A couple I know did that too, I think it's extremely distateful. Don't have a big wedding until you can afford it with your own money. When I looked at their gofundme page there was a couple hundred dollars, idk who would donate to them for a wedding

Yes that's so tacky! September is really close, if they want a bigger wedding push the date back and save.

I'm still stuck on the fact that they went as far as to set up an actual day for their wedding that they stated they couldn't afford .. ?

Tacky as crap. That's what they call having champagne tastes on a beer budget. If they can't afford it, go small or wait and save up. Smh. I've never understood blowing so much money on a wedding anyway. I'd much rather spend it on a house or something of that nature. Not a one day celebration.

Feeney, nope! I would donate to that. Someone with a terminal illness and helping their family with burial, services or even their bills while they are getting on their feet are all things I would donate to.

Even with a backstory or hardships, have the wedding you can afford. Nothing more.

I had someone on my page start one for their student loans. I thought no booty head. I can't even afford mine little alone give you money for yours. Pay for them like we all do.

Ew a girl I went to school with put plastic jars with a picture of herself and her husband in gas stations titled "Pay for Our Wedding and got so much change that she raked in thousands of dollars. Then they had a backyard wedding, she didn't have a dress, cake, or music, and served a 2 chalupa minimum without sides for dinner. Her husbands best friend is my bed friends brother, and they said they got paid several thousand dollars for getting married and having a no cost wedding. I think it's so tacky.

Would it be tacky if I set up a go fund me account for my step dad. He has about 6mos. But my mom can't afford funeral arrangements. They were going to donate his body but they won't take it because he has hepatitis.

Distasteful :( court house would be more fitting.

Wow! Next they'll be asking for money to help them buy a house or new car.

Well the age explains it all. I would never ask for donations for my wedding, I would go to the court house and then in a few years when I had the money have a vow renewal.

I had a friend do it to raise money for her to go to freaking Disney world. It stated she needed it for the tickets and her goal was $700. Turns out it was just for spending money!!!!

I don't think just cause they can't afford it, doesn't mean they shouldn't get married. Just means they shouldn't have a wedding! We couldn't afford a wedding so that's what court houses are for.

I haven't read all the comments so forgive me if someone else has brought this up already but where I'm from, people have wedding socials. They sell tickets and the wedding party rallies to collect donations for silent auction prizes that people can buy tickets for at the social as well. All the proceeds go to helping pay for the wedding. I think it's just a Manitoba thing as I've never heard it done anywhere else, and I think people from other provinces find it tacky as well. We never had one but most Manitobans do and everybody loves going to them.

The moral of my story is that i feel like if you are wanting people to help pay for your wedding, that you should at least offer something in return for their money.

We only were together 6 weeks before marriage ?. If you can't afford your "dream" wedding head to the court house and save for a huge wedding on your anniversary. We plan on having our dream wedding for our ten year. I would never ask others to donate to it. Extremely tacky.

Your user name explains exactly what you just made of yourself.

PP - did you even read the post at all?

Haha! Can't afford it, can't do it. Period.

Super tacky.... IMO

Im not a big fan of gofundme in general

I hate these go fund me pages. A girl I knew a long time ago made one so she can get a new car. She made it and nobody donated, she posted it every single day for 2 weeks, I ended up deleting her. Something tragic like a house fire and losing everything or an unexpected death and not having funds for a funeral is one thing. But for a wedding and cars, flat screen tvs etc. It's all a joke.

That's when you just go to the courthouse. If you really want to be married, the fact that your married is all that should matter. You don't need a wedding, you want a wedding. And I'm not donating to a want when there are people who are actually needy

Can't pay for it, don't get married or go the cheaper route. What in the world ?

@knock that's a strong choice that I envy a bit, I wish I had the strength and the right mind to do it too. Me and SO have decide to hold off sex until the wedding, so that we can explore more our relationship. We also went to family counselling together with my son, to see if we can actually relate and communicate in the right way.

Anyway about the funding, true said. I do feel embarrassed probably because my parents are more embarrassed that we can't invite the whole family. All of my cousins had huge weddings, but I never liked that idea.

