SO or if they are single

@taylorc oh same here. Then she naps around 10am and then another before 2pm.

@roguemommyofjx3 lol she's not to bad I just miss my full 8 hours 😂 she usually wakes up around 2-3 then 5-6

@taylorc i made that part of her routine. From birth. I did it with the other two as well and my siblings. We always had nap time.

@ariah_syd27 i must put my input. I have to disagree in your comment about not needing a man to provide for me. That is not the case for alot of us stay at home parents. Some times daycare is way to expensive and if both parents were to work then one of them would just be working to pay for daycare which is pretty pointless. A problem I have is my daughter is not independent yet and although my husband can care for her she still is 90%breastfed. Also God forbid my husband dies, then I am certified in 2 different areas and experience in different quick jobs and can find work quickly.

@zealous good lol message me when you do!

@taylorc me either girl I'm a start to come on here more though

@zealous I see it all the time lmao iits happened to me about once or twice, I held my ground and that's it lol and yessss exactly!! Mom life friends I really don't have any!

@taylorc righttt but I notice on this site alot of moms jump on each other with different opinions it's crazy n of course I wont I'm glad i put this up cause I'm following u now yay we mom life friends now

@roguemommyofjx3 I wish my baby slept period 😭😭😭

@zealous lol you can message me anytime girlll! And I deal with it too lol not on here to much but I've dealt with it a lot. It's good you speak your mind don't change up because people don't agree with you. You'll never please everyone remember that!

@zealous I mean I'm a certfied nurses aid and paralegal and I'm working on my degree but other than that me and baby girl just sleep all day. Lol

@taylorc yesss girll my man is Spanish n I'm black we go thru the same thing but I'm just glad a few of yall reached out to understand actually u understood from the beginning I didnt have to do to much talking to u I was just telling my man about u he was like at least she get it I was like I know cause alot of ppl didnt

@bklynmommydoll this is great love u never bash so u good

This is only for ones that do because the examples I gave above

@zealous 😂😂 and girl trust me I understand when miscommunication happens my boyfriend is black and Spanish, I'm fully white and we came from two different upbringings so communication was a big key in us working and I still sometimes want to kill him.

@roguemommyofjx3 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm really crying

@taylorc lawddd u got it I cant stand u 😂😂😂😂😂 I'm a have to follow u now but thank u for understanding what I was saying I'm glad some ppl understand

@ariah_syd27 if u dont bash love it doesnt apply to u this is for women who bash because of the broke baby daddy or they a single mom this etc n they have to work n they dont want to so they call stay at home moms lazy n etc is what I'm trying to explain to u love this is only for working mom who bash women who stay at home because they dont like they situation if u fine with your situation u cant feel no way love cause your not jealous or nothing

Just want to put this out there. I'm a stay at home mom and most of the time I sleep, so none of this pertains to me just felt like sharing. 😂

@zealous exactly but in reality every parent period will miss those 8 hours once school starts lmao

@zealous, yeah I think that is a little better lol. I understand the hate could be way to much sometimes

@taylorc good u knew I wasnt bashing because u are not jealous or etc now let me say this that's great that u do for your family it be like that alot now n days my mom the same thing but what I'm saying is be glad it's still stay at home moms that can be blessed enough to not miss 8 hours a day in this case your husband is blessed not to miss 8 hours a day because u are holding it down

@taylorc, agree 100%. I don’t think the post is wrong just the wording of it.

@ariah_syd27 you finished the rest of my thoughts. Just because my boyfriend is a say at home dad he doesn't have income that doesn't mean he's a broke baby daddy if that's the case someone bitter can say a stay at home mom is a broke baby mama.. but that's not the case it's all about how you word things. I praise any mother period. Working mom or stay at home mom, being a mother is hard period! Just because you work or don't work doesn't mean one loves their children anymore than the other.

@zealous, I’m not being rude but I honestly can’t really understand what you’re trying to say. But I don’t feel there is a “better situation” I think most people do what is best for their families. For me making sure my family has financial stability is just one of them. For me it’s important that both parents have that because you never know what the future holds. What if your man, boyfriend, or husband dies tmro? What would you do. And for you that might work (there is nothing wrong with that) but for you to say “broke baby daddy” or whatever it seems like you’re the one that is jealous of a working mom that does it on her own. If you feel the need to post your opinion you should do it properly so you receive the response you want to get. You can’t be mad at us for answering to your opinion. You decided to post it and you are going to get comments on it. And no I do not bash SAHM I know that’s not what’s best for my family and I honestly never want to be one so no reason to hate.

