Ladies what would you do??
When I first met my hubby he was married to someone else and he was my friend and told me that another woman was saying that she was pregnant by him and whem the baby was born he told her that he would take care of the baby but wanted nothing to do with her but she said no!!! It was either all or nothing and she disappeared with the baby. When we got together we talked about it some more and now that we have children, he feels guilty and wishes he knew what happened with the little boy. He has his doughts on his paternity but the woman refused a DNA test. I always told him that he should do something and if that's his son then he should be a part of his life but I do feel kind of weird about it too. I feel like my boys won't be as important to him as they are now!! This little boy is around 13 or 14 now. I support him on whatever he wants to do but we don't even know where he lives. We found his mom on FB and she was married and living in California. What would you ladies do??
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I have told him the same thing @al_ and he thinks about it all the time. And the only reason he thinks it's not his is because he always used protection when he was with her. She was also very out there and was always messing around with different men. He was willing to take full responsibility but she didn't allow him. I think she was scared that he would find out it wasn't his. We don't know where he lives nor what his name is so it makes it harder. He might be living in Mexico as well. I will support him no matter what and will open the doors to my home if he was his son.
I would try to find the child and find out if he is the dad. If he is, that poor child has gone 14 years probably thinking his bio dad is garbage that didn't want him. Who knows what the mom told him. He won't love your kids less, they're still his too. Your children possibly have a half sibling out there. If the child comes looking for him later on there may be a lot of resentment towards the both of you for not attempting to find him. From the child and from your children as well. If I had a sibling out there and found out later on that my parents knew and my dad just wasn't sure and never pursued it, I'd be pretty mad. I'd honestly lose a lot of respect for them. Can he himself really live with never knowing? Would you be able to if you were him?
I think every child deserves to know both their parents. it might be tough at first but they both deserve to know eachother. people make mistakes but people also change ..
@mrsmord, he did make the mistake of messing around with that girl while he was still married and he has definitely changed if not, I wouldn't be with him right now lol. I'm also very curious to know if it is his son or not. I wouldn't want my son's to go their entire life without knowing their father.