@mrs.n2014 yeah, I deffinately understand that struggle. It's hard not to say anything when its just so wrong.

@mrs.n2014 I was raised to be straight forword. My dad and I have at each other all the time because we're both outspoken. It's really hard me not to say anything or not be disappointed in my SO when hes doesnt say what he means. They're all scared of her. She freaks out so much the whole family thinks it's not worth it to even try. My sister in law is moving across the country end of January because shes sick of living with her mom... They don't know yet she's planning to only give them a months notice. Moving from California all the way to Florida.

@mrs.n2014 10 christmas events sounds like a waste of money and a lot of effort... I would be exhausted. Btw good for you to stand up for yourself!

@mrs.n2014 I wish I could say something but it's his mom so if I do slip one day shes gonna make everything hell for the family... I wish my SO would stand up to her but he wont, no one will because she's that mental about it. I really want to say there are way saddier things than this to cry about. He told her he's been busy over the holidays because we're starting a family and he's just excited and that's when she broke into tears and threw a fit... I honestly thought it was too gentlely put at the time until I saw her reaction. It's uncomfortable to see a grown woman cry about that.

@mrs.n2014 That is so unreasonable... I just didn't grow up in a family like that; my parents never celebrated anything with us so it's never been a big deal to me. Every one is on eggshells around her for every family related holiday. The tension is crazy high. It's so uncomfortable especially since shes inviting her family over to our house because her house is "too small to entertain at" yet she wants our ceramony to take place in her backyard.... Kill me