Brother in Law drama (Long)
So my DH is the youngest in his family by about 18 years (definitely a shock to his mother). His older brother has always looked out for him...offering money when DH was in college or in financial trouble etc. This brother also has a huge drinking problem...im talkin about disappearing for days on end, abusing his partner. His parents are elderly and cannot really handle this anymore.
Does your dh/SO cry in front of you? Dh is having an awful day and pretty much said he ended the relationship he has with his dad and one of his older brothers. They were constantly putting him down and dh got defensive and said some things to his brother and his dad took his brothers side and told dh that since he’s younger than he needs to respect his older brother. A lot more was said and it all started about taxes because his brother thinks he knows everything about owning a business and selling it.
Still haven't told DH... ...that we're expecting! ? Tonight we were at dinner with my brother and SIL and they just had a baby 4 weeks ago. She said something about babies and DH replies, with such an attitude, "uh no! Never again, we are done!"
f*** ing livid! Dh oldest brother, his wife and their two girls got back today from being out of the country.
Prayers needed please My husband is on his way to his mothers house, and he has no idea when he gets there that he is going to find out his little brother killed himself thismorning.
What is your so/dh Afraid of?
deleted-user·
Don't let anyone else's misfortune detract from your happiness! Your BIL obviously needs help that no one in the family can give him. It's awful your in-laws are blaming DH but until they realize that BIL has a serious problem, there's nothing you can do. It's not your DHs responsibility to clean up after his brother.
Ceannie·
Oh they all know he's an alcoholic. But his partner still drinks heavily around him...his parents refuse to confront him over it and blame everyone else. He's so arrogant too. His SO desperately wants a child but cant conceive. He doesn't wanna do adoption because, in his words, he doesn't wanna get landed with a "darkie" or "some indian". He doesnt deserve a child in my opinion :/ he guilt trips my DH allllll the time. So sick of it. Sorry for the long rant..it feels good getting it out tho :P
deleted-user·
How frustration for you and your DH.
Did Dh tell his parents that he didn't provide the alcohol? How awful of them to accuse him.
I'd take a break from his family for a while.
Ceannie·
He didnt even get the chance....MIL screamed at him down the phone and hung up. My BIL arrived at the house so drunk he couldnt stand still yet some how its our fault? I dont think so....crazy inlaws...deal your own issues and leave us out of it :/ DH doesnt wanna talk to them again only to tell them when the baby arrives...hes so upset
deleted-user·
I highly recommend Alanon. Time to set some boundaries...
Ceannie·
This guy is in complete denial about any problem :/
deleted-user·
Alanon is for the families of alcholics
It could be helpful for you and Dh to get coping mechanisms