Advice please ? Long story... I'm getting married in April we decided no kids other than our own two and my niece And nephew as would end up more kids that adults and it would Cost so much more plus wanted parents to have a day/night to enjoy themselves. Anyway my "maid of honor" ( hasn't done much to help but cause me stress) has 5 kids her youngest will be around 5 months old she's breastfeeding him and keeps telling me she is gonna try and express ect... but I know she has no intentions of doing that and I worry she's gonna put me on the spot the day before and say he won't take a bottle (cos she wouldn't have tried) so she either can't come or has to bring him. I'm spending a lot of money for her dress, hair make up food ect... so deffo don't wanna be let down. But it's not just her that's got kids the ushers have kids and we said no kids. Now I know it's different as she's feeding him but I dunno what to do!? Do I say she can bring him (if my oh agrees too) or do I say she can't. This all sounds so awful when I read it but there will be two other guests that will have newer baby's than that coming and they arnt bringing them. The biggest thing is she's just not talking to me about any of this she's ignoring my messages and not making contact with me. But she's spoken to a friend about it who told her to talk to me and be honest about it all! Torn tbh as she's already not coming on my hen but still hasn't told me this!!! If she just came to me and said look I'm feeding my baby I don't wanna bottle feed him so either he comes or I can't I'd be happier she's being honest rather than dragging it out making out she gonna try and express. I don't expect her to I said it's down to her it's her baby. May I add that we fell out a while ago as she wasn't bothering with me ect any way we made up and I asked her be part of the wedding again so she could have said then I can but il have a baby then, but she didn't she just said it will be fine il sort out. So stressed ?
I can't believe it My cousin stayed with me rent free from September 2015 to April 2016 and her stuff is still in my apartment. She's been saying she was going to come get her stuff for months. She text me this morning saying that she was going to come and get her stuff soon, and I asked her if I could have her air mattress. She tried to charge me $60 for it. The air mattress sells new for $35 on amazon and she didn't even pay $60 for it. I didn't respond and she just text me saying the $60 was for a microwave she bought me and her air mattress. When she got the microwave, it was a gift. Then when my son was in the hospital from October to January out of town, I was going to get my internet service turned off until I returned home. My cousin was doing school work online, so I paid for it while I was away so she could use it. I'm trying to figure out a response to her. ?
3RD UPDATE: What would you do? Ok, so we have these new neighbors they have been there renting the house 2 doors down for about 3 months or so. They have a 2 year old boy, he just turned two. They have asked me to babysit him on multiple occasions, just so happens I've been busy each time. In my mind, they don't know me or anything about me. Barely know my name and they want me to watch their kid because they see I have kids and stay home. Apparently they haven't had any luck with the babysitters they have had. Well his sister just moved in and she had the little boy all morning. I get a text at 11 from the mom asking if I can come get the boy because the sister needs to leave to work on her car?.... I told her I would but was on my way to the store and would be back at 12 and would get him then. So I get back and the sister brings him over. He doesn't know me at all, but he is a very good little boy. I had no problems with him the whole time. So here is my question, I watched him from 12 to 530, the mom texted at 2 and asked how much I told her 10-15 just because I'm nice. If it was me in that situation on such short notice and someone saving my ass to watch my kid I would give them 15-20 if they said 10-15. So the dad picked him up and said the mom would pay when she got home. I just texted and asked her because she's been home since 6 (now it's 930) if she was bring over the money, I was super nice about it. She said her husband had to go to the bank, so he went and came back and then she texted me that it was on the front porch. They gave me $8. Like really? I just find this super weird. Would you be kinda thrown back by this also? I definitely learned my lesson and won't be "helping out" anymore. I just thought this was nuts.
is it wrong to be frustrated that my daughter acts like she can't do certain things with out my help. she plays dumb a lot and I wish I could be like no girl show what you know. she acts like she can't trace or match shapes so shes ask for "mommy finger" to help her so I barely hold her hand and she magically can do it but if I dont hold her hand she just scribbles and acts like she doesnt know the pic is how she traces when I'm "helping her" otherwise it'll just be scribbles all over the page
Amber Jacq ·
Lol is it bad that I would watch her kid for her so she could go party because I would be so worried she'd leave it with a really bad stranger that could possibly hurt her child? Hopefully she isn't stupid enough to leave it with any other strangers (As you can probably tell I've seen some bad crap in my 20 years related to child abuse)
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@amberjacq, Took the words out of my mouth.
Hannah Clark·
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@amberjacq @theinkedmommy tbh I probably would have if I didn't have my own kid lol. Her son and my daughter are around the same age so I don't think I could handle two of them on my own 😅 she literally posted a status on FB right after like "I need a babysitter, Idk who just anyone" like girl...no...
Hannah Clark·
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@6.5.16 yes! I really didn't appreciate being hit up by a stranger trying to use me as a babysitter 🙄🙄🙄
Amber Jacq ·
@scurlock.mommy Wow oh my gosh that's so crazy what is wrong with her I would never post and ask for a baby sitter