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Jenna Wheeler
wheelerjenna
Jenna Wheeler
I'm a young (19, 20 in March) FTM.
My fiancé and I welcomed our daughter into the world 12/16/2016. I love our little family life so much.. it's just been hard this year. We got our first apartment in January of last year, and in August we had to move because we couldn't afford rent anymore after I stopped working while pregnant (my work gave me a hard time) and he lost a job due to our car breaking down and not having transportation. Now, we just moved in with my dad because I couldn't take staying with his grandmother anymore after how she talked a lot of crap behind my back because she didn't like that I was "picky" with people regarding their cleanliness when holding my daughter. I'm so much happier here, I just feel more like he spends more time playing his stupid NBA 2K17 on his Xbox than he does helping me with our daughter. I understand he can only help feeding when I have pumped milk for her, but I feel like I do all the changes and anything else you can think of. He started work yesterday and I don't feel the need to wake him to change her every time we have a night feeding.. I just want him to at least be more involved through the day like changing her without me having to ask or waiting for me to take her when her diaper is dirty.. or when she cries try seeing if it's anything else other than her wanting to breastfeed instead of talking to her telling her not to cry. I just feel so unappreciated,sensitive, and like a lard ass. I just wanna feel appreciated and that at least he thinks I don't look like as hideous as I feel.
He never says anything mean toward me, I just feel he cares more about his football games, and Xbox than he does our relationship. 😢
22.01.2017

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sami.jo
sami.jo
@wheelerjenna me too! glad to hear your talk went okay. hope things look up for you. stay strong and congratulations on your baby
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wheelerjenna
wheelerjenna
@sjclws2017, I'm glad he doesn't do that friend thing. He doesn't go out or anything without me, minus work but that's different lol. I just talked to him about it an hour or so ago so maybe he understands? It seems hard for them to especially since they don't get hormonal like we do. He tries to help when he notices, and he's gotten better about asking. Now that I'm thinking it through more he probably just assumes anytime she cries she's hungry since she is cluster feeding. Boys are just different. I hope your BF acts better about the friends thing, I'm here if you need to talk!!
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wheelerjenna
wheelerjenna
@beebaby, I did an hour or so ago! I try to express how I feel as much as I can sometimes I just don't think about it.
He was really understanding, it's just guys don't notice some things like we do I guess!
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sami.jo
sami.jo
you're not alone girl. however I'm 39w2d I have the same feelings with my boyfriend. I bring it up and things are good for a week or so and then it goes right back to how it was... our biggest issues are him having his friends over until 4 am weekly sometimes multiple times a weeks. guys have a hard time adjusting... just hang in there but make sure he knows how you feel.

try leaving him alone with the baby and you go out more often
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You just need to talk to him about it.
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