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- Treehouse is on TV ALL day long.
- My son is naked most of the time unless were out.
- I co sleep, even though he has his own bed that he loves to sleep in.
- I hide toys that I'm sick of listening to.
- I'll ignore him if he's being whiney.
- some mornings, I'll stay asleep for a bit while my son gets up and plays in my room.
- when he sneaks into the bathroom and won't come out, I turn the fan on because he's scared of it and will run away.
- I also do that with my hair dryer when he's in my room and won't come out.
I let my son watch too much tv, Im doing something on my phone more often than I would like, I yell when I am really frustrated, I cosleep and breastfeed my 20 month old, hes never taken a nap without me holding him or being next to him in bed, I gave up on cloth diapers because I hated doing laundry that often.
Worst mom ever.
My almost 1yo sucks her thumb. I get so much s*** for it too. I simply reply with "I've got enough going on with my oldest childs chemo treatments & losing sleep every night because I have to wake up in the middle of the night to give her medications. I'm not worried about my baby sucking her thumb, she can't lose her thumb like she would a paci so I'm not having to wake up at random times to find her paci"
I would really hate to delete this great post because drama is sparking.
I understand people see things differently but this isn't the place to talk about other moms. Just your own mistakes.
:) please play nice
Our tv is on all the time... Sometimes with Jerry springer or novellas. I can't stand the silence... He is 18 months and its been like that since he came home from hospital. He doesn't pay much attention to it anymore though... Also sometimes he will get a sip of soda. Not regularly but sometimes. I also try to brush his teeth every day x2 a day but it doesn't always happen. He also still sleeps with us.
Tv is probably on way too much in my house.
I don't know what to do with her when she throws a tantrum. Most of the time I just stare at her while she is freaking out and just wait for her to calm down. I feel like I have tried everything and there is nothing I can do but wait it out.
I hate spanking or hitting of any kind, but I can yell very loudly. Sometimes so loud it makes her cry and then I cry. We are a mess.
DD sleeps with a bear & blankie.. 7 mos old
If were out to eat I'll give her a little taste of my Pepsi or my hubby his sweet tea ?
I still swaddle her
I hold her too much
I don't make her do tummy time because she absolutely hates it.
She watches tv in the morning because this mama needs coffee & to pump!
Haha you guusvtake stuff overboardbway to quick, AnniG, i hear you ombthe swatting my dd startwd sticking her finger in the bird cage my mil refuses to move at about 6 months when she was in her walker. I swatted her hand really quick.for that, thats how she knows Chico is a no no. Its either i swat her hand or Chico bites her finger off. Shes 19 months now and still hasnt been bit so i think im doing ok.....
I also let my dd jump on the bed, we bedshare ever since moving in with the inlaws, my kid eats hungry man with her dad, she watches .tv whenever plays on HER ipad, sleeps till noon if she feels like it. And gets her toosh swatted when she.does something she has been told not to do repetitively.
1. My house is rarely ever clean. It's not gross or unsafe, it's just messy. I don't see a reason to clean my life away. I have no one to impress. My three children do not care what my house looks like. 2.) I take quite a bit of time for myself. I'm sure plenty of people think that's bad parenting. But I have a 7 yo with ADHD, a 2 yo mommas boy and a 3 month old that breastfeeds and cosleeps. I need my me time. I usually have dinner with a friend once every 1-2 weeks. I keep my hair done. I go to the gym a few days a week while the kids sleep. I go to the tanning bed in the evenings. Hubby can hold the fort down for half an hour. Theyre his kids too. Lol 3.) I yell a lot. My kids don't listen if I don't. 4.) my 2 year old (almost 3) still drinks from a sippy cup. 5.) my 7 year old daughter is picky about her clothes. She likes specific brands. She gets it from me. I can't get mad over it, I'm the same way. 6.) my kids watch plenty of tv. It's the only way i can get the little one breastfeed. If I didn't have something to occupy the older two, id nevr be able to sit down with my LO and relax and nurse.
I don't hit my child.......you then spend a paragraph describing how you hit your child.
You can say no and redirect without physically striking an infant. It works too. There is no justification for hitting a baby. If others can discipline effectively without ever having to raise their hand, it shows that you are failing.
The fact that your baby of 8 MONTHS gets hit weekly and is used to it, really concerns me.
