Mini rant plus Update about "Grayson"
I had to change his name. His name is no longer Grayson. His name is Leo. My SOs sisters sons middle name is Grayson and it totally ran past my mind about that. I respect his sister, biggest sweetheart so I apologized to her and she understood and made a great point. No one wants the same name as one another, plus it wouldn't be fair to the both of them. I'm still a little upset, but I'll be alright.
I also wanted to add that I use their full names when stuff "gets real" and I am getting onto my kids so there is that too? But we also use hand me down middle names, my daughter has the same middle name as my grandma and myself and my last son has my dads (and brother) name as his middle name.
My dad, brothers, and my oldest son (because I was stupid when I agreed to name him after my loser ex) go by their middle names. My husband and I couldn't agree on naming our last one and he kept bringing up Tyler even though we have another son with that as his middle name. I refused though, cousins maybe, but not using my own kids name twice as a middle and then a first name.
Leo Astor sounds really cute and I feel like you've already compromised enough by changing his first name. And if SO thinks Astor sounds ridiculous, but thinks Dragneel has a nice ring to it, he's no longer allowed to volunteer an opinion lol. Good luck with that...
P.S. Grayson was an awesome choice and your SIL is being an unreasonable brat. I mean that in the nicest way possible though. Totally. ?
Tbh, I would have kept his name as it was. My son's middle name is the same as his cousins first name and it's also one of my cousins middle name as well as my great grandfather's first name. If i was having a girl it would have been the same thing. My cousin had kids first and wanted to name them after our great grandparents and so did I.
As for the names your SO picked out, they aren't too bad really. I've heard much worst, and at least it's a middle name..if your son grows up like his dad he might think it's a pretty cool middle name.
Tamz, I work at a credit union where we see people's legal names all day long. It's amazing the amount of people that go by their middle name rather than first. So many! There were tons of people I've known for years that go by their middle name, and I had no idea until I started dealing with their banking.
I've never heard of anyone being called by there middle name?
And I'm 33, so in my 33 yrs of life never heard of it..
I think it's crazy to not name your baby something because it's another baby's middle name, and definitely not because one day he MIGHT maybe want to use it as his first name?
If it would bothered him he won't use it....
I was upset at first because once I thought about it, a lot of kids around here like to be called by their middle name. My sister is called Jane by a lot of her friends, her first name is Tayler. My SOs step brother is called Jared, his first name is Christian. So I'm thinking maybe Chase will one day want to be called Grayson.
I know. I just wanted to respect her and her son also.
I'm not dissing fairy tale at all, it's just that's not a name to name my baby; it didn't sound right to me.
How do you know they won't like it? Not that it matters, you guys seem to have decided and are cool with the decision. I just want to know how you can read their future minds already. You know, so I can find out if my nephew and son are going to put my SIL and I in a home for giving them the same middle name. ?
@tiff I was thinking ahead in the future, what if my SOs son decides to go by Grayson? He's almost one, but I'm thinking around 5-10 years later he decides to go by his middle name.
Ok now I can get some sleep ☺️ night ladies.
@britt I understand where you're coming from, but my SOs sister and I agreed that it wouldn't be fair to the boys. I mean I'm a little upset, but I can't hold anything against her. I told her I respected that she let me know before actually naming him Grayson and the boys wouldn't like having the same name. Even though her sons middle name is grayson, not his first name. We thought about the boys first.
If any other BB comments, I'll see them in the morning. I'm exhausted and going to try to sleep.
I wouldnt change it bc someone's middle name, unless the kid goes by that name. People get flustered about middle names, or what the meaning of the name is or if its spelled according to what other people like; and idk why bc the kid isn't ever going to go by those things just like we as adults don't, so why does it matter Lol. My baby's father wanted to name our son Goku. Like he legit wouldn't quit bringing up that & some other name? but it didn't happen.
No it's just another story to get into about the whole break. But my mother made him feel like he was a horrible boyfriend and father. I only said to my parents and I quote "I wish I could communicate with him better and control my attitude" because we were arguing over a misunderstanding in communication. But my mother called him and was totally ride to him. I never said anything about him. I literally was talking about myself. But that did contribute to the break.
You're on a break because your mom doesn't like him? Did your mom break up with him? I don't see the issue with the name Grayson, my son and my nephew were born 7 weeks apart and both of their middle names are Scott. Quit worrying about what others think and do what makes you guys happy, you only get one life.
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