I read this and I don't think your bashing but I do feel a little slick comment about working mom's. You can't expect not to be bashed from others when you throw shade about us losing time with our children. My boyfriend is a stay at home father and I'm the one who works which isn't bad nor should it be look at as he's not a real man as you say.. being a stay at home parent period is the hardest job you can have but I bust my ass to provide for my whole family those 8 hours a day then come home and cook and clean and wake up all night with my girls. No one should be bashing any one and throwing shade isn't helping your case.

For the past year I’ve been a sahm with my daughter and I’ll probably do it for another 6 mos to a year with my son I def salute the moms who have been doing it way longer but the experience has honestly been great not easy but very enjoyable to just have that bonding time with your kids....I do look forward to going back to work to have some extra money coming into the house cause usually me and my hubby go half n half on everything but he’s def been understanding and holding down the family while maintaining active with me and the kids so I love both sides

@ariah_syd27 I fixed my status does it sound a little better now

@ariah_syd27 my whole point u jealous so u gotta bash me about your situation if u dont bash or doesnt apply because u wouldnt feel this way because u know majority of women who are jealous bash because of they situation like u just said if I'm giving examples why they do it n if I give examples n this is your situation but you are not bashing u cant feel no way cause your not jealous or taking it out on no one with a better situation in fact you are glad to see better situations then your self

My mom is a single mother she told me that the only way u would feel some type of way is if u did bash n this is your situation n that's true

But I'm sorry if it offended u this is only for bashing moms

@zealous, but you are bashing. Yes some working moms might be jealous and they bash out of hate but not all. The way you wrote it makes it sound like all working mothers are haters. It’s just the way you wrote it that offended some of us.

@ariah_syd27 I'm not bashing love I'm giving examples why they do it if u dont bash this doesnt apply to u

Don’t bash working mothers either. Sometimes working mothers do not have a choice. And for me even if I had a choice I would still be a working mom because part of my goals in life is to have a great career that I can support my family on. Not to need a man to provide for me.

@arodriguez32114 I choose these examples love because it is the best one I get it love I get where u coming from but this doesnt apply to u because you not bashing it's for the ones who are n they situation like this who bash us because of the examples I said I live in NYC so I know n everyone I know say I'm a bum because my man makes enough for me to stay home n I'm like ok u bashing me because ABC like nooo u shouldn't do that do u get why I used it now

@arodriguez32114 I'm giving examples on why females bash stay at home moms all the females that bash me have a situation like this they mad at they situation like I said so why u gotta bash me cause I'm not in a bad situation u soo missing the wholeeeeeeeee point like I said if u dont bash this doesnt apply to u

@emily526 I never said it was a fact I put me into it this is reality for me what I'm saying is giving examples of why women bash stay at home moms because they situation like u shouldn't judge me because I'm a stay at home mom n u mad at your situation it shouldn't compare at all

Like can u just be happy for moms that can still stay at home n not have to work is what I'm saying

But ppl really feel like I'm bashing because that they situation n I'm giving that reason the common reasoning why they bashing

@emily526 I completely agree with emily.. I live in a small (very religious) town in the midwest... while I'm not 100% sure on what the statistic actually is, I'd venture to say upwards of 85% of mom's in my town are sahm.. so in my area, working mom's get much more scrutiny for working

@zealous You are absolutely entitled to your opinion which is based off of your experience, you are not however qualified to make up facts and statistics which is what you did by saying "more stay at home mom's getting judge then working mom's" that is a made up fact. I'm from northern Jersey, so not very far away from you. Majority of mother's I know are in fact SAHM's and as I stated above, my husband is a SAHD. He's not lazy or a bum. He's a veteran and a great father, so believe me there's no judgement here towards you for staying home. People judging you IS wrong, however the wording of your post made it appear that you were turning around and bashing working mother's.

@mami.of.three.queens u said it's easy when u have it that way like that's not what I'm saying love I'm saying because alot of working moms cant be a stay at home they bash stay at home moms because of they situation

I'm just giving examples of baby daddy broke or single mom as a reason why they do it but my whole point is they shouldn't because shit is ruff for them u get what I'm saying

@zealous I never pointed out that you said it was wrong. "Did you not read what I wrote? "

I was giving my opinion that's all.

