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A little vent here: My mother/step father are alcoholics. I love them but obviously keep a close eye when they are…

A little vent here:

My mother/step father are alcoholics. I love them but obviously keep a close eye when they are holding/playing with my son. Last night, my step dad was asking how I would feel if they took him on vacation (without me or my husband). I didn't understand this request. I told him no. Then he got very upset that I would deprive him of a family vacation with my 3 month old son and started demanding reasons why not. I simply just told him that he is my son and I will decide if he goes on a vacation or not but furthermore that if he goes on a family vacation his parents should be there! (But I really wanted to say it's because they drink so much I can't trust them at all).

My stepdad never had children and I feel is trying to live vicariously thru my son and act as if it's his own (he has a way of making everything about him). But this really made me very mad.

I needed to vent before I said something I would regret!!

Blah! Rant over.

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zapper

Ash ZapМама сына-младенца

@krissy_loo44, I agree. I do not understand the reasoning! Especially when they both drink heavily. It should be apparent that the mom or dad need to be present.

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krissy_loo44

krisМама дочки-младенца

Oh man. I'm so sorry. I don't know why someone would ask to take a baby (grandparent or not) on a trip with out the parents. My mom was a single mom and so my grandparents were like second parents and I still didn't spend the night at there house until I was like 6 and any trip we ever went on was with my mom. It's just strange when people wanna take the kid away from their mom.... good luck!

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zapper

Ash ZapМама сына-младенца

@lu_herrera5, I have tried in the past and the last time I mentioned anything about drinking they didn't speak to me for 2 years. Sadly, I have just come to accept that this is who they are and it's never going to change but still want my son to know them cause I didn't have any grandparents myself.

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zapper

Ash ZapМама сына-младенца

@jcbaby, yeah he clarified the trip would be without us (his parents). I told him no but I can't understand why he doesn't think that's a bizarre request. Especially when he refuses to feed him or change his diapers! Like really.. you won't even help with basic things when I visit and you want to take him on a vacation (international). No freaking way.

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jcandbabye

JillianВ ожидании первенца

Girl you're right he is your son and they cant expect you to let him go on a vacation with them without you being there. Hes 3 months old he needs his mommy!! Tell them theyre welcome to take him if you can come along too but if not then of course the answer is no.

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lu_herrera5

luisa herreraМама четверых детей

It a hard situation my friend. I would try to tell the truth without hurting his feelings.

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