@prettyandpregnant and muckyducky, I do not hit my child or in any way cause her pain. There are currently 3 things that she gets 1 swat on her diaper-padded butt for ... Playing in the dog bowl, pulling toilet paper, and touching cords. .. She received swats for these things starting at 6 months because they were vocabulary words that she understood. After receiving her swats, she didn't cry because it was only hard enough to get her attention. We would then say "no, we don't play with_______" and redirect to another activity. She is to the point now at 8 months where she gets swatted maybe once a week for all of these activities.This has worked out wonderfully because we can take her to other people's homes, and she doesn't get into these items over there. Also, just as a clarification, I have been a teacher for 5 years and by have reported actual abuse inflicted in my students. She is the most previous thing in my life, and I would never physically or emotionally hurt her. I am pregnant again, and my girls will be exactly 13 months apart...if I had to take care of an infant and also rescue my dog while he eats, constantly pick up TP, or worry about cords all because of my older daughter ... Life would get rough. This method has simplified those aspects for our family while maintaining safe and consistent boundaries
Hmm well I let my son watch entirely too much tv, but it's the only way to get anything done.I let him have a bottle of milk at night until he was 2, he's 3 now.he's not potty trained, and he doesn't spend a lot of time with other kids.Oh and I've lived with my parents his whole life, we're moving out for the first time next month
My son would not have milk in a cup, just a bottle until closer to 2.5. Juice and water in a cup no problem, milk it was like fighting with him tooth and nail. We drink a lot of milk in my family. I didn't like having a bottle in bed for him or my daughter. Too worried that they would choke. You have to do what you have to do to get the milk into them. LOL.
I pop dds hands and tell her no when it comes to new things she can't touch but for old things she gets it more and when I say no she doesn't touch, I sleep an hour extra after she wakes up while she watches Roseanne (her dad cuts it on for her) and she loves watching Minnie rella while I clean and she had some of my milk shake today..... yep but she's healthy happy and loves to eat and fart (: she''ll be 1in 4 days
A tapped hand child abuse I hit my child when they did wrong 6 years diwn the line I still do if he does wrong which isn't often at all! He is living happy got the best manners everyone always says what a good job I did bringing him up so I will do exactly what I did to my sin to my new addition
Woah, now! Since when is a tap, a pat, or a bump on the bum considered child abuse? She's not full on smacking, punching, or beating her infant. That is harsh.
A mom leaving her kids in the car during the summer for any reason is a bad mom.
A mom who starves her kid is a bad mom.
A mom who ignores a child in need of medical attention is a bad mom.
A mom with little to no regard for her child's safety is a bad mom.
A mom who regularly physically, mentally, or emotionally abuses a child is a bad mom.
Trying to find an efficient and effective way to teach your child the meaning of "no" does not make you a bad (or abusive) mom.
Well my son was 6 yesterday and it was his last day of sleeping in our bed! Arrghhh I can't take it no more hahaha my fault for allowing it lol but I love cuddling up to him. But now we've told him his a big boy and he has to sleep in his own bed and if he comes in in the night daddy will keep carrying him bk until he learns that he has to sleep in his own bed lady's don't make the same mistake as me ??
My daughter slept in bed with us until 8 weeks, then moved to a crib with bumpers, an adult-size pillow, and a blanket. She has understood the word "NO" since 6 months and gets her butt swatted if she disobeys. She is now 8 months and has been enjoying lobster and peanut butter for about 3 weeks. My husband runs a pub, so, every night that he works, we go up to the bar at 11pm to say goodnight to daddy and hi to the regulars.
I'm a bad mom with a healthy, happy, well-adjusted little girl?
Sometimes, when my fiancé is at work, I make my son sleep in bed with me. His crib is only across the room but he breathes so quietly sometimes I'd rather have him close. Other times it's just super cold and I'll bundle up with him under my warmest blanket!
I'll let him cry if I'm pooping.
I laugh when he stomps on Papa's junk. It's pretty funny. I probably shouldn't laugh though.
I'll let my cats cuddle with him. They don't often but when they do I'm in the same room and totally cool with it.
Wow I'm so glad this got bumped! I loved reading all of these
I wish my 18mo would watch tv.
he couldnt give a shat about it
I won't bother with potty training until 2+. im too lazy and dont want to clean up accidents and clean out a potty.
I give him sour things just to see his reaction.
ever since the spray bottle posts, I want to spray him purely for my amusement.
I have/take pictures of my kids that I plan on using as blackmail when they're teenagers.
I forget to brush his teeth. a lot.
I let my 2mo fuss until she falls asleep. i rock and pat her butt until shes sleeping, then lay her down but she wakes a bit and fusses. I see nothing wrong but I know theres those sensitive parents that picture an abused child crying in a cage.
