Mental abuse Hey ladies, this isn't pregnancy related but it deals with relationships. I'm wondering if you go through…

@lovelycan I haven't talked to him nor responded since he said that. I'm just trying to be strong bc that is a horrible thing to say. I still can't believe that after all of this time, he would still want an abortion. Like you really want me to kill a baby?? Something is seriously wrong with him....

Thats really crazy and you might need to end the relationship. At 19wks you have a baby its not a embryo or fetus its a baby!! Its crazy for him to even suggest an abortion that far along. Tell him if he don't want baby he don't want you.

O so u don't live w him

@scarlett that's really weird. Just be careful hun. I haven't talked to my bd since he completely lost his mind telling me the date I'm getting an abortion ? I never responded and don't plan on it

Yes. I've told him I'm not going to lwt him tell me what to do. He gets mad and says then its not gonna work amd I tell him then ok but later he comes and acts different idk what's up w him

@scarlett, so he wants to control everything you do? That's not good. What do you plan to do about it? Have you talked to him?

I'm kinda in ur boat execpt that he doesn't want me to abort. He wants the bby. But it super hard he wants to have control and have stuff done his way. It frustrates me. I try to work stuff out for our 2bbys but he ia drama and I just don't know it to stay or leave

I'm just going through so much with him. I'm ready to throw in the towel. If you can, read my latest post and see what stupid thing he's said to me now

My last relationship was very mentally draining. He was an extremely sensitive person and he would blame me for everything and try to make me feel bad if I didn't mother or baby him and I found out he was cheating after we broke up. Needless to say he's still the same. You have to put you and your baby first, your child and self respect will be there in the end, a man is always disposable.

@cassie I'm so glad you got away. That's something that nobody should have to put up with. It's just a shame that I didn't notice I was going through some type of abuse. I guess women sometimes wants to be loved by someone so bad that they will put up with or ignore signs of abuse. (Not all just some) but I'm glad you're finally happy

I was with my ex who abuse me by being physical by choking me he change when I live with him I learn from my mistake I got taken adventage of I know he wouldn't change so I left him I am so much happy with my partner who treat me really good

I didn't think about it as being mental advise until my mom pointed it out. She thinks my bd is that way. And now that I think about it, he does in a way mentally abuse me. It's like we can be doing ok for a whole then he gets upset when I don't do something his way or when he wants it done and then it gets crazy. He already doesn't want our child and he still wants me to get an abortion at 19 weeks. Maybe it is time I cut my ties before things get out of hand....

Yes. I feel like abusers lay that down as foundation before getting physical. I know my ex did that, wish I had known the signs before letting myself get taken advantage like that.

If you are being mentally and emotionally abused, say peace out.

I think so. Once you have control of someone mentally you can take them over physically.

Yes definitely!!..it's almost like a gateway to the physical aspect of abuse..most often it begins that way..a breakdown of your self esteem and self worth, basically making you emotionally weak and codependent.