Reading yours comments is actually making me stronger on having a small and cheap one, also we only want people who actually care.

We thought about asking for Mooney instead of gifts, because we have everything at home and for the kids, so if people want to give a gift they can put it in an account for the honeymoon.

But personally I'd rather have a wonderful honeymoon with my family and save for that, than a huge wedding where I feed people and I get stressed to organise.

That's such a joke.

Go fund me is for people in actual need. Not a damn wedding.

My SO and I would love to get married but we don't have the money. We decided that 5 years should be enough time to get into a nice house and save for our wedding that we want. I'd rather wait then elope and do something big later.

I'd be embarrassed to even think about asking for people to pay for my wedding.

My so's mom is getting married, well they're already married they just want the big thing this time around, and she got upset that we weren't going to pay for her cake. Like what, we didn't tell you to go have a wedding

I think it is ridiculous! I would never donate to something like that. If you can't afford your dream wedding then you hold off until you can. If you are deadass about getting married so soon then go to the damn justice of the peace, pay the 200 and BAM! Married! Sheesh, some people are so foolish

To me it is tacky. I have seen several that I would say if you can't afford it you need to go about it a different way or try to save money however you can. I had a court house wedding because I couldn't afford a big fancy wedding and its no ones job but mine and my husbands to provide it. We didn't even want to have a reception because we couldn't afford it. Family insisted so they paid for it. They knew why we didn't want to have it so they insisted. Heck most didn't know we're getting married until after the fact.

I personally wouldn't do it for a wedding but hey if they really can't afford one but would like to be married then that's up to them and also up to the people who do donate. I agree that's a lot of money for a wedding and if you can't afford it have a smaller wedding. Saying that though if enough people just gave £2 they could have their dream wedding and £2ain't gonna harm anyone! If people were to help everyone out a little more the world would be a happier place :)

Klm- did you get married because you were pregnant? (Just wondering, because I know people who did & turned out wonderfully)

I would never donate to something like that.

Hell, we are in a hole right now and could use serious help. But it's not others job to help. DH worked so hard to get us back on our feet only to be thrown more bs. Now we are drowning again with electric/gas about to be shut off. Could we use help, god yes. But I'd never ask people on a go fund me to help. It's not others job.

And asking for a wedding is bs! If you love each other enough to get married the wedding shouldn't be that important.

Not that it's the same thing, but I've seen people have like a Honeymoon fund set up and instead of getting them a wedding gift they ask people to contribute to the fund instead. I personally don't find it tacky, because we basically used all of the money we received from our wedding to refill our savings account after being depleted from wedding/honeymoon. However, in that situation it was instead of a wedding gift! I think it's odd to ask for money to pay for your wedding though! You can do them inexpensive!

?????can I do one for my wedding? Please donate ??? jk

Again, more power to you if you think they're the one after not being together for long. Maybe it's just where I'm from, but I don't see it happen too often. It just angers me when I see people go through multiple marriages because they get hitched too quickly without truly getting to know the person. I know this one girl who's currently going through her second divorce (just got married not even 6 months ago, first marriage didn't last much longer) and is already "falling in love" with another man.

It seems quite distasteful to me. As much as I want to have my dream wedding, we're opting for getting married on the beach, just us and our close friends and relatives to witness. We live less than an hour away from the beach though so it makes sense to me. Nothing fancy at all. I'll probably spend less than $50 on my wedding dress and we'll be barefoot lol. To ask for money to get married and have your dream wedding is ridiculous. Majority of people would love to have their dream wedding but don't get it. It's not about how much you spend on your wedding, all that matters is you're getting to marry the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.

@sara

DH and I were together 10 months when we got married.....that was 6 years ago.

Just sayin

Met dh in 2003. He was military so we only talked in emails/phone. Started dating March of 2004. Engaged October 2004. Married March 2005. Ten years later still going strong. We were even teenagers when we got married (19). There's exceptions to every 'rule'.

