I was 19, and I felt i was too old lol? because all my friends "already did it" at that point but now it doesn't matter one way or another.
I honestly don't understand waiting for marriage, and no offense to those who do, but what if you don't like the sex with your partner once married? Maybe your partner just can't satisfy you? (Too big or too small, for both girls and boys?) then divorce or adultery? I think people need to make sure they are absolutely fine with their partner, mentally, emotionally, sexually, before getting married, to avoid disappointment in one or more of the areas. Just my opinion, don't kill me for it ?
17 to a 22 yr old? def regret it tho. got cheated on within a month of dating to someone lower than me looks wise. I don't believe in the waiting thing some people don't get married. sometimes at a young age we don't realize what we're doing but we learn from it and for others if no regrets well hey theirs nothing wrong with that to each their own.
When you say that everyone is ready at different ages, I think it depends what "ready" means to you. I feel like if you have to hide it from everyone and sneak around or lie about if you got "caught" then you're not really ready. I mean obviously no one has sex in public (most times lol) but it's assumed that adult couples in a committed relationship may have a sexual relationship too, no one would question an adult about this. But at 12 if you are having sex it's most likely in your bed or his at your parents house while unsupervised (key word) or in some secluded place you aren't supposed to be. I doubt you would be allowed to spend the night at your boyfriends house for example. So this to me isn't being "ready". I also doubt anyone is mentally ready at such a young age. There's still a lot of maturity to do physically, emotionally and mentally which is why we have "age of consent". Not condemning anyone here, just saying all of us were still kids at least between ages 12-16. That's why so many girls regret their first sexual experience, because they realize now (they're more mature) that they weren't ready. This is something we couldn't have realized at such a young age.
15. It was the first time I ever felt I was in love. I had been with him for over a year and I was devastated because I was moving across the state and I knew he was who I wanted to lose it to. We continued to talk on and off for years and when I was 18 he was supposed to come live with me but that never happened. Then I met DH and he met his current girlfriend of several years. I regret my age but don't really regret the person because we maintained a close bond for so long.
There is no "right age" to lose your virginity, and not everyone believes in the concept of marriage, much less waiting until then. Everyone is ready at a different age, whether that age is 15 or 30. I lost mine at 15. It's been almost ten years now, and it never had any negative repercussions on my life. We were smart and safe, and talked in depth about it for a long time before it happened. We made sure we were ready. I'm happy I lost my virginity to someone who loved me, and who I felt safe with. 15/16 can absolutely be old enough, as long as you know you're ready.
Well technically I lost it to a girl, when I was 12,
But a guy when I was 15
Idk. .it's crazy because my parents were so religious. No sex before marriage, not allowed to have many friends, go to church constantly. Homeschooled until 9th grade, no party's or sleepovers..
Yeah... .that worked well for them
At 12. Not by choice. I chose my first partner at 14. I was prepared mentally, emotionally and contraceptionly. It was not heat of the moment, I knew I was not in "forever till we die" love, and I knew I would not be marrying him. I had a lot of therapy since my forced first time, plus my mother had been having the puberty and sex talk with me since I was 8. I did not believe in marriage as a social construct would be something I ever wanted at the time.
I don't regret my chosen first time or how old I was.
14, way way way too young and was very naive & manipulated. The guy was 18 & my dad found out & pressed statutory rape charges even tho I consented, but couldn't really legally. I felt old enough and 'grown' but looking back, no way Jose! To this day though, I still consider him my first love although he never really loved me, I put my heart into him and know my own intentions were good & thought I would marry him. I can't imagine my little girl having sex at 14 ? I didn't have sex again for a long long long time.
I was 18 not with my husband but I don't regret it I was in college and an adult. The 12-16 range is scary I hope I can encourage my daughter to at least wait until she's out of high school and in a committed relationship. If you lost your virginity that early and are now or were a teen mom then I'd say it has affected your life to have sex that early even though you say it didn't ?
I apologize if this is a trigger for anyone,
I lost mine at 13-14 to my now DF. I was young, yes, but I'm so grateful it happened when it did. About 8 months later I was raped by DF's older brother and his brothers friend, so if THAT had been when I lost my virginity I would have been devastated.
To the PP that asked if we planned it or if it just happened at a young age...
I planned it. He was older by a year and a half and had had a few partners at that point, so I kind of felt as though I needed to get a move on. I did make him wait over a year after we got together though. But I definitely planned it, I asked to be out on birth control, I got condoms and took measures to ensure I was safe at least. And at 22, were now expecting our first baby, so it all worked out :)
17 to some dude I had been dating for two weeks.
However I am one of those people who really doesn't think sex is a big deal, it's a physical and carnal act that the whole animal world partakes in. It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal. I'm not saying it's wrong if you think it's important, because if it's important to you then cool, but you can't judge other women for not thinking it's a big deal. Sex is one of the most enjoyable parts of being human. I had no desire at all to wait until I was married.
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I'm so sorry that happened to you! That's devastating! I hate hearing stuff like that happening..
I was 14 when I lost mine. Ya, I'm ashamed just because I look at girls that were my age now and think "what the hell! You're way too young to have a bf! Lol"
We were the same age. We were close friends before we were bf and gf and it just happened. I don't regret it though. He was a nice boy and even after we broke up we remained friends but lost contact after I moved.
@ybm My boyfriend and I didn't plan on it, but I did love him very much and it was the first time for both of us.
We probably should have discussed it more beforehand but we gave in to the heat of the moment. Although I was very young, and we ended up breaking up shortly after the fact, I'm still thankful for the experience and the lessons I learned from my relationship with him.
Edit: Oh, and he was one grade above me and 1.5 years older. It was a first relationship experience for both of us, though. I definitely didn't feel taken advantage of or anything.
I was 14, and it was to my high school boyfriend. I started school at a very young age, so I was in tenth grade.
I don't regret it because I don't regret anything about my life.
I am disappointed in the fact that I gave up my convictions in the heat of the moment (I had planned on saving myself for my husband). I'm also disappointed in the fact that I dated people with religious beliefs opposite of my own, therefore pulling me away from my faith.
I am, however, thankful for all of my life experiences and for the person I am today. ☺
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