Absolutely makes me mad when people say "well he IS the father". Well yes he is but not when you…

Screw that. I agree with you and I'd be the same way.

I also agree with you. my mom thought that way spent 15 years with my dad and he was abusive to her and I grew up thinking that was completely normal, that's how all families are. do it for your kids, they may not grow up with their father but the years of torture due to abuse can break a spirit.

I agree with you because what if he tries to abuse you in front of you little one ,or even worse, abuse them in the future..he needs help!

I agree!! It took my mother 18 years to leave my physically abusive father! Now I hate him and don't want nothing to do with him. You don't want your baby growing up around someone like that. It screws with their brain.

Thank you ladies for the support!! :)

They should say "well he IS the sperm donor!" a father is something completely different!

No way! Your priority is in taking care of your child and doing what's best for him. If that means keeping him away from an abusive sperm donor, so be it! Good job!

He is the father but you need to go to court And have any privileges revoked if he really is abusive. Otherwise he has equal say in what goes on in your childs life unfortunately.

@sammomma- im going thru the same thing... i want my bd to have nothing to do with my son once he is born unless he gets help, which he wont... we had court today and lied about never being verbally or physcially abusive. i believe just because they helped make the baby doesnt qualify them to be a father. when someone asks me about my bd... i correct them - he used to be my babydaddy until he went off the wagon now he is a sperm donor :-)