True confession
I am that mom. The one standing in a dazed glaze while her 3 year old runs screaming and laughing around the library. I attempted to catch him, I did. In a lumbering, way-too-pregnant-to-be-moving-this-fast kind of way. And then I gave up. I admit it. I stood there while he ran in circles, calling his name repeatedly while the librarian glared and the old women waiting to check out their Mary Higgins Clark books huffed their disgust. I finally shrugged and said, "if someone could snag him I would be so grateful." And then I gathered him, the books and what was left of my exhausted dignity and walked out.
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Hahahaha this is me right now. I wouldn't worry about it. Mine is turning two tomorrow and thinks it hilarious to run away in the parking lot, in the store, at the library. He's getting better but every day can still be trying. Pick your battles I would say. This one wouldn't be worth it in my mind. Your dignity is intact. I'm grateful for my small town where people aren't afraid to grab my child if my arms are full and he's pulling a stunt or in danger. No judgement from me. You are doing an amazing job regardless of what others say.
Im sorry you had to go thru that but Im also glad that you managed to handle the situation!!
I love how people like to say what you're doing wrong and really dont know your situaton or think they can do it better than you.
@Sha LMAO!!! Hit em up cave woman style with the book and drag them home
Listen, don't beat yourself up over a situation like this. It happens to the best of us.
You're better than me, because since I'm too big & pregnant to catch my kids, if I was in your shoes, I probably would have frisbeed a book @ my child's head knocking him out so that I could catch him. Whatever works for you,go for it. But no one should judge you.
Op, ignore @ava. She can back pedal all she wants but that was just harsh, uncalled for, and incredibly judgmental. I hope she doesn't end up with an out of control teen daughter, then she will have everyone judging her. Those things do happen.
As for your story, I feel for you! It sounds like something I did as a child. My ds is too young for that, but my ss can have moments. He is normally very well behaved, but I've had to stop him from releasing cats at petsmart that were there for adoption.
Your story cracked me up, best of luck on your next outdoor adventure.
Every kid is different. When my son was 2 he was a hellion. Running away while I tried my best to catch him and then I would give him the death glare, do you think it helped? Nope. He is three now and has actually mellowed, strange I know. But we have all been there and it sucks. Maybe my son is being nice to me because I am pregnant and miserable and then after baby he will start his reign of terror again. Who knows. What's good is that you DID discipline.
I'm pretty off put @ava, at first I thought you were kidding... all the discipline in the world does not guarantee that a child will not test their boundaries... some children act up when they feel that they are safe, they are exploring and creative and know that the adult around them will keep them comfortable and protected unconditionally. I think discipline has to be catered in part by the childs personality development and maturity. The melt down days are a big part of life.. regardless of parenting. op, we are all that parent sometimes, the one not everyone understands because they haven't been in your shoes.
Honestly I'm probably the one on here with the best advice and insight lol
I'm not an uneducated idiot, with no kids.
I have a 4 year old daughter and a 4 year old step son who is on the autism spectrum whom I've helped tremendously.
I'm not judging you, per say.
Kids do act up.. It's how you as a parent handle and deal with it.
Hehe. It's funny because it wasn't me, and I know it does happen..but if it was me I probably would have cried... yes I am the meatball who has told my boys to tiptoe and whisper in the library so we don't wake up the imagination in there.... those really good stories people are reading and sesrching would come to an end right in the middle.. they laugh and think I'm crazy but they absolutly love it and play along... i have to make everything a big adventure and game..or I won lose my sanity. like I would go into the library in search of something with... a letter or color, or see if we can spell their name.. find something that matches your shirt. Or find someone holding a door for someone else. If you do, you win.... a book! Duh I was gonna get it anyway! :) the stage will pass..hopefully the Lil guy was just tired.
Girl you're pregnant AND have a 3yo. You're doing fine!
Every mom has their moment(s) lol the other people in the library I'm sure just forgot what it was like to be a young mommy, or never had kids. They can shove it!
Your kid probably knows how exhausted you are and that he can push you a bit further than usual. Just breathe :)
Shhhishh. My kids say yes ma'am no ma'am, they never misbehave in libraries because they are perfect and i whip them like no tomorrow if not. But i don't have too because they are perfect.
Best mom award goes too? Me duh lol
Jk im sorry op. My kids do the same at the store. They have met downs. Course, they do not take me seriously. So ya im far from perfect and my kids are "spirited". Like hell raisers. Lol
I will say this... i have a 2.5 yearold.. that gets diciplined.. believe me!! Time outs, daddy spanking, no tv, taking his toys... nothing will stop a terrible 2, 3, or 4.. lol..
Pp your children must be perfect little ones that mind your every wish.. lmao
Not!
Everyone has been there.. we have to stand our ground, bite our tongue and pray that it will end soon.. & Dont think twice about grabbing a drink after they go to bed at night lol.. my malibu rum is my bestfriend at bedtime after those rough days of tantrums..
Thanks for the support, ladies. Someone told me the 3s are worse than the terrible 2s-truer words were never spoken!
Edit: lol, fergie! I would much prefer to be the one saying a silent thank you that's not me! Lol
She's 11 weeks pregnant don't mind her. Lol.
My dd is not a toddler yet but she already throws tantrums. Only at home though, and just small ones. But let me tell you, I can't wait for these toddler days *sarcastic tone*. Lol. When I was far along in my pregnancy I didn't want to do anything but lay in bed let alone chase around a toddler.
Lol I just ask dd to stop a thousand times, if she doesnt stop and people stares at me I say "oh well, I tried".
Im not always able to keep her "under a leash" and kids will be kids, they want to run and scream and what not! Why even bother feeling bad. Sometimes Im too lazy to pick up after dd and she goes grabbing everything,when I get to the register she hands the cashier everything she grabbed.
Thanks for that, avayah. It's good to know that perfect mothers who have children that never act out still exist. Thank you also for assuming that this one instance must mean I'm doing a crap job raising my kid. I thought I was relating a funny story that the majority of toddler moms could relate to, but apparently I was just giving you an excellent opportunity to judge me and my child.
Ahahahahaha! There's always someone saying that it's lack of discipline or it wouldn't be their kid. Um, yeah ok whatever! I just hope they're blessed with a little monster and see how well their own "advice" works
Op, sorry you've had a tough day. I've been there with my middle child, so I know how it feels. Sending you hugs x
Oh geez pp I bet your kid is never going to throw a tantrum either. ?
Op I'm sure you're a great mom. We all have those days. Heck, my now 4 yo is usually wonderful, especially in public, but the day before I went into labor with my dd he was an absolute nightmare. I was the waddling whale 36 weeks pregnant trying to chase him down in Burlington coat factory. Sorry you're having a rough day momma. ?
It sounds to me like it definitely starts from the home; a lack of authority, discipline, consequences, following through.
You probably nag him to do something, and then just end up doing it yourself.
That only taught him that he can do whatever he wants, and get away with it!
If you only let him say "no" once, and then follow through with some action, he will eventually learn he doesn't run you anymore..
You teach people how to treat you.. You also teach kids..
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