I'm honestly hurt. My SO doesn't show affection or how happy he is about the baby. He doesn't rub my tummy or talk to…
I'm honestly hurt. My SO doesn't show affection or how happy he is about the baby. He doesn't rub my tummy or talk to our little one. He claims that these 9 months are for me and the baby to bond. And when it arrives that he'll love and never leave it alone. But just once I would like for him to rub my tummy and just let our baby hear him talk to him/her. He claims it's not time for him to bond with our baby all because he can't feel him/her. I tried to sneak his hand on my belly when our baby kicks so my SO could say he felt our baby. But he pulls back. He tells me not to take it personally...but I just can't help but feel so hurt and end up crying. Just so he doesn't see me cry about it I go somewhere else like the bathroom and silently cry my heart out. I always wanted to be with someone who shows their excitement of having a baby. I want to wake up yo see him cuddled up to me and rubbing my belly while talking to the baby. My SO says he is excited but never shows it at all. All he does is complain if I'm doing something wrong that will be bad for me and the baby. I know he cares but come on. I want him to show me he's happy and excited...but I get nothing. I feel like he doesn't want to have this baby as if we should have waited to try for one. I have talked to him about it and all he could tell is "I've always been like this since I was little. I was like this when my sisters were on their way to the world. I was like this about my son. I don't bother because it's your bonding time..not mine." But thing is he is a huge part of it too. Not just me. The way I see it is if he actually tries and talks with our baby and gives me belly rubs and shows affection for once in his god forsaken like, that it'll be a good bonding experience before our baby is born. I'm so tired of trying...I've given up on trying so hard. There's so much I want him to do that doesn't really require anything at all and yet he complains about thats not how he is or shit like that..why. Why can't he just try for me? Nothing I say to him doesn't help. Absolutely nothing. But on another note, way before I was pregnant he doesn't show love or affection towards me unless he is fucking high. What man does that?!?! I've complained about it several times and all he can do is laugh about it and tell me he just doesn't do that and that it's nothing to worry about. I hate it when he's drunk and high. He says all the right things and sweeps me off my feet. And when he's sober I get boring conversations and small talk and complaints and just...ugh why are men so fucking complicated! It doesn't take an advance degree to please a woman for god sake!
Andrea Rose·
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Kinda sounds like we are dating the same guy. I mean, mine is more emotional and shows affection, but all he does is rub my belly and feel kicks and stuff. He won't try to talk to the baby at all. And, as much as he says he wants this family, he does everything to fuck it up. I'm 33 weeks now and he hasn't contributed a single thing for the baby, yet he gets waaaaaay more money than me. He spends it all on food and weed. Hasn't bought a damn thing for our son. He makes empty promises every month, that the following month will be better and he will buy our son's crib and all these things. But, we still don't have the crib. My mom ended up buying our stroller and car seat because my fiancé plays too many games. I cry all the time about it. I think we might just have to walk away from these guys. I love my fiancé, but he's literally a no good piece of shit. Right when I have the power and will to leave him, he always does something to change my mind as if he'll change for the better. Never happens, though. I hope things get better for you. But, I think it's a guy thing. Once they're like this for so long, they don't seem to change. 😭
Jessica Whitaker·
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we barely started to look for baby stuff. Im 30 weeks already and cutting close to the dead line. He complains that we don't have enough money to get stuff for the baby but he somehow has money for weed. I try to tell him he doesn't need it need it. But he makes excuses and shit. He also says we're moving out of town after the baby is born. We live in a shitty trailer and he barely got a job. I told him if things dont turn up soon for the better of our child that I'll have to get us in a program that will help us more than we need until we can find a house or an apartment at least. He always tell me he'll handle it but I haven't seen any improvement. Every now and then he'll bring home a rose and my favorite candy saying he does think of me but I keep telling him I dont need that. And thar we need to get a better place. We dont have diapers, a diaper bag, clothes, or anything. Im very stressed out over this because he doesn't want to do much of anything. He says his sister has baby clothes but alot of them have mold and holes on them and he doesnt understand why im so agitated about it