My son is 19months olds:
- i bed share and have no plans on stopping anytime soon. So be it if hes 5 and wants to sleep with mummy.
- he drinks mainly juice as he hates water ?
- he still has a bottle of milk at night AND in the morning
- oh and the worst one, he still has a dummy and i dont plan on taking that away yet either.
- he also has a sweet treat once a week.
Hes happy so im happy
Sarah - I sit by the aisle side and let her walk around the floor area.. As long as she's not loud it's ok.. I go with her.. I have 2 older kids that want to watch so it's mainly for them.. Lol..
I also cosleep with my almost 3 yr old.. Hubby is gone for days and I haven't slept in a bed by myself for 13 yrs.. Lol.. I keep thinking I should move her to her own bed now.. But keep putting it off ;)
I still co-sleep with my almost 3year old daughter, have done since day 1 also she still has a bottle of horlicks before bed and falls asleep with it! I put the telly on for her in bed whilst I have a lie in ?(we're mother we get tiered too & these pregnancy hormones ? any excuse) wen she has a bath I let her play as long as she like and also let her have her telly time until she goes to nursery otherwise I would never have a clean house.. It would just look like a bombs hit it because she gets everything out.. And goes in disruptive mode.. Xx
@Sarah he just sits on my lap and when he starts to fuss a bit I take a piece of popcorn (pull off the kernel) then pop it in is mouth. He loves watching the big screen! We just saw the Lego movie in 3D and he played with his glasses the whole time lol
My lovely is still baking but I'm kinda weird about the thought of breast feeding, I want too but idk if I can. The thought my df played with my boobs as pleasure and now using them as a source of life, idk how I feel about it. When I think about it I feel dirty but I don't want to deprive my child of the nutrition he need because of my weird views.
I read the previous comments ive done some of the same things like co sleep &I feel less guilty knowing that I'm not the only one that isn't a perfect mom
I'm EBF & EAT SPICY FOOD! Even though it hurts my baby's tummy. It makes me feel terrible that he's in pain so I completely stopped eating spicy food & everyone in my family is on my case about it & are supposed to smack any spicy foods out of my mouth lol but once in awhile I can't take it anymore! & have to have my hot cheetos or nachos with jalapenos! The other day I bought me some red cinnamon gummy bears omg they were sooooo good I had the bag in my pocket & they fell on the floor. My mom was like whats that! Lmao I swear i felt like a teenager that got caught with pot lol I told her I can explain its not mine I'm holding it for a friend
All my kids have slept in the bed with me and moved to their own beds around 6 months.
When my oldest goes off to school I feed/change my 2 year old and my 6 month old.
Have my 2 year old grab his nabi jr and headphones and come lay in my bed with me while me and ds3 go back to sleep. It works perfectly.
I dont take them outside enough. I want to change that 3 boys cant be cooped up all day.
They gets baths every other day.
I hate cooking so sometimes it's frozen pizza or mac and cheese.
I have no patience and yell wayyy too much
I convinced my mom that the kids had to have nabi tablets because it was full of educational stuff and I really wanted them to have one. (Which is somewhat true) but mainly it was so we could have some peace and quiet while they play on their own stuff. She got both of them one for christmas
I spank my daughter butt and tap her hands when she is not allow to touch things that are not toys she had her pacifier til she was 17 months old finally broke the habit. She drinks her milk before bed with her sippy cup broke her bottle habits at 11 months old... my daughter gets bored with alot of things im too afraid to take her out since im almost 39 weeks preg and she can run off and i cant catch her so shes mostly in the house or playing in the yard... oops
I never swaddled our dd. it was a million degrees in our upstairs apartment in July, we started baby food at 4mo. And regular solids at 6 months, we allow her to eat pop tarts as snacks, and toast with Nutella for breakfast, she doesn't have a bed time, and gets time outs every time she's naughty, we don't give in and if she has a tantrum then she has to sit until she calms down. She is almost 4.
Okay I gotta get this off my chest
I took caster oil to induce labor
I gave my 6 month old a Lollypop on Halloween, and also a candycane on Christmas
She also has slept in her tummy since day one
Oh, the other day we were playing outside and I looked away for a min, and she had a dry dog poop in her hand and had taken a big bite out of it. s*** happens
Judge me
Co slept with each dd until 6 months.
I made all of their baby food.
Each has fallen off the bed at least once.
The tv is on most of the day.
Yep, I have left them in the car to go pay for gas.
I let them have their slide in the middle of the living room.
They do enjoy sharing an occasional Happy Meal.
I did bite my oldest back, to get her to stop biting everyone. That sh!t hurts.