@emily526 I'm saying this because all the work moms judge me n ssy I'm lazy when I have a degree n everything u say I'm not qualified to my opinion n what is happening to me is wrong idk where u live but I'm from NYC n if u are a stay at home mom your a bum n lazy

@zealous I don't think you're really qualified to say more SAHM's are getting judged than working mom's. We're all out here doing our best and being judged for one reason or another. All that really matters though is that we're taking care of our children to the best of our ability.

@carpetmushrooms n when I say dont be mad at us is true alot of females I know are mad at a stay at home this is not a bashing post it's the truth alot of working moms stay coming at me for being a stay at home

@mami.of.three.queens did u not read what I wrote nobody saying is wrong to be a single mother what I'm saying is dont bash a women for being a stay at home mom cause your not

@zealous and I've never said being a sahm is a bad thing! Your whole last paragraph makes it seem like you're throwing shade at working mom's telling us "don't be mad" that you have a real man that can take care of you and that you're home "nurturing and watching your child grow instead of missing 8+ hours a day you can't get back"

@mariapb right but being a stay at home is hard to they both hard but I'm seeing soo much bashing from moms that work like ok we are both mothers just different life styles

@carpetmushrooms if u dont bash them then it doesnt apply to u majority of females work that's great but what I'm saying is now n days stay at home moms get bash the most n it shouldn't be that way

@emily526 u right but the whole purpose is to not bash stay at home moms it's way more stay at home moms getting judge then working moms

@ladyblauvelt.skysmomma yess they do alot of them

@carpetmushrooms I'm talking about in general u totally not reading right im saying being a stay at home is not bad alot of women feel if u stay at home n let your man take care of u it's wrong what im saying is dont bash us for staying home we are not lazy etc

My husband and I are equal earners, so it's not about my man not being able to take care of me or whatever. We could probably budget for one of us to stay home. I want to be able to provide my children with everything they need and more. Two working parents opens up a lot more opportunities financially for him and his soon to be brother's futures. I also enjoy the work I do and the team I work with. They are friends as well as coworkers. I'm lucky in that I have flexible start and stop times. I get up before the sun rises to start my day so I can get home with lots of time left to spend with my son. My employer also lets me work from home several days a week so I don't have to commute. I don't think it's always about sacrificing one way of life for the other. I do my best to find an in between.

It's easy when you have it that way. Not all moms are lucky to have a real man in their life. Most women I know have men who pay the bills but the still work because they want to have more flexibility or because they can be moms and have a career/job too. Staying home with kids is a job in itself because it includes taking care of the home. I personally work from home , occasionally will go to my office to use my software (I'm a structural engineer) and husband is a licensed general contractor so we work together. I have the liberty to work or not if I desire. But to be honest I take my hat off for single moms. They don't have a man to help them with the kids like us, they don't have it easy like us, they work and spend as much time with the kids as they can. They bust their ass for their kids to have a roof and three meals. They don't get to stay and spend valuable time with their kids but it's not because they want to.. Most of us don't see that and it's easy to just talk when you haven't lived what they have. You don't know why they are single. Unfortunately NOTHING is forever so it's not good to judge. But we're all moms and as moms it's our duty to make sure our kids eat and have a place to call home and at the end of the day that's what's most important even if you sacrifice spending more time with them. At the end , they'll thanks us

I take my hat off to working mums. I thought being a sahm would be a breeze, it’s singlehandedly the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I can’t imagine being able to combine that with an actual paid job as well.

I agree with emily.. I'm a working mom.. I've never shamed sahms.. but I've caught all kinds of flack for working. I spent 5 years of my life getting my education and I'm a damn good engineer! And I'm not lacking as a mother because of it..

It works both ways. SAHM's often bash working mother's because we don't spend as much time with our children. It is equally as hard to be a working mother as it is to be a SAHM. Both lifestyles have their own struggles. I don't enjoy being a SAHM, that is my personal opinion. I love my job and I love to work. I'll be damned if another mother brings me down because of that just like I'll be damned if someone tried to bring my husband down for being a SAHD. We all work hard and we're all doing the best we can.

@carpetmushrooms working moms often say sahms are lazy or what they do isn't hard at all and it gets frustrating... I'm glad I'm able to be a sahm too, my boyfriend told me I could stop working as soon as I got pregnant but I kept working until my first trimester was over. I honestly hate working... I will when it's needed but if I have the option to stay home with my 2 year old and take care of myself I'm all for it

Why does there have to be hate either way? We are all doing our best to raise our children.. why does it always have to be working mom's vs sahm??