Momma I need custody advice!!!
Background story: My ex and I broke up two weeks ago after him getting a tad bit physical! He wiped my house clean missed our last ultrasound appointment and hasn't bothered to ask how it went or anything. He is now back with his other baby mama.
I plan on giving my son my last name and can't decide to put him on the birth certificate if he's not going to be there for him but at he same time don't want him to be able to run away from his actions and responsibilities.
What do I do?!
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Even if it wasn't major, if he was abusive in any way then you are better off just blocking him out of you and baby's life and doing it on your own. It will be hard, but it is also the greatest decision you can make. I left my abusive sperm donor that I was actually engaged to when I first got pregnant and haven't looked back since. My son is 9 months old and it is very difficult to do everything on my son own but it's also very possible! I hope everything works out for you ❤️
Yes ma'am. I would do custody before child support
That's basically where I'm stuck! I want him to pay child support but I would have to put him on birth certificate correct?
The only thing you can make him do is pay money. If he isn't going to grow up you can't make him be responsible. Are you planning on child support?
Yes I agree! He bought a crib and that's it I've bought all the clothes and diapers so far. Baby will be here in 9 weeks! @princessmama
If he hasn't done anything for that baby and abuses you, he's not a father, he's a sperm donor in my opinion
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Am I wrong for telling my Bd that because we not Married my baby don't have to have his last name? He really got mad and told me I was project n ignorant. Crazy part is I was thinking about giving my baby his middle and last name
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer.
My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk out...
My boyfriend is so upset that I didn’t give our son his last name but I have 4 other kids that has my last name I didn’t want to make him the only one with a different last name. Is that selfish of me? Or should he just understand. We not married
Definitely don't put his name on the birth certificate. If things were to change later on and you for some reason wanted him on there you could add him.