I need some advice ladies.. Okay, so my first child which is my daughter when she was born my mother and father was both…

Thank you ladies for the support!! ♥️♥️ My mother told me today that she "respects my decision but she wants me to respect her decision" her decision was that she refuses to come to the hospital when he is born and she also decided she won't come see him at the hospital either. Then she continued to say, "maybe I can see him around or something down the road" and "she won't be close or love my son like she does my daughter" that's when I really put my foot down and told her if she can't accept one of my children then she can't accept either of them. Then she asked one more time. "So me and your dad for sure can't be in the room?" I said "no you won't, y'all will be in the waiting room with the rest of the family, please respect my decision" then she told me she didn't and that she's done with me. So I walked out and went home and loved on my babygirl and rubbed on my son. My mother will not treat my kids unfairly and won't love one more than the other and WONT have favorites. If she can't accept and love them equally then I guess she won't be in either lives of my babies. It hurts for me to even consider it but nobody disrespects my children. I love my mom to death but good lord.😞

I'm really sorry you have to deal with this from your own mother. But manipulation like that is NEVER healthy. I know it's hard but you gotta put your foot down and stick to your guns now. She will most likely come around eventually but even if she doesn't, it's her loss.

Well it's official I guess me and my mother are no longer in contact. My dad won't speak to me because she filled his head with BS. She blocked me on Facebook, blocked my number and before she did it all she told me she never wanted to see my face again and don't want to even know if Jayce exists. Told me it wasn't fair to her and that she knew she had a gut feeling why she "doesn't love him" I can't really even type because I'm in such tears. 😞

momma my mom was the same way n she should up wen I had my daughter even after she was being hateful n saying mean things but she was only n the room for maybe five minutes looked at her n walked out

You made the right choice and she needs your decisions. The fact that she's saying she wants nothing to do with him should make you reevaluate that relationship because your son did nothing to deserve that. If she can't put her problems aside for the beautiful blessing coming into this world then maybe it's best if she doesn't go. It's obviously easier said than done but if you let her have her way then you will have that regret for a very long time. You are your own person and you have your own family and that's what you have to put first no matter what.

@mrsdillon Tell her if she cant be mature enough to sit her butt out in that waiting room and respect yours and your SOs decision then she doesnt have to come. Just let her know if she doesnt come dont expect you to let her have any part in her grandchilds life.

it's not.about them it's Bout what makes you comfortable what you want the experience to.be like . I'd tell them that's how.it is whether they like it or not they can either come see their grandbaby or don't for selfish reasons

Thank you! ♥️ she is just giving me the guilt trip. She told me currently she doesn't want nothing to do with him and that don't ask for her to even come see him and that she won't be there period and that she won't go to anymore appointments with me. (So I wouldn't have To go alone) I am so torn that she would even say this towards me.

I think you did exactly what you needed to. Don't give in, let the nurses know what you want so they can't just come in. I have lots of rules for my delivery and no one gets a say. You need to do what you want so you guys can enjoy it. It's not fair for them to control your moment. If they decide not to show up, that's on them. They'll regret it later on.