So my son has only taken a pacifier once and that was while he was in the hospital when he was 6weeks old. I am running…

He'll most likely cry hysterically my daughter did. But I just kiss my daughter, turn her night light on and tell her good night when I lay her down. I crack her door and let her cry until she goes to sleep. Occasionally I go in there lay her back down kiss her tell her she's ok and that I love her and leave the room. Or I'll go to the door and say "Vanessa your ok mommy is right here go night night. I love you pumpkin" and leave. If I can't deal with the crying and feel like I'm going to cave I put ear plugs in and turn on music or the TV or I sit in my car while her dad deals with her because he is stronger than me. It's hard but my daughter's doctor did it with all her kids and he cry because he is dependent on you. I don't want my daughter to be dependent on me for every little thing. Because in my opinion it won't help her when she's older. If she doesn't figure it out now when she's young it will only be harder to have her become independent when she's older. I don't want a 2 or 3 year old sleeping in bed with me or rocking her to sleep at that age or always having her attached to my hip. I want her to explore and know I will be there when she falls to encourage her to get up and try again but I won't have her dependent on me for every little thing. I'm not going to lie he will cry as if he's dying but it won't hurt him. He'll figure it out, you just have to stand your ground and be strong and sooner or later he'll figure out that he is ok and you won't let anything hurt him but it's time to go to sleep and he doesn't need you to go to sleep. A lot of moms don't like the cry it out and are against it but you can try it and see if its for you if not try something else. @hkatedavis

@babynessa, how do you start the cry it out? I'm afraid it would just be traumatizing for him since he's already 8 months and used to me going to him with even the start of a cry. If I don't come he starts crying hysterically

I never used a paci. My daughter has this silk rag doll. She likes silky things and soft things so thats what I used when she was younger. But now she just sleeps on her own because I did the cry it out method which is what her pediatrician told me to do and it works. Hard at first but so rewarding once she figured out she's ok and I'm not picking her up. She crys maybe once a week for about 5 minutes and thats about it.

I'm wondering the same thing my daughter doesn't take one also !@hkatedavis