My husband and I:

Dated for a year

Then were promised for a year

Then were engaged for a year

(So 3 years before marriage)

And so far we have been married for almost two years.

We "saved" ourselves for each other and I think that is a very special bond (not saying anything, so don't read to deeply into it)

Marriage is very special. Out of my grandmas 15 grandchildren I'm the only one married. And I'm one of the younger ones. (21).

I wouldn't say length matters but you definitely DO what to get to know the person before you vow the rest of your life to them.

Welcome to the entitled generation that feel they deserve things

Lol that's just pathetic. If they want to do it though then go for it, I just hope people aren't that stupid to donate to something like that when there are thousands of other good causes out there.

@saralily totally agree. That's why are scared as s*** XD however after 28 years of very bad choices and word stories, I finally understood why they never worked out. I own my choices and know my story, but I would never say that couples who get married after a short time are all ready or are gonna have success. Marriage is serious stuff.

Some people have zero tact.

I guess I just couldn't imagine myself marrying someone after only knowing them for a few months. If somehow you know that your SO is "the one" after such a short amount of time, more power to you. I just don't believe in divorce unless there's a serious reason behind it (abuse, cheating).

If they want to set up a gofundme account that's their prerogative, but I certainly wouldn't donate to it.

That's true pp, most people take it as a joke but not everyone. I dated for years before, and knew I wouldn't have married that person. For me is a one off in life. And am getting married to my SO when we will have been together for only 1 year and 3 months.

I personally know a couple who married after 3 months and they've been together for over 40 years now.

Timeline really doesn't matter, however the intentions you put in it count. I don't believe in divorce and neither does my SO, we are making an informed choice

Sydeti, I personally wouldn't donate to someone's college funds here. In countries where it's hard to receive a basic education that we get free in america, sure. As for college in America, I feel schooling is important. That said, I kind of feel like if my family has to take out loans or save for my husband and I to further our educations and plan for our sons, then other people can do the same. I won't donate to down payments on a house either or new car... Those are just things I feel like are extras in your life, so nope I won't aid in funding it, unless I birthed them.

Now if someone say had their car break down and couldn't afford it, or their ac broke here in Arizona or they discovered black mold and needed help funding... Those are unexpected emergencies where life is boning them and I would help people that needed it. I know how it goes to have a lot of emergencies rain on you at once and sometimes it can really strain you. I am a fan of helping others that NEED help, not want help. Needs and wants are two entirely different matters.

And @pp, I married my husband after not being official for about 9 months or so. We knew we wanted to be together and we're friends for a long time before that. We did "see" each other for awhile before we took on the gf/bf titles. We have been happily married for 8 years :) sometimes marrying quickly is terrible but sometimes it works out.

I also don't think the amount of time they've been together is relevant. My parents knew each other forever and got divorced. I know plenty of people who have known each other for a long time who've ended up unhappy and/or divorced. If they found their soulmate that quickly, more power to them.

$8000 by September 2015 for a wedding? I highly doubt they will reach their goal. Especially for that purpose. Greedy b*tches.

In other words, their taste is more expensive than what their wallets can afford so they want other people to foot the bill? If you are responsible enough to get married then you should be responsible enough to live within a budget. It's one thing if family offers to chip in but asking everyone is very tacky. A $50 court house marriage is just as real as a $50,000 dream wedding.

Brazen, I've seen couples married after a short relationship that turn out fine, but not many. Most end up filing for divorce within a year of marriage. I feel like people take marriage as a joke nowadays.

Speaking of go fund me and weddings did you guys see or read about the Charleston's gunman's sister who set one up for their dream wedding?

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Pp I don't think the length of the relationship matters. I know several couples who were married less than a year after meeting and have been together over 10 years. I wasted almost 8 years with an ex and was never officially married, only common law.

Very tacky! Go to the court house if you wanted to be married so badly!

I think it would be less tacky if they stated that they are requesting donations in lieu of gifts. But I don't want to pay for my own dinner and drinks at the wedding and still feel obligated to send a gift.

That is just embarrassing to me.

