Ladies I need advice. I offered to watch my friends daughter and collect her from nursery whilst she works part time.…

@kate_smith it is. She's spoken to me since and seems like she's gotten over it so hopefully we've moved past it now

It's a huge responsibility and a huge strain on the friendship... You just tried to do good!

@sara-lou86 I know I dno why I feel bad tbh. I think I'm more angry with her for being angry with me lol and yeah I know I won't be doing that for a long time x

Her decision to take a job before finalising child care and not having a permant plan is her issue. She put you in a corner & is mad at the outcome. I wouldn't feel bad. Can be messy helping friends & family in these situations.

@nam05 she offered me 100 pounds for the month to go towards food and stuff. I think it was because she only got to work one day and then I was ill so she's annoyed but I didn't mean to get ill :( It's just a crappy situation really I won't be offering again x

@sara-lou86 Basically she went and accepted it before she asked me I think she knew I would say yes and then the next day she said she would start the Monday this was on the Friday so I had the weekend only to process it. Her daughter was ill and she never even told me I found out when she came and since November I keep getting colds so I just knew I would be ill again. I understand it's not convenient for her but it's not like it was intentional you know

Did she already have this job before you offered to help? She needs to have a back up plan for situations like this. It's unlucky it happened so quickly & maybe that's why she's reacted so poorly to it. I would just explain you are happy to help but she needs a backup plan for if you're unwell or your daughter is. If that doesn't work for her then there's other options. Childminder etc.

Hey beaut, my advise would be to just let her know that you tried to only help. I’m sure you are not getting any fee for this are you? It’s just a kind gesture/help from your end. She’s lucky that someone has actually volunteered to help. Her being angry is odd I feel, especially as you have your own child too. Generally avoid doing such favours to anyone too close to you as there’s a huge risk of things going wrong. Feel better soon 😘

@bonnieb that's true. The balls in her court now I guess. And thanks hun x

@srose1989 I know you're all right thank you hunni x

Don’t love ur not a robot ur bizzy enough with ur own daughter xx

@srose1989 she can't I dno why I agreed to it tbh i feel silly now. I love her daughter but I mean I was trying to be kind and now she's made me feel crap x

No she can’t expect u to do it love ,xx

@steph1101 yup that's what she said. And thank you hun I'm trying x

@bonnieb I messaged her and said that. If she doesn't have someone else who she can ask when I'm ill or away or have prior commitments then maybe I'm not the right person. I thought I was being nice and doing her a favour and it's like she's being arsey with me so maybe I shouldn't have offered in the first place x

Quit her job? She’s saying that to make you feel rubbish. Take no notice and get better soon xx

@srose1989 that's what I mean. It's not like I purposely went out and got ill. Her daughter goes nursery 3 days a week so she wanted me to go in the snow today with skyla to collect her and then Mondays and Tuesdays have her for 5 hours but literally Tuesday I couldn't move. I'm just annoyed with how she's acting tbh x

She can’t rely on u when u have a young daughter things can happen every day that we don’t plan xx

Quit her job ?? Bit extreme there is nursery’s around she trying to guilt trip u xx