I've always avoided negative people, and I haven't waisted my time hating others because nothing positive comes from it.…

I would hate her too based on her behaviour. So don't be so hard on yourself. Why does your husband do about her actions? I can't believe she carries on like that in your home. Maybe some boundaries really need to be established so that you aren't dealing with her nonsense. Is she that hit you a few weeks ago?

Obviously she has some serious issues and she is probably jealous of you to be honest. What ever her issue was is irrelevant. She is not mature to do that in front of everyone, kids and all.. she has some definite issues that she needs to address. Its not just with you or your hubby, she is probably a ticking time bomb. I feel sorry for her because she disgraced herself as a women a mother, sister she should be embarrassed but she is so furious and frustrated with life you all became her punching bag. Overtime you will heal from this. just ensure that you don't give her an opportunity to do it again. I would have him go through the courts to have a third party drop the child off or pick up. She is not able to be civil so take the necessary steps to ensure all your safety and probably will give his daughter some stability. Her mother would be monitored more closely which would apply pressure and maybe she will then reconsider her destructive path and see that her decisions have yielded these measures 😉