I'm sure I'm going to get negative comments for this, but who gets married after being together for only a year? The couple I mentioned in my PP was only together for 4 months before they got engaged. Maybe it's just me, but I thought you were supposed to take time with relationships. ?

They can't even spell or use past tense correctly! How are they running out of time? Do they have a life countdown? Hahaha

I do understand. These are the reasons why I want sure if asking or not, at the end of the day it's our choice.

What about studies, like a master, would you donate for something like that?

Bye Felicia

That seems like the perfect thing to say right now.

I don't really think it is distasteful. If you're honest, I don't see a problem with starting a gofundme for whatever purpose. If you don't want to support their wedding financially, so be it. I didn't think having sad or sob stories was a requirement for starting up one of those.

Is that something I would personally donate to? Nope!

Would I personally start a gofundme for such a thing? Never.

I guess I do find it kind of shallow. I am the kind that will go to the courthouse if that's all we can afford. Or to wait. I wouldn't ask favors for something so materialistic and ultimately unimportant. I ask for favors when I really need something.

They have only been together for a year and they want a wedding they can't afford ?

I copied and pasted the info on the Go Fund Me:

Hello. My Fiance and I meet a year ago and it was an instant connection right from the beginning. It was love at first sight for the both of us. He has taken in my daughter and raised her like his own.

Every since we got together we have had a super bad time when it comes to having money. All of our money has went every where else besides to our wedding and we are running out of time to have the money of our dreams. Any help at all would be wonderful. Our wedding is September 5 2015. Please help us!

I would never

I think it's tacky. I currently have an engaged couple on my Facebook trying to promote their Go Fund Me for their honeymoon. ? If you can't afford your "dream honeymoon" across Europe, then you probably shouldn't go. Js.

We had our siblings and parents. No fancy wedding, no decor, no reception. I don't understand why people spend thousands on weddings!! Would I have loved a bigger, expensive wedding? Of course! But at the end of the day, I married my best friend..with those watching who really care about us. That's all that matters.

Go fund me is a great idea for people that really need it. Health problems, natural disasters, unexpected accidents and such.

I will not donate money to weddings, home upgrades or decor, or anything unnecessary and unimportant.

My thoughts on the wedding funding is to either lower the bar of your expectations to fit your own budget or save up your own money and have the wedding you dream of when you can afford to.

WOW, I just went and looked at the page... They are asking for 8,000!!!!!

We paid for our own wedding and it wasn't anywhere near that. And we had a nice wedding.

I would donate some financial planning books to their @sses cause the stupid is real! ?

That's despicable and people like that are pathetic. And like pp said make it a joke for people that really need help. My sister set up a gofundme for my dad who was in a motorcycle accident and ended up having his right leg amputated. My mom is a CNA and can't support them on just her salary and she has/had to take numerous days off. It was mostly set up for out of state family to donate if they could(and most wanted to).

She just put it up today. How could anyone ask for money on something like that?

So that the topic is out.. I don't have a tragic story other than we are broke like hell, we want a small wedding with only about 15/20 people and are planning to hire the church hall so we can have a small catering there.

In this case, considering that we plan to spend around 2/3000 pounds max, would it be distasteful to do a go fund me? I've been thinking about it but wasnt too sure

Pp.. about that, weddings are very expensive even only doing the paperwork we already spent about 800 pounds. We pay or couples life and expenses for our kids but don't get to save, I don't understand how it is not our business to get married. We believe in the sacrament and that's why we want to do a small thing. We even thought about not having a gathering at all.

If they can't even afford a wedding they have no business getting married.

I had an old friend do this a few months ago, they're in their mid twenties. I think it's extremely tacky.

That's incredibly tacky.

I would never give money for that. I feel a big fancy wedding should be a luxury if you can afford it. Not a need or something that is owed to you.

That is extremely distasteful for sure! Do people actually donate money for s*** like that? I'd rather give money to someone who truly needs it. Not for a damn wedding!

Gofundme seems like such a joke. I'm sure people really need it but things like this just make it a joke.