Dear micro preemie moms, I'm writing this to you. When my daughter was born we were told we were 37 weeks along only to then be told the doctor before me lied to me and I wasn't 37 weeks I was 32 weeks and my baby would be born a preemie. Just a little earlier I had someone who I thought was a friend give birth to a 28 weeker. She was considered a micro preemie. I felt bad but I also had my own issues to deal with with my preemie daughter. When she was born our lives were a nightmare. I cried when they took my baby away without telling me why, I sobbed openly on the floor of the nicu when I finally got to see her 2 days later. I cried because I couldn't touch my baby because she was too sick for even her mother to touch her. I was an empty shell when they told me I had to go home with out my baby. I had no life expect when I went to see my baby ever 2 hours. We may not have been a micro preemie but we were still preemie parents. The first time I posted about my 34 weeker during preemie awareness month I had a micro preemie mom attack me because my baby was as "preemie" as hers therfore I didn't deserve to call my baby or my self a preemie strong mom. You're wrong. I may not have had a micro preemie but a preemie is still a preemie no matter what the size or gestation. So as an open call to all micro preemie moms, don't look down on "regular" preemie moms just because you think you have it harder, because the truth is we all have it hard. Your not some how more entitled to the name preemie mom because of the micro before it. EVERY preemie mom is Preemie strong and every preemie mom deserves to be loved and felt like she can make it through by the support of other preemie moms. Stop the hate inside a group of women who need all the support they can get. I in know way want to make anyone angry, but the truth is when micro preemie moms put down "regular" preemie moms they do themselves an injustice. Stop the hate embrace the love.
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@tater4414, thank you I'm sure your little guy will be also I'm praying he gets to stay in longer.
Thats incredible. You have such a strong boy!!! @tristan-makes-5
@tater4414, he had surgery and they took a piece of his rib and put in between his vocal cords when he was 3 and you would never know if it wasn't for the scars on his chest and neck.
I would! its messed up if ppl who are supposed to be friends are not sticking up for you. I have very few friends for that exact reason. they're flaky as hell.
I'm trying so hard to do that but she talks to other people who are supposedly friends and it hurts they would listen to it and instead of telling her to shut her mouth and suck it they accept it and. I totally want to say screw her so bad but at the same time what about all the people who are supposedly my fired s who I know she talks to about me? @michellevaldez4750 i can say screw them and tell them to suck it right?!
That's a horrible feeling when you go out of your way for someone who turns out to be like her :( you seem like a nice person though, I'd try as much as possible just to ignore her and don't let it affect the way you are. You know you are a survivor, screw what she thinks. right?
Psh. She had never ever tried to do anything but tear me down. It's crazy because u was they're at the hospital with her as they kept her on bed rest I would text her all time to see how her and baby were doing. @michellevaldez4750
@tater4414, exactly, that's why it's pointless to even try reasoning with someone like that.
I agree, I'm not sure how some people do it but man its like their life goal to make other people try and feel bad. @michellevaldez4750
and after reading the comment too it's definitely something that is wrong with her. She is a miserable person and unfortunately there's not much you can do for ppl like that except feel sorry for them, it's got to be a shitty way to live constantly looking for negativity :'( I'm so sorry you became the victim of her bullshit!
I have never had a preemie but you are so right! you are dealing with so much with a baby in nicu and health issues it's got to be the scariest feeling in the world! I think it's crazy for another mom to be so cruel when they of all ppl should be understanding and supportive!!
Wow, I'm so sorry that happened to your boy. Nicu moms are rock solid moms. @tristan-makes-5
my now almost 8 year old was born at 32 weeks and was on the nicu for a month having 2 other kids at home made it hard i hated Leavingt him there. my oldest who is 13 was only 2 days early and was in the special care nursery for 2 months his vocal cords were paralyzed. if are babies are sick or need extra help we should all be there to help not make things worse. @tater4414
My baby girls three day NICU stay was the most heartbreaking experience ever. Whether early term like my baby, preemie or micro preemie we moms that had babies in the NICU for any amount of time need to stick together and build each other up not knock each other down. @tater4414
I think it takes a lot of strength to be a mom in the first place, but it definitely take a lot to go through a nicu stay. I wish I could more in depth explain how hard it just how much it takes out of you to do any length of nicu stay. @brenking
I agree, I understand micro preemie moms are in for a long time, but I guess that's why I expect them to understand how to comfort other preemie moms. It's just crazy that some micro preemie moms feel the need to hurt other preemie moms. @diamondleann
I'm sorry anyone would be so mean! I'm a ftm and so I have no idea the strength needed to be a preemie mom. Reading your story was just a glimpse into the emotions felt. It sure made me cry just thinking of it. Thank you for sharing!
That's beyond bitter and I have no idea why someone would waste their life doing something like that rather than lifting up those who need the support. My first born son was born at 25 weeks weighing 1 pound 6 ounces and we spent 4 months in the NICU so I have quite a bit of knowledge and experience. I have a friend who I help and encourage on a daily basis beside her son will spend time in the NICU once he is born. Putting down other women is beyond wrong and should be stopped. @tater4414
She is bitter as far as I can tell. She latterly has saved everytime I mention preemies and started a folder to try and prove I shouldn't call myself and baby a preemie mom and preemie baby. I really have only seen this level of hate 1 other time before. She goes around talking to "friends" about how I am less of a mom than her. It hurts. @diamondleann
Wow, congrats on your birth!!!! I agree anytime in the nicu is too long. It's painful and it is stressful to both mom, dad, and baby. I'm so happy yours wernt in the nicu very long, but I am sorry they had to be in there. All nicu moms are equal. And all need support and love!! @twinmommy2016
What I don't understand is why someone would put you down.... I am a Micro preemie mom but I would never put another woman down. Everyone of us has the pain and struggle of giving birth before it's time and going home while our baby has to stay in the hospital so there shouldn't be any putting anyone else down because they are regular preemie moms.
Yes!!!! My girls were born at 38 weeks, but stopped growing at 34 weeks. Because they were twins they were still measuring tiny even then. I was blessed that they made it 38 weeks with their lungs and didn't need help, however, one of my daughters spent 2 days in the NICU. I'm so blessed that it wasn't longer and very lucky that my preemies made it longer in the womb so they were only small in size. NICU mommies are incredible. I'm not sure how you guys do it day to day. I was a mess with only 2 days. I couldn't see her because my girls couldn't be together and our hospital didn't have a regular nursery. The nurses wouldn't stay with one while I went to the NICU. Micro preemie or preemie, even late pre term preemies. They all require moms of strength. You and your baby are fighters. To belittle you and make you feel less is just heartless. Just because your baby wasn't AS premature as hers, doesn't make you any less of an amazing mom and her a strong fighter. Hugs mama!!
Haha they don't lose the strong will that's for sure. That awesome, I love hearing about preemies who grow up and have babies of their own because black then they shouldn't have survived because of the lack of knowledge about preemies. @nygirl3rdbabymiami
Yes they are strong willed babies I 've heard .My sister is completely healthy and acutally gave birth to twins who are now 10 yrs old &her; pregnancy went well
Wow! That's incredible!!! You had one strong mom. It's amazing how much of a fighter all preemie babies are. Truely amazing. @nygirl3rdbabymiami
wish you and her well ♡my oldest sister was born when my mom was 7months pregnant that was back in 1974,she weighed 1 &a half pounds it took her about a month½ to be 6pounds and she was able to go home healthy as can be *Believe miracles do happen*
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