Weird / flirty neighbor with dh
This neighbor we will call Katie.
I am still alive! She hasn't come around for a while. Thang god. But we are now moving. Can't live around these people any longer.
Nothing too new she's been keeping her distance but last week she brought a lot of clothes for ds. I just smiled and left it in the garage it's all old and dirty ?
I would honestly go w pp's suggestion & start having super loud sex in front of the window she waits for you by but I'm kind of a crazy batch.
Have your husband text her & say "go talk to your own husband about your issues. You're weird & annoying & I honestly don't give a fack."
I would've put her in her place long ago if I was you lol.
No I don't everyone keeps to themselves. But these ones
Ok so things just got a little weird. We are all outside and they show up. She comes over and gives me a gift necklace. That says "mom". ?? I said thank you and she smiled and left. Uhhhhh whhhaaaa.
@chunky I did a small update in the comments.
And she hasn't. She was going on a "walk" and just waved at us but didn't come by. She hasn't contacted dh anymore but it has only been one day so we will see.
You're better then I am! We moved into a new house about 9 months ago & there was a neighbor that came over at 9:30 knocking really hard on my door (mind you, it was the FIRST hitch my husband was offshore)... I immediately opened the door & warned him... If you EVER show up here unannounced again, don't be surprised if I open the door with a gun pointed in his direction. There's no need for a neighbor to come over unless it's wanted & def no reason to be knocking after dark! The first time I saw her lurking in my window, I would have probably nicely opened the door & let her know, we don't do creepy around here & that's a good way to get introduced to your backup! Goodluck! & as far as number exchange, we've done it with the neighbors when we moved here & ive actually had to call the husband next door one evening, but I text his wife as well! Nothing wrong with number exchange if they are sane!
Ps- I guess you won't be able to attempt the naked crab walk, but I was really looking forward to hear about the reaction she had!! ??
@krist. No I'm sure. I don't want to sound rude but he wouldn't go after that kind of person. She is just something else. Dh has said it many times that we are from two different worlds. She's just a mess all around.
@silentbob that's what I'm saying!!! Why would she wait all day till she think I'm sleeping to text him
I have no idea if he knows or not. But like for real why she being so cool about what I said. Like is gonna try and kill me now? Or if she just gonna keep doing it.? I'm trying to stay civil.
Update.
She texted dh again asking something stupid and at 1030pm. I got fed up told dh I was done to delete her and stop talking to her. I texted her told her I did not appreciate she was constantly calling and texting dh. If she has some sort of emergency that can't wait to call me. But that I was not ok with her contacting him anymore. She said ok sorry I thought you were sleeping with your son. I said I go to sleep later and whatever please stop texting and calling dh. All she replied was ok no biggy. Now I'm scared she's gonna kill me guys. Like she didn't care. ??
Why would your husband even have her number in the first place.
To me him answering the calls is what's fueling the fire. Block her number off his phone and next time she comes over you both need to sit her down and tell her whatever you need to.
Like your not welcome over here anymore or whatever you guys are feeling.
Goodluck! Those neighbors are hard to get rid of.
I'm pretty sure the old tenants moved because of her. I would get curtains and keep them shut so she can't see in. And your husband should already have text her to let her know that she is not to text him anymore. My husband used to avoid things like that and just not text back but I told him to grow a pair and be a man and husband or I would be the one cutting him off. So now my husband hands me the phone to cut people off. Then we changed both of our numbers and are good now haha! This all happened years ago though. It has been nice without crazies.
She doesn't like them probably because they got sick of her and flipped on her. Maybe that's why they moved? Dun dun dunnnn. She sounds f*** in insane. Crossing so many boundaries I can't even keep it straight. I'd just call the cops on her for someone peeping in your windows. I wouldn't even bat an eye.
@pineapples. I am not overt exaggerating. She literally just stands there looking up into my kitchen window and when she sees me she says hi what are you doing? What are your plans for this weekend or where is everyone else. I don't go outside and last time she came over I came out shut the door behind me and asked her what she wanted. From what she said she didn't like the people that used to love her before us they lived here 5 years and then moved.