I did not wait until dd1 was 'ready', to potty train (at age 2.5). If I left it up to her she would be in diapers until college. She is stubborn (but I am more so), and potty trained.
Oh, I could go on. Mother of the Year.
My daughter got into the dishwasher... I intentionally let out a loud shreak stomped the floor really hard with both feet swooped her up and asked if she was ok. I then started to kiss her hands as if they had boo book's all over them... she was so scared. She doesn't touch the dishwasher anymore, I did the same with the oven. Better to scare her then have her get burned or have access to the steak knives
I take away "attachments" from my lo. Like she can have a music animal at night but can't rely on it being there in order to sleep... she doesn't have a specific toy, or blanket, or book she favors. She has no attachment to a bottle and will sleep anywhere I put her, because she trusts me. IM HER MOMMY!
My daughter has been on a pillow from hour 4 of her life. I can't imagine her little body suffering that much trauma to come out of such a tight space just to lay on a hard surface. I had my husband bring a new pillow (nice fluffy one) to the hospital and set it inside her little hospital bassinet. She still sleeps with a pillow. And a blanket. And never on a hard surface. Also, I publicly bf. People yell at me all the time but screw them. And yes I mean without a cover. When your blobs sag 6 inches and you have gone from Lush DD to a saggy H and trying to feed a crying baby under a blanket or cover... not worth it. My daughter deserves a happy mom. And she won't eat under a cover (we tried for 2 months straight) which just gets stressful when I try and make her.
Until a week ago I didn't know it's not safe to let a baby have a blanket, pillow or teddy etc in their cot with them- I've been working in Childcare for 11 years, clearly not enough time spent in the nursery room' god help me when my bub comes in 4 months- obviously I have a lot to learn lol!
My daughter is 10 months old:
*I tell her no and tap her hands if she continues.
*We co slept till around 3 months.
*She's slept with a pillow, blanket, and stuffed animal since she moved to the crib where she sleeps on her belly and has so since the move.
*I don't ALWAYS rush to pick her up when crying.
*I cloth diaper which I know some mommas think is just gross and I love it.
*I keep the TV on all day as long as we're awake and normally have something kid oriented on if she's awake.
*DH and I have finished up our sex while she was crying. (Bring the judgement there)
*She does occasionally eat Cheerios off the living room floor. (I do clean them up daily but she still tosses them everywhere the next time I give them to her.)
*I quit breastfeeding at 6 weeks (due to a lack of supply)
*I didn't start solids until 6 months.
*I've left her in the car (doors locked windows closed car off) long enough to pay for gas or run back inside the house for something.
*I don't bathe her daily.
I think I may have hit them all.
I love all these confessions!!!
I have another one to add:
I let my son watch "baby's first" tv for over 2 hours a day.
(13mo)
My one year old eats everything i do... And i dont always eat healthy.
She has sips of my starbucks fraps, pop, juice etc.
If she is good ill give her some pieces of timbits
She sleeps with a blanket
I always said that putting a leash on a kid is wrong- but im going to get one any day now. You never realize how hard it is shopping or being out with a baby who just wants to walk anywhere.
Hmm, what else? I didnt make my own baby food, she hates cows milk- so she just drinks water. Im not a stay at home mom- i have to go back to work next week.
I let my 2 year old bring a toy to bed so I can threaten to take it away if he gets up. We tried the putting him back over and over thing and he thinks it's a fun game.
I didn't realize he had an ear infection for a month even though he kept telling me his ears hurt. I just assumed it was because his molars were coming in.
The TV is constantly on in my house. Mostly just for background noise.
To snag some extra sleep, I put a bunch of toys in my son's crib in the morning and let him play for half an hour.
He gets a few stern no's first, but I smack his hands for touching the sockets and for grabbing stuff from the TV stand that he knows he shouldn't (electronics, etc). He's a year and a half. Never thought it was so bad.
Ha, and the first night we were home from the hospital I didn't swaddle him because I thought since he was in a sleep sack he didn't need swaddled. He didn't sleep very well that night. Lol.
I do not bathe him every single day.
I'm sure there's plenty of stuff I do that other mother's frown upon, but I am strict in some ways too. I'm very strict on bedtime/nap time because I have to have a routine. I'm very strict on no soda or fast food. Etc.
I think I do alright. All the baby rules will change in 5 minutes anyways. Aren't we all just doing the best we can with the information we have?
