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Stephanie
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My mom's trying to convince me to let her into the delivery room with us, but I honestly just want it to be my boyfriend…

My mom's trying to convince me to let her into the delivery room with us, but I honestly just want it to be my boyfriend and I. And it doesn't even have anything to do with how shitty my mom has been this entire pregnancy, I just feel that this is our child, I want it to be just something that we experience. Plus, I feel it'll be a lot less stressful if only my boyfriend is there. But my god, she's trying to make me feel guilty and I'm about to snap 🙄

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mamacole

Crystal

Мама дочки (3 года)

But then again your not doing it for you because if she was to be in the room she can stress you out and also baby. Don't feel bad your just doing what's right.

dang_dridri

Adrianna

Мама двоих (младенец)

😂😂😂 girl yes! My mom gets so butt hurt sometimes. I told her she's definitely going through "the big change!"

jewellmason1234

Jewell

I'm the same exact way! The way I see it no one was there when you made this life so no one should the there when baby is born but you and SO:) tell her to respect that and if she can't she can't come see baby at all until you deem fit.. That's what I told everyone

efflyn

Stephanie

В ожидании первенца

Same. I always have to completely spell things out for her, and then she always says "you hurt my feelings" 🙄 I want to be like, 'bitch I don't care' lol @dang_dridri

dang_dridri

Adrianna

Мама двоих (младенец)

Oh yeah. My mom is the same way. It's very annoying & I hate even having to explain myself to her. 🙄

efflyn

Stephanie

В ожидании первенца

I really have no issue with telling my mom how I feel and why I feel that way, it's just annoying that she keeps trying to shove her way in. I'm going to end up snapping and yelling at her, which I don't want to do, but she doesn't listen. @dang_dridri

dang_dridri

Adrianna

Мама двоих (младенец)

At first I wanted my mom & my boyfriend's mom there, the closer I got to delivering people got knocked off of the list. It ended up just being me & my boyfriend. I felt bad but they were there right after. I just told the hospital I wanted it to just be us. Let the nursing staff be the bad guys if you don't want to sound rude or hurt her feelings.

efflyn

Stephanie

В ожидании первенца

Neither my boyfriend or I have family near by, except for his dad, but he knows to give us space. Honestly, the only people to show up to visit at the hospital will just be his dad and my mom. I wish I could have someone to take pictures, but my family lives hours away and my boyfriend doesn't have any family. @heatherlg88

efflyn

Stephanie

В ожидании первенца

I understand that, but I can honestly say that I will not regret not letting my mom in the delivery room or even calling her until after the baby's born. She has been terrible to me and the rest of my family for years now, and we've all tried to be there for her and help her, but she refuses to be nice or see that she's been terrible to us, so I give up. I thought maybe me being pregnant would help our relationship but it's only gotten worse. This is my child, and she's not going to ruin my daughter's birth. I'd rather deal with her being upset afterwards than deal with her being an annoying cunt during delivery. @lizyetter_1991

heatherlou88

Heather

my mom wasn't in there with us, but I invited my aunt. that way I had someone taking pictures of us after she was born.

efflyn

Stephanie

В ожидании первенца

Same to you ☺️ @reyesmomma

mrs.swan16

Elizabeth

Me and my fought horrible when I found out I was pregnant because she wanted to tell everyone and I wanted to wait. I didn't wanna be one of those people who announce it on social media and something happened and I would have to go back and explain. But since we over come that and since my daughter has been born me and my mom have been super close. That to have been the worse phone call she has gotten was when my fiancé called her and told her that her granddaughter has been born but your daughter got rushed into emergency surgery. She bawled when she seen me in ICU being hooked up to shit.

reyesmomma

Crystal

В ожидании первенца

@efflyn I know exactly how you feel because that's how I feel too my mom is over dramatic she's a high-stress person in general she gets very angry and yells a lot and freaks out over every little thing. I absolutely do not want the stress around or even just the distraction. I want to be as calm cool and collected as possible and I know for a fact with my mother there that is not going to be an option. I hope you can come to terms with yourself and do what you think is best for yourself and not what she would like.

efflyn

Stephanie

В ожидании первенца

@reyesmomma, that's exactly how I feel. I want it to be as stress free as possible, and I know that with her there I'll be freaking out and getting pissed. I'd probably even make her leave. So it's better to just not let her in in the first place, rather than give in and end up making a scene and throwing her out.

efflyn

Stephanie

В ожидании первенца

@mrs.n2014, that's fantastic 😂 I'm very honest with her about how I feel. But she likes to play the victim and act like I'm being completely awful to her.

efflyn

Stephanie

В ожидании первенца

Hasn't cared UNTIL this morning* @lizyetter_1991

reyesmomma

Crystal

В ожидании первенца

@efflyn I don't consider that to be awful at all. it's better not to have the stress and have people there that aren't necessarily wanted at that moment in time. she'll get over it and if she doesn't then it's just childish. it really is about you, your man and the baby has nothing to do with her wants. and I expecially wouldn't let anybody in the room but they're giving me dirty looks if they don't get their way. I would rather be happy and comfortable and unbothered. well as comfortable as you can be😂

efflyn

Stephanie

В ожидании первенца

That's a little different though /: My mom used to be my best friend but she's been a major bitch to me for like four years now and hasn't wanted anything to do with me. I haven't been mean to her or anything and try really hard to have a relationship with her, but she hasn't cared since this morning when I told her I was having a bunch of contractions and had some signs that labor was near. Even if something goes wrong and I have to have surgery or something, I don't want her there. I honestly would rather no one show up to the hospital until after delivery and my boyfriend and I have had some time by ourselves with our baby girl. @lizyetter_1991

efflyn

Stephanie

В ожидании первенца

I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels that way! She hasn't had anything to do with me since I got pregnant, didn't even bring me my car seat until a few days ago, and now all of a sudden she's like "I'm six hours away from the hospital, call me the SECOND you leave and I'm going to be in there!" Her boyfriend was even telling her that I don't have to call her if I don't want to, and she got all pissed and was like "she WILL call me" and gave me the nastiest look. I wish I could be a really awful human being and just not tell her until after the baby's born 😂 But I would feel so bad.@reyesmomma @bonniesue @mrs.n2014 @mamacole

mrs.swan16

Elizabeth

I wanted my mom in the room with me but I kept putting it off to call her. I still regret it to this day but I had major complications after delivery and I didn't want my mom seeing me the way I was. Plus there were about 10 nurses in the room rapidly getting me prepped for surgery, and I didn't want her getting shoved out of the room. It was a decent size room but with everything they brought in like the weight scale bed even my fiancé was shoved in a corner with our baby while they were getting me ready to go down to the OR.

mamacole

Crystal

Мама дочки (3 года)

With my first my mom was in there but this baby it's just going to be my boyfriend I don't want nobody else in there or even in the room after baby is born until I'm ready to have people visit

reyesmomma

Crystal

В ожидании первенца

I think it's completely ridiculous and selfish for mothers to try and guilt trip their daughters over stuff like this my mom's doing the same damn thing and it really pisses me off. People are so selfish and only concerned about what they want when it's not about them right now.

bonniesue

Bonnie

Мама сына (1 год)

I didn't have my mom in the room with me because I felt the same way. I knew people would come and visit and I wanted some just us time with the baby. My mom still guilts me. But I don't regret it, i just tell her to get over it.

reyesmomma

Crystal

В ожидании первенца

Girl don't give in.! I've been dealing with Mom s*** too and I just want to be me and my man for the first few weeks even. people need to respect your wants and wishes and what makes you comfortable and happy this is your moment not theirs.!!!

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