Are you over exaggerating the part about her literally standing in the window?? It seems like someone with any sort of common sense would not do that. It's super unbelievable. Everything else sounds plausible. Maybe she's just overly friendly and had a good relationship with the last tenants that stayed in your residence. Either way, if she is standing in front of the house I would come out and ask her if there was something she needed. If not, I would tell her to please not do that as it is scary and not appreciated. She should stop then & it's not rude of you to say it like that. Next step, put a no trespassing sign in your yard.
Ugh. Why do some of you women love to jump to blame the man for being "suspicious". My husband would have done the same thing. He's NICE. Doesn't mean he's in it to cheat ?
Anywho...that's some crazy stuff right there. I'm not very confrontational, but I would just be very hands off when she tries to talk to me. And I agree with pp. Next time she calls, just answer the phone and be like oh is there an emergency? Did I miss your call and thats why you're calling my DH? Make her sweat.
I asked dh how exactly she got his number. Apparently he gave both of our numbers to her and her husband in case of some sort of emergency. Well she clearly didn't understand the emergency part. I told dh I did not appreciate him doing that and he apologized and said he meant no wrong. I asked him how he would feel if her husband was constantly calling and texting me and he agreed he would not be ok with it. I want to see how he will deal with this on his own. Simply cause I want to know if he will put his foot down and block or simply tell her to stop contacting him. I'm going to seriously start walking around the house in a shirt and underwear. And trust me that is not a pretty sight. Next time she comes up and stares into my window I will not only look hideous but I will tell her to kick rocks and go home. I will definitely post an update let you guys know how this turns out. If j end up on dateline y'all better say you heard about this first! ☝?️
How did she get his number? I don't play that exchange number crap at all I don't care who you are. If your not his family there is no need to have my so number. And the next time she comes over, texts, or calls I would answer and ask her why isn't she talking to her husband and talking to yours. Maybe the reason they fought was because he feel like she try's to talk to your husband too much. You have to put a stop to it now because she clearly feels comfortable at the moment to continue.
Sometimes you just have to be rude to people. This is one of those times.
Next time she texts your husband about her issues, he needs to reply and straight up tell her he doesn't care and that she needs to find someone else to start confiding in, not a married man, and to stop texting him. If he has an iPhone, he can block her number.
We don't need to be nice to everyone in life. Sometimes you just gotta be honest with people or this stuff won't end.
I seriously don't know how to handle this. Like I don't want to have issues with the neighbors. But I want to be able to enjoy dinner in the yard with my family and not worry bout them all showing up. Yesterday dh and I were working together on the car and she shows up with her daughter. She saw we were busy yet just stood around trying to make conversation with dh. Dh kept ignoring her and we kept working but she couldn't get the hint.
Like the absolute nicest way to do this would be to have your husband tell her: "Hey, I'm really too busy for you to be texting or calling my phone. If you need anything you can contact MY WIFE."
If she doesn't get the hint, he can block her. She can contact you until you slowly start to not respond. She should lose interest...
If not, naked crabwalk up to this b*tch. ?
I have one of those.. She's married but she will come over anytime my SOs outside and sit on our porch and she won't leave for hours..she won't talk to me hardly and she sits in her enclosed porch most of the day waiting to see my SO. He tries to be nice but I'm pregnant and hormonal and freaked out one day. She came over and hugged my SO but didn't say a word to me. She sat on my Effen porch and tried to walk in my house to get my so a drink when he asked me to grab him a drink. I aske her don't you have a husband and house to tend to? Get the eff off my porch and go home no groupies around here please. She has stayed away since. Yes it was rude but I have had it with her and her inappropriate behavior and my so is too embarrassed to be rude to someone.
3RD UPDATE: What would you do?
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My world stopped
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F my neighbor just knocked on my door to tell me I had a huge beehive in my tree. Wtf do I do about this thing? It’s huge!!
Sad panda
Blah. I'm really sad about it, but we are moving to Washington state before the end of the year ???. My family lives there, and I went to part of high school there and we lived there for a couple years when our oldest was a baby. So it's not ALL bad. But...I'm still sad to leave my neighbors ????
Beat her a$$! As you see I'm not good at giving advice, just action