This is awesome!! I feel SO much better!!! My 2 and a half year old still sleeps w/her binky, I let her watch WAY too much tv since dealing w/this difficult pregnancy, she takes a sip of my coffee every morning and doesn't want to potty train yet. Since getting pregnant, I still have a cup of coffee in the morning, I'm going out for sushi tomorrow and I had half a glass of wine on Christmas, and half a glass of champagne on New Year's Day. Wow, that was such a release! ?
My 4yo loves to say poop so I just let her do it. Ask her anything and I bet $500 the answer will be poop -__-
And the worst would probably be.. my nephew is 2 but he's a bully so naturally I would tell his mother when he would hit my daughter or have my daughter tell my sister but she knows not to hit him back. But its gotten so bad that the other day he hit her and I watched as my daughter pushed him down, and I didn't spank her for it. You get what you give
My 2 year old still takes his "ba ba" to bed even though it doesn't always have milk in it. It's his comfort object.
I sometimes forget to brush his teeth at night! Eek! Not on purpose I'm just exhausted and forget...I feel awful about it and at times contemplate waking him up to brush his teeth but don't.
Since having #2 we sometimes spend hours a day watching cartoons and vegging out while playing toys or having a free for all.
I sometimes skip pages while reading to my son. :(
My son stuck a key in an electrical socket once. No need to tap his hand lol ! He never did that again :)
Tummy sleepers , co-sleepers , nursed till 4, not potty trained till 3.
Today I let my 2 boys play 3 Hours of minecraft while I cleaned and made dinner.
We are late for everything always . My house is pretty much a mess all the time . Sometimes I yell ... Loudly!
Lord I'm a horrible mom lol. My 3 year old still sleeps in our bed most of the time. She also sucks her thumbs.
Both of my girls stay with bruises because I let them be kids and do dumb stuff to learn their own boundaries.
I'm pregnant now and take hot baths, drink coffee and eat sushi. Oh well.
With all 3 of my kids
Introduced solids at 4 months.
I put cereal in their bottles.
Ds wasn't potty trained till 3 1/2, dd8 was 2 1/2, and dd2 is still in diapers.
I co slept with ds till he was 4, dd8 5, and I still co sleep with dd2.
I believe in spankings.
Unless it is quiet i don't check on the kids.
I let my kids CIO when they were about 4 months.
They all slept on their bellies.
I always used bumpers in their cribs since birth.
I forward face their car seats at 1.
Oh well. I'm more old school.
I purposely laid down and fell asleep nursing dd at less than a week old so I could sleep. We both got 5-6 hours that night. It was wonderful.
I let her have stuff or buy her stuff sometimes so I don't have to deal with her throwing a fit.
This pregnancy is kicking my butt, so I've been letting her watch more tv.
I had a sip of wine at a Christmas party and a sip of champagne on new years. Sue me. I wish I could've had an entire bottle. Haha
Dd gets spanked occasionally because she's picked up the awesome habit of hitting people and throwing things at people.
Somebody alert the authorities.
I never rush to get my toddler out of bed in morning or after nap. She happily plays in her bed.
My 2 year old has milo with breakfast every morning
I let her run around on the house naked most summer afternoons
She loves chips and at family get togethers I don't care what she eats as long as she doesn't eat all the adults snacks. 2 deserts is fine =p
My 19 month old still drinks from a bottle and still uses a pacifier if it wasn't for one I'll be going crazy
She also picked up a few cuss words every time a big truck passes by and makes a loud noise she says f*** ing s*** ( I'm not proud of it) we try hard not to cuss in front of her and I'm breaking her habit she hasn't said it in a few days hopefully it passed
Is my dd the only one that eats paper?
At an appropriate age there will be no "tapping." I will be whooping tail. She understands English, I will only say "no" twice.
My dd is 7 months she eats what I eat. Which means, grits, chicken, neckbone, greens, beef ribs, pork chops, mac & cheese, anything country.
When I am ready to potty train my daughter it will happen. Since she doesn't pay for diapers, I will not let her tell me how long I have to buy them.
Clearly, I just don't do new age parenting.
My 3 yr old
Plays on her I pod minni
Eats chocolate
Some days eats nothing but carbs
Only drinks 2% milk and water (when its in a cup with a fancy straw)
Cosleeps
Wears a diaper at night
Somedays runs around in nothing but her panties
Gets threatened with daddy time outs
Sometimes Ill leave her in the apartment while I run to the laundry room to grab the laundry (doors locked)
My 5 week old
Sometimes cosleeps (when my hubbs isnt around)
Uses a blanket
I dont always pick her up as soon as she starts crying.
But they both love me and are healthy! :-)
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his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...

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