So my mother likes to give me comments about my relationship "as long as I don't get mad at her". Now she loved my ex…

So my mother likes to give me comments about my relationship "as long as I don't get mad at her". Now she loved my ex who turned out to be controlling and abusive and a lazy piece of shit that just complained till he got it. My boyfriend now has been great, he has stepped up as a step father to Gabriel; we've been together since he was six months old and he's now three. He has graduated with an associates degree in criminal justice but then decided that's not for him, he's currently working in a factory but is taking his placement test for an electrician apprenticeship on Friday. Yes he plays video games and spends to much money on Xbox sometimes, watches YouTube on his phone and will lovingly pick on me from time to time, that's one way how we show love. She told me tonight that she thinks we need to live on our own first and then move in together after living separately because she feels that were not going to match up. That either he is going to do nothing around the house or he'll be to picky about how things should be done. She also said that she doesn't see us staying together forever or me being happy if we do. I don't understand how she can love an abuser that used me just to have his baby but not like the guy that has stepped up way more than need be and wants to take care of Gabriel and I😣🤔. Sorry for the long rant y'all, I appreciate you reading all of this if you did. Thoughts or comments appreciated 😚