What do you think is fair?

What does your father pay in rent and utilities? Depending on that I would take and divide it by 5. Since there are 4 in your family it's only fair you pay a bit more. If that's to much I'd offer to pay 2/3 of the amount.

How many rooms is the house and how many will your family be using? Also do you know what his mortgage payment is each month?

I would spilt it 50/50

My dad is charging my sister $400 for her family of 4. She also pays half the grocery bill each time they go grocery shopping.

It depends on his mortgage/rent. We rented out a room in a 3 bedroom house for $600 a month when our rent was $1800. That was in CA. That included utilities, full use of the house and food. However, I wouldn't charge that much in a place where the cost of living is much lower. We rent out a 2000 square foot house for $1050 a month and that's in NE.

My dad wouldn't ever make us pay half of the mortgage. If I tried he wouldn't accept it. He pays about $2000 a month for mortgage electric gas and water.

4 bedrooms and we will have 2 rooms. This is to help my dad out while saving us some money to buy a house at the same time. We plan to take the dogs for my dad once we do get our own house.

Even though you say he wouldn't accept it I'd still offer $1,000 a month. It seems to be about what you pay now minus cable and internet. You also say he isn't home much so it would be like you lived alone anyway.

Yeah, I would say $1000 since you're getting 2 out of 4 rooms available and everything else is being paid for. Then with the groceries, maybe 75/25 just because your more but that's my personal opinion and move.

@ sister wife. He is paying $1400 a month in spousal support. That would be more than what we pay for our apartment and then some. I was thinking about offering him $800 a month and we cover all the groceries for everyone. Does that sound fair ?

Yeah my mom took him to the cleaners on this one ?

I think it's pretty fair. Hopefully he will agree to it.

1400m spousal support? Whoa. I think 800 is fair...id probably offer 1000 first though

He did and she wouldn't agree to it so it was putting the divorce off. She has lived with him for 5 years for free. Not working or anything. He has paid all of her bills and got her a newer car all while knowing they were getting a divorce. She is lazy and makes everyone's lives hell.

Wouldn't groceries for 3 adults and 3 kids be much more of a burden? Idk where you live, but if you were covering all groceries in NY you'd be spending $500 a month, on average (my best guess).

Honestly if it was my dad I would be offering the most I could give , but that is only because it's my dad

How much would you pay if it wasn't your dad? We tend to talk ourselves into paying less when it's just out family. But if you were sharing the house with some random person, wound it change anything?

That's a good point fluffy. I suppose I'd pay the same amount I was paying now- it's still for two rooms.

If he will push you to pay less and it's a blessing to you, perhaps $700?

I think 800 and you guys buy all the groceries. So you technically are saving but not being selfish at the same time. I'm sure he would be fine with that amount.

I'd say 850-1000

@Attica we pay 885 a month for our apartment. With water watch, cable (we only pay for the box and Internet because standard cable is included in our monthly rent) and electric it brings us to $1018.00 a month plus groceries. I wouldn't pay more to live in a random persons house for more.

It would be about $1300 a month with groceries included if we pay $800 a month plus groceries. We spend about $500 a month in groceries but I buy my meat in bigger portions and freeze them.

We are also trying to save while doing this because we can't afford to save money living in our apartment right now. With Grayson's health issues and constant dr appts and home care visits I cannot work.

Edit: DF and I are talking about it but this was my fathers suggestion on us moving in.

I would research apartment costs in the area and offer that so 500 + cable, electric, and gas. Most places provide water sewer and garbage. You are going from a private space to a shared space definitely wouldn't offer more than you currently pay. And paying for groceries seems fair as he is 1 person. Good luck. It is nice to help him and 700 is half his spousal support which is a good big help. Good luck

When i lived with my grandparents, my husband and i paid a third of the household expenses. My parents also paid a third and my grandparents paid a third. (It was a very large house. The only thing we didnt have was our own kitchen.)

I would see what half of the expenses are and start there. If that isnt enough, then you could offer more.

2/3rd is fair or pay half rent and all utilities