@squish86 im really sorry your feeling like this you must be feeling so helpless right now, its not a nice thing at all what shes doing shes supposed to be helping your partner while your in hospital but instead shes taking over and doing things that you wouldnt normally do when she should be following your rules! I really get how frustrated you must feel my mum did the same when i had skye because i was only 18 when i had her and lived with her she totally took over and didnt think it was an issue in the end i had to tell her that as much as i appreciated her help she wasnt doing things the way i wanted and it was getting me down, she respected that and backed off to let me get on with things which she did and apart from the fact shed introduced a dummy to skye which i didnt want her to have and couldnt get off her till she was older 😣 everything else i did how i wanted 🙂 maybe just have that chat with her like @gabilicious as suggested or ask your fella to sit down with her if you dont see her and tell her its fab shes helping but would she stick to how your wanting to raise her and not how she does x

You need to speak to your partner about it hun, if she's looking after your child she should follow your rules like no soap etc, it ain't fair on your partner or you, have you spoken to her yourself about it because if she carries on it'll only cause more problems in the future because you won't be able to trust her to babysit etc, to me it sounds like she's trying to act as if she's Amelia's mum which is wrong because she's her nan and there's boundaries, plus your princess got a wonderful mummy like you, I'm so sorry you're going through this Hun no one should be feeling this way, but you or your partner definitely need to talk to her and sort something out xx